the ex wants sex

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    Apr 22, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    My ex from back in late 2009 is literally begging to have sex with me. (It's so not going to happen, though.) Has this ever happened to you?
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 22, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Apr 22, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    yup ....!!
  • Chunner

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    Apr 22, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    YES and it's NOT a good idea. Mine still had feelings for me even though he pretended to be totally fine. We tried being friends and then after 2 hangouts he begged to sleep with me. It happened and then right after we did it he burst into tears and confessed his undying love for me. I felt really bad.
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    Apr 22, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    Did he end it or you?

    I dated a guy who dumped me twice. Then one day we are talking alone in the steam room and we both get boners. We went back to his place and had great sex. The sex continued for six months and it started to feel like a relationship and the most stable period of this on again off again affair. Then he gave me another one of his many ultimatums and it ended for the third and last time.

    Another time I had a brief six week affair with a guy I wasn't that attracted to. Five years later we met up and started hanging out as friends. Initially he invited me many times back to his place but I never took him up on the offer. Three years later (now either years since our six week affair) he told me he doesn't like hearing about my dates because he still has the hots for me and it make him jealous. I guess some guys can't move on.
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    Apr 22, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    He has asked me to, recently even; and my response, as always, was: NO!

    I've been celibate by choice for over a year and Lord knows he's had his fair share of sex with other people since we broke up. From a recent email he sent me, I'm not quite sure he's over the relationship. I've moved on and only desire a wonderful friendship from him; but as for what he wants, I don't know.
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    Apr 22, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    Chattman91 saidMy ex from back in late 2009 is literally begging to have sex with me. (It's so not going to happen, though.) Has this ever happened to you?

    Good for you! Stick to your guns. I was in that position many many years ago when I was dumped yet he still wanted to have sex. My thought were..."uh uh. You can't have your cake and eat it to"... He wanted the best of both worlds without the responsibility.
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    Apr 22, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Ex sex can be very good sex. As long as it's not a recent ex. Yes, I've 'begged' and been 'begged'. Actually, no. No one beg, it kinda just happened...
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    Apr 22, 2011 1:51 PM GMT
    Is he the top or the bottom? If he is a top, maybe you should only agree on the condition you top his ass. icon_twisted.gif Naw, not worth it. Tell him to move on and stop being such a loser and find his own sex mate.
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    Apr 22, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    rjb2001 saidIs he the top or the bottom? If he is a top, maybe you should only agree on the condition you top his ass. icon_twisted.gif Naw, not worth it. Tell him to move on and stop being such a loser and find his own sex mate.


    LOL He's a total bottom.
  • Tiller66

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    Apr 22, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    Well that's the problem you gave it to him too good.Yes my ex did'nt really ask but I was feeling the vibe in the air.I did'nt tell him no but I did tell him taht their would be no bb since we were'nt together anymore,he did'nt like that so it's never come up again.
  • SomeSiciliano...

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    Apr 22, 2011 2:50 PM GMT

    Yes....I did not think things though and gave in. Not too bright on my part and got messy.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 22, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    I've never had a bf who is an "ex". My ex's are all females and none are going to get me for sex.

    LOL

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  • rnch

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    Apr 22, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI've never had a bf who is an "ex". My ex's are all females and none are going to get me for sex.

    LOL

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    your current non-ex is a lucky man!


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    Apr 22, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    ex sex, especially if it's recent is generally a bad idea.
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    Apr 22, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    Yes, and it is a baaaaaaaaaaad idea, basically nothing has changed but being in a relationship. So you went from in a relationship with sex, to no strings attached sex; basically a free-swingin, open-ended, polyamorous love stew..... avoid at all costs
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    Apr 22, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    Yup.
    And he was the one who dumped me.
    And he was in a new relationship.
    And it happened multiple times over a couple of years.
    And he's an ass.
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    Apr 22, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    If the ex lacks pecs, like Chex and is named Rex then sex is a hex like TexMex.
  • huntershunk

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    Apr 22, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    my ex and i became great friends and yea we continued to have sex.
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    Apr 22, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    I'm usually the "dumper" so, yeah, sex with the ex is OK if I'm feeling it. And it has to be on my terms.
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    Apr 22, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    Chattman91 said
    rjb2001 saidIs he the top or the bottom? If he is a top, maybe you should only agree on the condition you top his ass. icon_twisted.gif Naw, not worth it. Tell him to move on and stop being such a loser and find his own sex mate.


    LOL He's a total bottom.


    lol, tell him to move on.
  • needleninja

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    Apr 22, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    lol so not happening. X3
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    Yes. However, having moved 2,000 miles away has made it easy to answer with a no. Not sure how it would turn out...but I could see it getting annoying if we were to sex it up on a visit back home. If he's asking for it now, I'm sure it would only continue over time and I'm looking toward the future, not the past.
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    They are called "Ex's" for a reason. Just remember that and you should be fine.
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    Apr 22, 2011 11:25 PM GMT
    Chattman91 saidMy ex from back in late 2009 is literally begging to have sex with me. (It's so not going to happen, though.) Has this ever happened to you?

    What... had an ex? had someone beg to have sex with me? someone (anyone) have sex with me?
    No. No. No.
    Although Tex-Mex ex-sex hex sounds interesting...