Its real love.....but no lust?

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    Apr 23, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    So your in love.....hes the love of your life. He completes you, hes your best friend, he does everything for you, is so romantic, gives you breakfast in bed, takes you on trips, fixes things, tells you everyday how much he loves you, & holds you while you both fall asleep at night.

    Theres one catch.....hardly any, almost no sex.


    Thinking of my past relationship & hearing of others like this. What would you do? Is it really all just about sex?

    Its funny we will put up with bull shit from a guy if the sex is awesome, but if we have the greatest love weve ever had & theres no sexual connection its the end of the relationship.

    I think its true what they say....sex isnt everything in a relationship unless your not having any, then its everything to a relationship.

    Is it really all about sex? Would you stay in a loving relationship with no sex?
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    Apr 23, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    The word "homosexual" implies sex.
    Without it, we'd be non-sexual, which is not healthy.
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    Apr 23, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    To be honest, I don't know if I would hang around in a relationship long enough to fall in love if there was no lust.

    If I found myself in a loving relationship with no sex, I would not end the relationship hastily.
    Is the lack of sex a temporary issue or some issue that could be resolved with mental or medical treatment?
    There are ways to work around the issue. Let your partner know that without sex, you'll need to take care of your own business. He could either give you the time and space to do it on your own or watch you or strip for you etc to get you off.
    If sex with him just is not going to happen, then you could talk to your partner about having an open relationship and any rules that both of you agree upon to respect your partnership while also having a healthy sex life.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Apr 23, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    If you guys are BOTH not highly sexual people then I don't see a problem with it. People have different sex drives. I do think however that if someone wants some ass then the other should give it up or it will not work.
  • xebec75

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    Apr 23, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    real love + no sex = Friendship

    Which is ok, it's a valid and valuable form of love. We need it as much as sexual love...Sorry
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 23, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    red,its a bit of both. i do not think it is the end all of all but if you are not getting any at all then its time to have a talk. i feel like if he or she ain't giving it to me than they are giving it to someone else. now if they aren't very sexual to begin with than you might want to see if you can go for long periods without sex. i know i can't
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 23, 2011 11:06 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThe word "homosexual" implies sex.
    Without it, we'd be non-sexual, which is not healthy.
    ha ha haha as usual, leave to paul to come up with something funny even someone else is being serious
  • ohioguy12

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    Apr 23, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    You guys must be married, right? icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 23, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    Well i would stay in the relationship ...i will try to be patient .. don't show for him u need sex .. make him get horny about u .. and he will ask u ..


    Love + Sex = Relationship
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:21 AM GMT
    Are you not feeling the heat when he is holding your hand until you fall asleep? But then how do you fall asleep when he is holding your hand? Would you not kiss him when he says how much he loves you? try and I am sure that will be the beginning;)
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Apr 24, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    VenkyJock saidAre you not feeling the heat when he is holding your hand until you fall asleep? But then how do you fall asleep when he is holding your hand? Would you not kiss him when he says how much he loves you? try and I am sure that will be the beginning;)



    Ahhhhhhh as always my dear eternally and hopelessly romantic Venky you hit it right on the spot! as you stressed the getting you and your partner into a romantic mood is a good start for lust to kick in, which then can lead to great sex in all its glory! when are gay men going to get it that when emotions are mutually intertwined in a relationship that IT can lead to great sex. Venky and I know this is possible and that it does exist! Tantra: a union between emotions and sex is widely thought after in Asian cultures. It is unfortunate that western cultures do not practice it, as we seem too caught up in a power struggle, that more often then not usually lead us to a life filled with all kinds of separations within the social fabrics of a very emptied and superficial life.


    Leandro ♥