Porn stars, escorts and prostitutes......

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    Apr 21, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Ok, so me and my friends somehow got on the topic of dating guys who do porn. I stated that if you could date someone who does porn that logically you wouldn't have a problem dating an escort or a prostitute. Some agreed, some disagreed, I ask you..... what's the distinction? All 'professions' are having sex with virtual strangers for cash, having a camera film it doesn't make it any more legitimate than escort or basic prostitute. What do you think?
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    Apr 21, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    I think it would just mean you wouldn't mind dating someone in an open relationship. Regardless of the scenario you would have to be okay with them having sex with other individuals.
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    Apr 21, 2011 5:31 PM GMT
    To me there is a difference between an open relationship and someone in the sex industry.

    One is a job, the other is for pleasure. I would be OK dating someone in the sex industry, but would not be OK with an open relationship. Many porn stars have openly stated that sex outside of the camera is completely different to them.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 21, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    I don't think I'd want to date someone who has sex for a living. I knew someone who worked at a Starbucks and most of the time they were like "If I have to look at one more cup of coffee...."
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    Apr 21, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    Chainers saidTo me there is a difference between an open relationship and someone in the sex industry.

    One is a job, the other is for pleasure. I would be OK dating someone in the sex industry, but would not be OK with an open relationship. Many porn stars have openly stated that sex outside of the camera is completely different to them.

    Agree for the most part. would be difficult dating someone in the industry, yes it is work. however like in Hollywood many people fall in love on the job. Granted the sex in porn is scripted there's still the possibility that a connection could be made. Think i'd always be a bit insecure that my partner would fall in love with a co star but. Out of the three i'd definately rather date a porn star
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    Apr 21, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    Is there such thing as a gay proctologist?
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    Apr 21, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    I personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady
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    Apr 21, 2011 9:29 PM GMT
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    Timbales saidI don't think I'd want to date someone who has sex for a living. I knew someone who worked at a Starbucks and most of the time they were like "If I have to look at one more cup of coffee...."
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    wow...changed my mind with one quote.
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    Apr 21, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    Chainers saidTo me there is a difference between an open relationship and someone in the sex industry.

    One is a job, the other is for pleasure. I would be OK dating someone in the sex industry, but would not be OK with an open relationship. Many porn stars have openly stated that sex outside of the camera is completely different to them.
    ^^^this
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    Apr 22, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI don't think I'd want to date someone who has sex for a living. I knew someone who worked at a Starbucks and most of the time they were like "If I have to look at one more cup of coffee...."


    Exactly. My ex-partner had a night job at a 'classy' porn store years ago. I couldn't stand the idea. People don't go there for a haircut. Needless to say our sex life decreased drastically and eventually parted our ways years later.
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    Apr 22, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.
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    Apr 22, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
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    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.

    easy way to change that... stop putting that stigma on them.
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    Apr 22, 2011 9:52 AM GMT
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    bobbob23 said
    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.

    easy way to change that... stop putting that stigma on them.


    That would require a paradigm shift of not only the individual but of society as a whole. And that's not the easiest of things to do lol.icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:17 AM GMT
    bobbob23 said
    lilTanker said
    bobbob23 said
    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.

    easy way to change that... stop putting that stigma on them.


    That would require a paradigm shift of not only the individual but of society as a whole. And that's not the easiest of things to do lol.icon_confused.gif

    Who gives a flying fuck what society thinks. It's you who needs to change and if you sit there and use "it's to hard" as an excuse to stay the same.. well.. good luck with that.
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:41 AM GMT
    I think porn is different to escorting. It's a legitimate industry (assuming they are employed by a major studio) and they would only be having sex in controlled circumstances, with 'pre approved'/screened scene partners. That is quite different to a quick fuck with any old stranger in a hotel room.

    At least with porn you can see who they are fucking!
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    Apr 22, 2011 12:07 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    bobbob23 said
    lilTanker said
    bobbob23 said
    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.

    easy way to change that... stop putting that stigma on them.


    That would require a paradigm shift of not only the individual but of society as a whole. And that's not the easiest of things to do lol.icon_confused.gif

    Who gives a flying fuck what society thinks. It's you who needs to change and if you sit there and use "it's to hard" as an excuse to stay the same.. well.. good luck with that.


