Aversive to romantic feelings

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    Apr 22, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    Since the last time Ive fallen for someone, and wound up back in a temporary emotional gutter, I am now no longer interested in dating, not kissing, not anything... thoughts of developing feelings for someone makes my head hurt and my eyes feel hot .. its not hopelessness, just more of a sort of conditioned aversion... Its comparable to an aversion to a certain type of food after food poisoning... Anyone had this kind of experience? Does it take long to get over an aversion to romantic feelings? Is this something I should try to tackle or just let it run its course (usually me letting my feelings run their course ends in disaster hehe icon_razz.gif i have to contain them at all times)
  • 2PecanDeBeurr...

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    Apr 23, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    I will always be a romantic, that's who I am.
    It's like riding a bike or a horse, you get up and ride again.
    You love/ demonstrate to them romantically yet they do not reciprocate.
    Within the last 9 months, I still love and in love with one male who had to be removed from my life last August.
    Appreciation that I gave romantically,having no regrets a satisfying fulfillment.
    j.c.
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    Apr 23, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    I vowed celibacy and heralded death to all men after getting used and played with.

    I'm still celibate, but I don't think all men should be tossed to a fiery death ;)
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    Apr 23, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    In all honesty, I do know what you mean. I've pretty much relegated myself to the celibate life as well. It would take a very remarkable guy to convince me to allow an emotional connection.
  • mybud

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    Apr 23, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    Man ....you let it run it's course but it's not an aversion...it's more like you eat chicken for months....you get sick of it and eat steak....one day...you'll think of fried chicken...you mouth waters....your back on chicken,,,Until then stick with steak....and love it and yourself...BUD
  • alphatop

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    Apr 23, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    Pato_Rico saidSince the last time Ive fallen for someone, and wound up back in a temporary emotional gutter, I am now no longer interested in dating, not kissing, not anything... thoughts of developing feelings for someone makes my head hurt and my eyes feel hot .. its not hopelessness, just more of a sort of conditioned aversion... Its comparable to an aversion to a certain type of food after food poisoning... Anyone had this kind of experience? Does it take long to get over an aversion to romantic feelings? Is this something I should try to tackle or just let it run its course (usually me letting my feelings run their course ends in disaster hehe icon_razz.gif i have to contain them at all times)


    I hear you. I am not romantic at all, instead I am realistic. And in real world, gay guys are predominantly bitches and drama queens, and I just can't take that crap . I don't even date guys anymore. I'd rather date a girl at this point.