How did u start your first relationship with another guy?

  • Newbie123

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    Apr 20, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    These days,more often than not, i feel some kind of depressed/lost after a day.then i suppose it's time for me to say hello with someone else. i really dont know how people start that. is it too hard?

    how did you get together with your partners,guys? Details would really be appreciated.
  • shiningstar

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    Apr 21, 2011 10:00 AM GMT
    unfortunately i m in the same situation,cant help u
  • masculumpedes

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    Apr 21, 2011 12:13 PM GMT
    Newbie123 saidThese days,more often than not, i feel some kind of depressed/lost after a day.then i suppose it's time for me to say hello with someone else. i really dont know how people start that. is it too hard?

    how did you get together with your partners,guys? Details would really be appreciated.



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  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    Newbie123 saidThese days,more often than not, i feel some kind of depressed/lost after a day.then i suppose it's time for me to say hello with someone else. i really dont know how people start that. is it too hard?

    how did you get together with your partners,guys? Details would really be appreciated.



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    many thx. I suppose it is easier for one to know another,straight or not, in some country but not mine. there is still a long way to go. Naturally, people wont expose themselves, you know.
    So how about begin like this; 'hey man, r u...?' icon_eek.gif

  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    shiningstar saidunfortunately i m in the same situation,cant help u




    A hug! icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 21, 2011 1:50 PM GMT

    Met online actually, chatted for a few weeks and decided to meet up in between work and classes (for both of us). We just sort of started dating after a month versus just hanging out…there was no official “will you be my boyfriend?” so it was sort of an ideal situation with no weirdness. Was awesome while it lasted.
  • Celticmusl

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    Apr 21, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    With sex, and lots of it. We ended it pretty much the same way.
  • rnch

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    Apr 21, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidWith sex, and lots of it. We ended it pretty much the same way.




    Lucky Man he was!


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    Apr 21, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    Newbie123 saidThese days,more often than not, i feel some kind of depressed/lost after a day.then i suppose it's time for me to say hello with someone else. i really dont know how people start that. is it too hard?

    how did you get together with your partners,guys? Details would really be appreciated.



    I stopped meeting men with a relationship in mind BEFORE I met them.

    Doug's Rule; I went out every evening; it could be a club, a bar, a bistro for an evening coffee, a magazine store to browse, you get the idea. I had to talk to one person I didn't know. Man woman tall fat short skinny old young, it didn't matter. Then I could go home. Often I was back home within 1/2 hour of going out. Guess how many people I met over 5 years? LOL!

    Your personality develops, your inter-personal skills develop. These can be considered muscles just like abs and biceps, and need exercise in order to be fit. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Apr 21, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    Newbie123 saidHow did u start your first relationship with another guy?
    Met him on a construction job.
    Went to his house and sexed him for lunch.
    Moved in with him that evening after work.
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    CaptainMyCaptain said
    Met online actually, chatted for a few weeks and decided to meet up in between work and classes (for both of us). We just sort of started dating after a month versus just hanging out…there was no official “will you be my boyfriend?” so it was sort of an ideal situation with no weirdness. Was awesome while it lasted.



    yeah, maybe that's why i'm here now.BUT it's kind of unrealistic to date with a guy here,RJ. i mean, we can chat but seas depart us. icon_cry.gif

    actually, i tried to contact someone else, but it never seems easy. sometimes, i just need a dude to talk to without any fear, you know, in actual life, i may never tell anyone about whom i am.
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidWith sex, and lots of it. We ended it pretty much the same way.



    SEX, ahha! As i said, sex is a everlasting theme here in RJ. NO offense!
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    [quote]Doug's Rule; I went out every evening; it could be a club, a bar, a bistro for an evening coffee, a magazine store to browse, you get the idea. I had to talk to one person I didn't know. Man woman tall fat short skinny old young, it didn't matter. Then I could go home. Often I was back home within 1/2 hour of going out. Guess how many people I met over 5 years? LOL!

