about having kids

  • michaelsloan

    Posts: 54

    Apr 21, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    well, this is kinda weird since i haven't got myself a boyfriend yet.

    but i just wonder that how many gay guys wanna have kids in the future, adoption or surrogate.

    for me, i wanna kids. i think that is a key to a long long happy married life. the kid is like the connection, always something both are concerned about.

    i don't know how u guys think about this. just curious, if i tell someone i wanna kids, are all guys gonna be scared away?
  • nubScotty

    Posts: 282

    Apr 21, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    Myself, I've wanted the whole 2.5 kids, pets, white picket fence since as long as I can remember. Was part of why I struggled so much coming out, because I didn't see that as a viable option being gay and having a family. However it is something I talk about when on date's and actually had a guy end things with me because I wanted kids and he longer did (he had 15 years on me).

    As for guys being scared away, it depends on the type of guys you go after, and it is something that can end a possible relationship, as mentioned above. Just all part of the process of getting to know a guy, and seeing if you two mesh. There are definitely guys out there who want a family life and kids etc, and there are guys out there who the closest thing to a kid that they will want is a dog.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Apr 21, 2011 8:24 AM GMT
    I like kids but I don't want to have deal with raising any!
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    Apr 21, 2011 8:37 AM GMT
    Mixleanmachine saidI like kids but I don't want to have deal with raising any!


    Great! you've just been approved. Let's get married!

    SoCalScotty saidAs for guys being scared away, it depends on the type of guys you go after, and it is something that can end a possible relationship, as mentioned above. Just all part of the process of getting to know a guy, and seeing if you two mesh. There are definitely guys out there who want a family life and kids etc, and there are guys out there who the closest thing to a kid that they will want is a dog.


    I was in a 2 yr relationship with a guy who wanted kids. He was my current age but I was 17! Every once in awhile the subject would pop up and it'd just scare the daylights out of me.

    Then again he used to also mention traveling internationally and that scared me too, but now I would have loved to do that! I guess I was just at a different point in my life...

    However, and this is just my opinion don't beat me up...being that I was always somewhat of a mamas boy growing up; and had 3 brothers and 1 dad, deep down inside I still think a kid needs to have a mommy. So kids for me would not be an option...

    michaelsloan saidfor me, i wanna kids. i think that is a key to a long long happy married life. the kid is like the connection, always something both are concerned about.


    Kids have also kept couples that should have been divorced...together. Don't think of kids as the glue holding the relationship together. That's not good for them nor you.