is it cheating to give someone your number that is across from U.S. from where you are and give him your face pic?

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    Apr 18, 2011 5:11 AM GMT
    I felt bad because I am in a relationship and I gave a guy my number and my face pic...he didn't call me but text me. what do you guys think?
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    Apr 18, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    If that is cheating, I'd hate to know what introducing yourself to another person and shaking his hand is considered.
  • mikey_101

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    Apr 18, 2011 11:38 AM GMT
    did you give him your number and picture because you find him attractive?

    If you are having lustfull thoughts about him, you have made the first step in setting yourself up for temptation.

    What is the tone of your txt relationship?

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    Apr 18, 2011 11:40 AM GMT
    Depends on u ... If u r giving them for just a Friendship then its ok ... if u giving for something else ... then i think so
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    Apr 18, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    Is it something you hide from your other half?
  • Profire

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    Apr 18, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    kaoi saidIs it something you hide from your other half?


    Exactly.
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    Apr 18, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    Are you kidding me with this?

    It all depends on what your intentions are? If it's for something sexual then, yes, it is cheating. It's like pouring gas on a fire. Wooooooooosh.

    If you are just looking to make a friend and had a good platonic chemistry then it's a "No harm, no foul" deal. If it's just friendship then let your other half know about this and don't keep it a secret otherwise it just looks suspicious.
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    Apr 18, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    Neekidboi saidI felt bad because I am in a relationship and I gave a guy my number and my face pic...he didn't call me but text me. what do you guys think?


    Nahhh it ain't...and Don't fall for that Jimmy Carter...lust in my heart bullshit....BUD
  • toybrian

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    Apr 18, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    I do not think so either. I gave someone in New Zealand my name and pic of me but do not think we may meet in person anytime soon or in the future. He was having a problem and wanted someone to talk to about it and I offered a good opinion on his problem from another angle. Would like to meet in person someday but honestly doubt if we will meet but like talking to him on here. Good luck to you but do tell b/f that you are talking to other guys on here to be sure there will not be any problems for you in the future.
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    Apr 18, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    ask yourself this, if he came into town today, would you tell your partner about it? does he even know about your partner? Does he even know you're a devil in bed? lol the last part was for humor icon_twisted.gif nietherless if you answered no on any then you might wanna put on Gretchen Wilson-"when i think about cheating"
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    Apr 18, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    Unless u dont plan on ever seeing the guy then its not cheating. If ur having lustful thoughts then its harmless flirting. as long as u dont do anything like visit the guy then ur fine.
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    Apr 18, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    If you had the mindset of unfaithfulness then you might as well have cheated. Just because the other guy stopped short doesn't mean you weren't willing to do something if he hadn't.

    "As a man thinks in his heart so is he."
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    Apr 18, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    If you have to ask other people if it's cheating, it probably is on some level.
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    Apr 18, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    You can do anything you want if you're not in a committed, monogamous relationship. If you're in one, the question you need to answer is whether you intended to "cheat" when you gave out your phone number, etc. And, even if you intended to cheat, you have not actually cheated unless you've done the deed. In any event, while I won't judge your motives and actions, I personally will not put myself in the precarious position you're currently in if I'm in a monogamous relationship.
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    Apr 18, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    Ask your boyfriend and then tell us what his answer is. Communicate, it's not that hard. If he's OK with you socializing with others, which I would hope he would be, then you're good to go. Personally it doesn't seem like an issue to me. Being in a relationship, does NOT mean you have to be a hermit under a stone you know!
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    Apr 18, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    Agree with the others...this depends on you. Having friends is a good thing, but if the intention is sexual, you need to have a discussion with the bf (especially if the relationship is monogamous).
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    Apr 18, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    Not if he's in Canada.
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    Apr 18, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Well sir, it sounds a bit sketchy if your guy is any bit intuitive he may want to better understand what kind of relationship you would wish to have with this person if they lived closer, or maybe why you encouraged picture sharing and what that would lead to...
    But I'm sure you know him and yourself well enough to understand what/how "cheating boundaries" really apply to your relationship.icon_question.gif
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    Apr 18, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    Depends on intentions I think
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    Apr 18, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Are you serious?!?! Or is this a rhetorical question?

    If it is cheating, then I've been "half-cheating"(face pic) with all members of RJ. omg I'm such a slut!!!!!!!!
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    Apr 18, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Two questions:

    Are you harming any party in this situation, possibly even yourself?
    Are you breaking your partner's trust in you?

    Coming to the forum to ask if your actions were cheating probably gives you the answer already in relation to your values.
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    Apr 18, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    It is all about motive and how you and your partner have defined cheating. Infidelity does not solely entail physical cheating. Emotional cheating is still very real and may sometimes hurt even more.

    Why did you make this connection? For friendship, or something deeper?

    Asking strangers advice about this subject shows that you have already made up your mind and seek validation, or soothing. Why do you need this validation? Everybody defines cheating to their own perspective. You need to find out what your and your partner's definition entails.

    In dubio abstine.
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Apr 18, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    If you don't want to tell your SO about it, then yes, it's cheating.
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 18, 2011 8:45 PM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidIf you don't want to tell your SO about it, then yes, it's cheating.


    Yes, but is it cheating just a little bit...or cheating a lot....there is a difference ya know....icon_wink.gif
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Apr 18, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidIf you don't want to tell your SO about it, then yes, it's cheating.


    Yes, but is it cheating just a little bit...or cheating a lot....there is a difference ya know....icon_wink.gif


    True, kind of like being a little bit pregnant or a lot pregnant. icon_biggrin.gif