    I think you missing my point. I agree with you in the sense that what society thinks shouldn't dictate your life and that if want to date a prostitute or porn star then you should do it regardless of what people think of you or him. But my point is that the stigma will still be there whether you care about or not and that getting rid of the stigma is not something that can be easily done. People tend to be stuck in their mind sets.
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    Apr 22, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
    Porn stars, [and] escorts and prostitutes......oh my!
  • awm55

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    Apr 22, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    People have this idealistic view of the porn industry. In reality most porn actors have psychological/emotional issues, are involved in drugs, and come from rough upbringings. It is also one of the few industries where you effectively close yourself off from any real job once you quit. Its nice to have the open minded attitude but its not the reality of the situation.
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    Apr 22, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    awm55 saidPeople have this idealistic view of the porn industry. In reality most porn actors have psychological/emotional issues, are involved in drugs, and come from rough upbringings. It is also one of the few industries where you effectively close yourself off from any real job once you quit. Its nice to have the open minded attitude but its not the reality of the situation.


    Thank you!

    But watch it, you will get the entire RJ community on you, plus the porn actors it has on here telling you porn actors are as normal as everyone else.

    To answer the OP's question, add Rihanna to that list and I'd say there's no difference, it's all the same.
  • Jwusn

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    Apr 22, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    I used to do porn and its work having sex with someone your dating is completely different and a lot more enjoyable. When i dated someone it was known porn was work and that was it.

    As far as the post about those who do porn have emtional isseues and do drugs thats bull i never have done drugs and am quit sound of mind.
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    Apr 22, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    Around here porn is legal, while prostitution isn't. If you're doing porn, you'll have business contracts and pay taxes on your earnings like any other business. Ideally porn work would be controlled for the participants safety and protection, including sexual health and OSHA. Prostitution would not carry the safeguards against infection, violence, etc.
    An escort is a prostitute who is trying to skirt the laws. Unless someone's just paying you for companionship and no sex is involved, that escort is a prostitute.
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    Apr 22, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    It kinda depends on how you define a porn star. Is a guy who does tons of solo naked photo shoots a porn star? Or is it someone who is videotaped having sex with a hundred guys a week? In the first case, I don't think it'd be like dating a prostitute or escort at all. *Inserts two cents, receives gumball.*
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    Apr 22, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    But it is still sex for money. Some escorts don't even do the deed, some just go on dates. Also, in escorting you meet the person and decide if it goes anywhere from there, right? I'm not up on the rules, I'm not a disgusting person, but I've heard that.

    Also, an interview with a porn producer said there are 3 people in porn: people with psychological issues, money issues (be it drugs, addiction, etc) and the rest just aren't that bright. Logically, though, its still sex for money. Having contracts and lawyers just gives the illusion of it bring something else, it is still sex.... for.... cash
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    ATX611 saidBut it is still sex for money. Some escorts don't even do the deed, some just go on dates. Also, in escorting you meet the person and decide if it goes anywhere from there, right? I'm not up on the rules, I'm not a disgusting person, but I've heard that.

    Also, an interview with a porn producer said there are 3 people in porn: people with psychological issues, money issues (be it drugs, addiction, etc) and the rest just aren't that bright. Logically, though, its still sex for money. Having contracts and lawyers just gives the illusion of it bring something else, it is still sex.... for.... cash


    yup, basically. no one with any self respect or long term goals would have sex on camera for money. i would not say you are ruining your life, but it does close a hell of allot of doors.
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
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    lilTanker said
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    ATX611 saidI personally don't see the distinction. Having a camera present doesn't make any less shady


    you got a point ultimately the concept is the same "sex for money". But the stigma attached to being a prostitute is far worse than the stigma attached to a porn star. I suppose that's why someone would much rather date a porn star.

    easy way to change that... stop putting that stigma on them.


    That would require a paradigm shift of not only the individual but of society as a whole. And that's not the easiest of things to do lol.icon_confused.gif

    Who gives a flying fuck what society thinks. It's you who needs to change and if you sit there and use "it's to hard" as an excuse to stay the same.. well.. good luck with that.


    I think you missing my point. I agree with you in the sense that what society thinks shouldn't dictate your life and that if want to date a prostitute or porn star then you should do it regardless of what people think of you or him. But my point is that the stigma will still be there whether you care about or not and that getting rid of the stigma is not something that can be easily done. People tend to be stuck in their mind sets.

    again who cares what society thinks. Life is to short. If anyone is concerned about a relationship your having with a person that is filled with love and care and helps bring out the best in both people then who gives a damn what stigma society places on you.

    Also, if people are going to prejudge you and your relationship and not be able to look past that well they honestly aren't people worth knowing.