Well, foremost, I agree with paulflexes when he says “I think love will come when you least expect it.” That is what happened with me. The characteristics you are looking for of ‘smart, funny, driven, muscular/athletic, down-to-earth, masculine and attractive’ are all great in a profile description, but there is a significant human element that fills in the gaps in between all of those things. No one can ever be smart, funny, driven, muscular/athletic, down-to-earth, masculine and attractive ALL of the time. I definitely fell in love with the bits in between.
I’d go so far as to say you may not know what you really want at this point, or you may find that what you want isn’t what you need. This is all just talk though, I think in the end you just need to get out and about, meet people, and if you can, be ‘out’ when you are doing things you enjoy. This way you can run into other guys with similar interests, inside the bedroom and out.
A little story, my partner asked me out three times and I said no each time… and meant it. The third time, I think it was, I was relaxing at a local bar in the evening after running the Pittsburgh marathon with 4 siblings. It was sponsored by Dick’s Sporting Goods. He came up to me and said something like ’ooh, Dicks!’ I rolled my eyes and thought, ‘please’. Ha ha. Cracks me up now, because it was so out of character for him, but he was trying to be cool (or something!). He then went on to tell me that a lot of people wants his ‘digits’ and that I should take them. He wrote them down and I kept the napkin for whatever reason. I then saw him conducting a concert a week or so later, I was intrigued and gave him a call after all. I am grinning ear to ear typing this because it is so hard to know anything about a person in those first few encounters.