Date #3?

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    Apr 17, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    Any significance to people for a third date? I've gone on dates with 6 or 7 guys and none have ever reached a 4th date, for various reasons. I usually give a guy at least a second chance if it didn't completely bomb...but I feel after 3 you have a good idea about the guy.

    The reason I ask? Tuesday night I had drinks with a guy from Grindr (I know, I know). Now usually I talk to a guy for a couple weeks, become facebook friends with the guy so I can get some background and make sure he's not a complete creep. I did neither this time.

    Date 1 - We met at a bar in between us, he was even better looking than the one pic I saw, and we had a good get-to-know-you type of convo for a couple hours. Ends with handshake...He texts me while I'm on my way home to tell me he had a good time...and we agree to Date 2

    Date 2 - We went hiking with our dogs in a rural area...deserted. I've never let my dog loose before (even at home) - but he had his loose and something about the whole situation made me comfortable. Turns out my dog can be pretty social and well behaved when she wants to be. Anyway, he opened up a lot which I liked and we really were able to make each other laugh. Date ends with another handshake and I make sure to be first to let him know I had a good time.

    Now our plan B if it rained today was to go out for sushi....so we decided we're both down to go on Tuesday. Unlike the other 3rd dates I've reached, I'm really into this guy. He's laid back, easy to talk to, a regular guy, and I'm attracted to him. I want to hit the gas a little and let him know I want to pursue this...but don't want to go all out. He's the only guy I've dated that makes me smile when I think about him.


    CLIFFS - Met guy, sense some chemistry on both sides, moving slow so far, but want to make sure he knows I'm interested physically and not just friends.

    Any advice??
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    Apr 17, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    You're doing well. A kiss on the lips will provide a welcome signal. It does not need to be a full make-out session. But a goodbye kiss says what you need to say without going overboard. Just let it all be natural without any pressure on him or you. Good luck!
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    Apr 17, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    aren't you supposed to do it on the third date? Do that.
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    Apr 17, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    oh my goodness, just tell him.

    "I'm attracted to you. I want to hit the gas a little and let you know I want to pursue this...but don't want to go all out and scare you off, but you're the only guy I've dated that makes me smile when I think about you."
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    Apr 17, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidoh my goodness, just tell him.

    "I'm attracted to you. I want to hit the gas a little and let you know I want to pursue this...but don't want to go all out and scare you off, but you're the only guy I've dated that makes me smile when I think about you."


    lol i can do that...but where's the mystery?? I'm not playing hard to get, I told him I had a good time I just want to be more flirty for date 3
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    Apr 17, 2011 2:06 AM GMT
    CTguy1 said
    dustin_K_tx saidoh my goodness, just tell him.

    "I'm attracted to you. I want to hit the gas a little and let you know I want to pursue this...but don't want to go all out and scare you off, but you're the only guy I've dated that makes me smile when I think about you."


    lol i can do that...but where's the mystery?? I'm not playing hard to get, I told him I had a good time I just want to be more flirty for date 3


    Seriously it's a third date...do you or don't you want a fourth?
    How about the mystery that he won't know how you feel and he goes on a second date with a guy who tells him what you should have?
    "I had a good time." Is for guys you're just hanging out with.
    Maybe it's not the case, but there are way to many guys waiting for the other one to make the first move.
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    Apr 17, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    CTguy1 said
    dustin_K_tx saidoh my goodness, just tell him.

    "I'm attracted to you. I want to hit the gas a little and let you know I want to pursue this...but don't want to go all out and scare you off, but you're the only guy I've dated that makes me smile when I think about you."


    lol i can do that...but where's the mystery?? I'm not playing hard to get, I told him I had a good time I just want to be more flirty for date 3


    Seriously it's a third date...do you or don't you want a fourth?
    How about the mystery that he won't know how you feel and he goes on a second date with a guy who tells him what you should have?
    "I had a good time." Is for guys you're just hanging out with.
    Maybe it's not the case, but there are way to many guys waiting for the other one to make the first move.


    I'm actually gonna disagree with you. I think laying out feelings on the table on the 3rd date is a no-go. Telling the guy that he's the only one who can make you smile, after two previous meets, makes you sound desperate and clingy.

    Get a little physical. Get a little kissing action going, and they'll know that you're progressing slowly and hitting the gas. Invite them over to your house for dinner or some shit.
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    Apr 17, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    Actions speak louder than words. Choose your action. Let it speak for you.
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    Apr 17, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    Let him know you're interested in him by giving him physical signals like rubbing his shoulders or back. When the timing is right, lock in to his eyes and let him kiss you. Draw him in. Better do it fast before you get stuck on the dreaded friend zone.
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    Apr 17, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    I would just like a first date (ever). icon_neutral.gif
  • chgobuzz1

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    Apr 17, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    A lot of guys just fall into sex on the third date. But I would begin to communicate that you are into him and want to move forward. Then at least kiss. But be sure to communicate and ask what he wants and expects. Just falling into sex without discussing where this goes I think could work against you on a third date.
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    Apr 17, 2011 10:47 AM GMT
    On date 3 your supposed to put out. You better douche!
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    Apr 17, 2011 12:40 PM GMT

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