Cuddling as friends

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    Apr 18, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    I use an application for the iphone that shows people in your area and lets you chat with them. I'm just looking for friends at the moment to hang out with. The people I talk to want to cuddle, I don't really know if its right to cuddle with a guy as friends, so here I am asking the question, is it alright to cuddle with another guy as friends?
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    Apr 18, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    spooning leads to forking.

    That is all.
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    Apr 18, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    Chainers saidspooning leads to forking.

    That is all.


    this is generally true. for it to be otherwise, there needs to be an established rapport and clear adult communication. it's possible to have platonic intimacy which can be greatly enriching, but often it goes against the nature of how our bodies react in close proximity
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    Apr 18, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    I can cuddle with friends (with some limits), both male and female, but they have to be friends. I can't really see myself cuddling with some random stranger off the internet.
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    Apr 18, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Lorac saidI can cuddle with friends (with some limits), both male and female, but they have to be friends. I can't really see myself cuddling with some random stranger off the internet.


    For me, they have to be female friends who know Im gay. If not, it leads to bad times.
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    Apr 18, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Lorac saidI can cuddle with friends (with some limits), both male and female, but they have to be friends. I can't really see myself cuddling with some random stranger off the internet.


    For me, they have to be female friends who know Im gay. If not, it leads to bad times.

    Right?
    I love to cuddle and all... but if it's with a guy I'm kind of attracted to... I cannot stop my body.
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    Apr 19, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    Chainers said
    Lorac saidI can cuddle with friends (with some limits), both male and female, but they have to be friends. I can't really see myself cuddling with some random stranger off the internet.


    For me, they have to be female friends who know Im gay. If not, it leads to bad times.

    Right?
    I love to cuddle and all... but if it's with a guy I'm kind of attracted to... I cannot stop my body.


    Well, I'm bi but I can still cuddle with friends of both sexes, but as I said: with limits. I'm not talking about spooning in bed, just leaning and cuddling up while watching movies, heads on or arms around shoulders, that sort of thing.

    I think the friends thing has something to do with it - I know these people, we've known each other for years and since there's been no sexual or romantic attraction so far, cuddling feels safe.
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    Apr 19, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Chainers saidspooning leads to forking.

    That is all.


    What he said.
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    jaybird680 saidI use an application for the iphone that shows people in your area and lets you chat with them. I'm just looking for friends at the moment to hang out with. The people I talk to want to cuddle, I don't really know if its right to cuddle with a guy as friends, so here I am asking the question, is it alright to cuddle with another guy as friends?


    I think the people on Grindr are probably looking for sex, not friends. haha
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    Yvrtwink said
    jaybird680 saidI use an application for the iphone that shows people in your area and lets you chat with them. I'm just looking for friends at the moment to hang out with. The people I talk to want to cuddle, I don't really know if its right to cuddle with a guy as friends, so here I am asking the question, is it alright to cuddle with another guy as friends?


    I think the people on Grindr are probably looking for sex, not friends. haha


    Yeah I gave up on grindr pretty much lol
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    I downloaded Grindr in VietNam/Thailand last summer because I thought it would be a fascinating chance to observe how something like that is used in a non-Western country. Turns out it isn't used, at least not very much. The economics/infrastructure don't yet allow for ubiquitous personal telephony. But I had a few interesting conversations with random people, both locals and ex-pats. But a few weeks after returning to the States I deleted the app because the number of messages became ridiculous - it was like an entire evening just to chat with four or five people. There are too many other things I want to be doing.

    And yes, I also quickly saw that the main goal of most people was "forking", not just verbal spooning.
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    Never have, that would be weird for me.
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    Yes its no problem for me !!
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    Apr 20, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    I only cuddle with someone who feels like to be more than a friend.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Apr 20, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    When I was in the marines, I used to cuddle quite a bit with my straight friends when we would watch movies and stuff. It was fun!
  • rebelbeard

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    Apr 20, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    I've cuddled with a couple friends before. It was actually pretty cool. You just have to be open to it.