    Your personality develops, your inter-personal skills develop. These can be considered muscles just like abs and biceps, and need exercise in order to be fit. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug [/quote]


    quiet impressive! Now i wanna chat with you,so that i'll be kind of chatting with the guys you've talked to. keep in touch, man
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    Apr 21, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    icon_neutral.gifyea i know how u feel. try being friends, then lovers. if u can't be ur true self and honest with them about urself, then ur not ready for any kind of relationship, friend or bf.
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Newbie123 saidHow did u start your first relationship with another guy?
    Met him on a construction job.
    Went to his house and sexed him for lunch.
    Moved in with him that evening after work.




    So that what you really did? WOW, very impressive! icon_surprised.gif
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 21, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    slatons_jeremy saidicon_neutral.gifyea i know how u feel. try being friends, then lovers. if u can't be ur true self and honest with them about urself, then ur not ready for any kind of relationship, friend or bf.



    And that's why i dont know how to start!
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    Apr 22, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    bring them to your home.

    lock em in the basement so they can't get out

    instant relationship!

    lol
  • nubScotty

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    Apr 22, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    First boyfriend, met online talked for like a month via AIM/Text/Phone. First date was grabbing dinner and than we went shoe shopping cause he just got a new job and needed new shoes, lasted three years.

    Second boyfriend, met online(again) we emailed for a day, texted one night and than I asked him out to a movie at like 10pm, saw "Despicable Me", lasted a total of six months.

    Guy Im currently seeing, met him online(running theme in my life). Emailed about 15 times on Sunday night, texted for about an hour back and forth, I asked if I could call him to ask him out and we ended up going out on Monday. Grabbed dinner and movie, than sat in car for a while where I made my move icon_cool.gif. Saw him a total of 6 times in the first two weeks we met, and am still currently seeing him, about 1.5 months now; however there isn't a label yet just enjoying each other's company icon_biggrin.gif
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 22, 2011 11:23 AM GMT
    SoCalScotty saidFirst boyfriend, met online talked for like a month via AIM/Text/Phone. First date was grabbing dinner and than we went shoe shopping cause he just got a new job and needed new shoes, lasted three years.

    Second boyfriend, met online(again) we emailed for a day, texted one night and than I asked him out to a movie at like 10pm, saw "Despicable Me", lasted a total of six months.

    Guy Im currently seeing, met him online(running theme in my life). Emailed about 15 times on Sunday night, texted for about an hour back and forth, I asked if I could call him to ask him out and we ended up going out on Monday. Grabbed dinner and movie, than sat in car for a while where I made my move icon_cool.gif. Saw him a total of 6 times in the first two weeks we met, and am still currently seeing him, about 1.5 months now; however there isn't a label yet just enjoying each other's company icon_biggrin.gif



    I get it. i have to say internet is playing a very important part! thx
  • shiningstar

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    Apr 27, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
    Newbie123 said
    shiningstar saidunfortunately i m in the same situation,cant help u




    A hug! icon_cry.gif

    haha,thanks
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 27, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    I think the very best thing is, whether online or in person to be positive, friendly and have no expectations. I can tell you when my partner and I first started chatting online, the last thing I thought was .. this guy and I were going to be involved. It was just a friendly discussion. The mistake comes from having expectations and second guessing.
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    Apr 27, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    He came up to me in a bar and introduced himself. We went home together. It lasted four years.
    Conventional wisdom on this site is that this never happens but in fact it does.
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    well...icon_redface.gif
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 30, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI think the very best thing is, whether online or in person to be positive, friendly and have no expectations. I can tell you when my partner and I first started chatting online, the last thing I thought was .. this guy and I were going to be involved. It was just a friendly discussion. The mistake comes from having expectations and second guessing.



    i'm afraid you are right... yesterday afternoon, I encouraged myself to contact with a friend online(kinda friend, 'cause i dont know what we are now. not very familar with each other,just a cup of liquor and a chat)
    Maybe there are expectations in my mind. I began with an inquiry of everyday life with a expectation of his asking in turn. But he seemed not to be that active. So i just quited it and made a decision that I would never contact him first until he call me. kinda wierd, we are not in the same city now, and i just dont quite sure about how to make a nature contact. I mean, if he is just someone i wanna make a friend with, i can handle it well. but when it comes to 'expectation' , i'm confused!
  • Newbie123

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    Apr 30, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    TexDef07 saidHe came up to me in a bar and introduced himself. We went home together. It lasted four years.
    Conventional wisdom on this site is that this never happens but in fact it does.



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