Animus saidThey're only sexually incompatible because they're forcing themselves into an anal paradigm. Topping or bottoming isn't a part of being attracted to another guy. Why bother if you don't even like it?
While you are correct in a sense. Being attracted to a guy is about being attracted to the guy (although I am rather attracted to a nice arse also) having sex with the person you are attracted to emotionally and physically is another way of expressing your desire for them.
But Animus, I think there is a bigger underlying issue for you and your very.. erm.. almost loud stance that we here at RJ don't know about (or at least i don't) for your reasons.
SO.. Newbiebottoms wants to rim his man.. his man doesn't want him too for what ever reason.. His man needs to understand that sex isn't all about him.. Newbiebottom obviously feels desire to be sexually intimate with his man in every way possible.. that includes shoving his tongue up the guys arse.. SOOOOO they need to either find a way around it so both people are happy or.. well.