couples having 3 somes

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    Apr 03, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    lately ive been asked to do a 3 sum with couples, and i find that very strange! personally if my man wants a 3 sum..i end the relationship right away!...i find that very disrespectful ...what guys think?
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    Apr 03, 2008 11:11 PM GMT
    It's the couple's choice, so that should not bother you in any way. Just always be 'the guest', it's fab!
  • hardync

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    Apr 13, 2008 11:56 PM GMT
    My partner and I really enjoy having a threesome, it adds some spark to our relationship, however we really love another and know where the fun stops.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 14, 2008 12:27 AM GMT
    Depends. I'm in a relationship, but there are times where I'd like to mix it up a little. I think another couple would be logistically more doable.
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    Apr 14, 2008 7:45 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidDepends. I'm in a relationship, but there are times where I'd like to mix it up a little. I think another couple would be logistically more doable.



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    Apr 14, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    It depends... If MY bf wants a 3some things will get ugly icon_lol.gif I don't like to share him with anyone... and I'm not a big fan of 3somes anyway. I've never tried it and I'm not eager to...

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    Apr 14, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 said


    Tim - I'm volunteering. Want to audition me?


    no I'm blushing.

    I've never done that, but if I do I'll keep you in mind. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 14, 2008 3:50 PM GMT
    I met a young Montreal couple in Provincetown who wanted to do a threesome with me in 1991. They were too shy to initiate it and I was too stunned to figure it out icon_redface.gif.

    I did not find out until I went to Montreal a couple of months later and called on them. They were upset I did not stay with them (I did not want to impose), and that is when they spilled the beans.

    It turns out one of the reasons they wanted an addition to the mix was one member of the couple could not "bottom" so they wanted someone else to be the "receiver" so to speak. I would not have had any moral issues helping out, but I think I would have failed in the designated role. I am a better pitcher than catcher (in sex that is not baseball).

  • Apr 15, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    When I first realized I was gay I didn't think I'd ever have a threesome. A few years later I thought.. well maybe, but definitely not with a couple. Then I had a threesome with a couple and after a few minutes of feeling funny I thoroughly enjoyed myself. Now I'm in my own relationship and I would love to watch my man screw a hottie and maybe join in on the action icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 16, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidDepends. I'm in a relationship, but there are times where I'd like to mix it up a little. I think another couple would be logistically more doable.



    Me too Tim. Don't forget me and my partner. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Sirkit

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    Apr 16, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    I was in a relationship where threesomes were part of the general mix of things. It was interesting and a lot of fun. My only issue was the potential for disease transfer so we were always super safe with people outside the two of us. It depends on the dynamic of things though, some relationships are fun to do that with, others are NOT.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 16, 2008 10:09 AM GMT
    Hey ...
    if guys want to do it hang from the trees

    I find it much better as a fantasy myself
    speaking as a human being...a gay one at that
    you always like one of the two a wee bit more than the other

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    Apr 21, 2008 4:37 AM GMT
    Personaly I have never been in a relationship in which this was an issue. However I have played the third party role several times. What I have found is that, it does have to be the couples decision, and there has to be a certain amount of understanding from the other person. You obviously have to realise that you are just there as company. Also the couple obviously needs an understanding of how to handle any issues that arrise. Other than that it can be an amazing experience one I would love to have again. And if you are comfortable doing it then I say enjoy. Just be prepared, open, and honest.
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    Apr 21, 2008 2:01 PM GMT
    i'm single, but i've many 3somes with couples in my life. and we've always had fun. They like it. I like it. So, it depends on people.
  • bradsmith

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    Apr 24, 2008 2:29 AM GMT
    As long as the couple's relationship rules permit it, 3-ways...or more can be fun. If you're hung up about it, then politely say "no thanks"...but I wouldn't knock it until you've tried it.

    And yes, there's usually an imbalance in attraction between participants...but the mark of a good participant is that you either don't choose situations where you're not reasonably attracted to all participants enough...and its also a way to expand your taste...and you just might be pleasantly surprised!
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    Apr 24, 2008 5:52 AM GMT
    Sometime couples need a "guest star" for the evening. What's so bad about that?
  • Koaa2

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    Apr 24, 2008 7:02 PM GMT
    My partner and I have a 3 way now and than, he likes watching me get fucked while I suck him, turns us both on. No harm done.
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    May 02, 2008 12:04 AM GMT
    I got a few couples who call and ask me to cum play with em from time to time
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    May 02, 2008 12:16 AM GMT
    sexcpillz saidlately ive been asked to do a 3 sum with couples, and i find that very strange! personally if my man wants a 3 sum..i end the relationship right away!...i find that very disrespectful ...what guys think?


    I'm in the middle with this one because being single I don't feel too guilty if I play around with a couple if I feel comfortable with it. However, I've always said in the past that in a one on one relationship I'd never want a "threesome" and have lived my life accordingly.... BUT, I've always looked at a "threesome" as just a hook up. Then someone posed a "what if" situation that made me think...

    Someone asked me once what if it was more than sex? What if it was an exclusive threesome where you all lived together and shared the love equally? That might be interesting and I might be open to something like that. I do know at the root of it all is the desire to create something that is exclusive.
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    May 02, 2008 12:38 AM GMT
    It does depend on the relationship. I have been in a couple 3 and 3ways. I was also in a relationship in which we had a couple 3ways to spice it up.

    The current relationship that Im in though I would not allow that to happen. Probably because we did the whole marriage and vow exchange and I take my vows seriously. that and I cant picture him with another man wo being jealous.
  • Koaa2

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    May 02, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    I think we Americans get love, committment and sex very confused. I think religion did this to us. I am not sure how having sex with another human means you love someone less or are not committed to a relationship. It is all screwed up if you ask me, and if we try to follow straight guidelines it is even worse. I don't think there is one answer, and if we try to find one, it fucks everything up.
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    May 10, 2008 4:13 PM GMT
    what can make this 3 way shit intresting is when i get a call late at nite from one of them who sez his partner is outa town, hes horny as fuck and needs it reeeeeel bad icon_smile.gif
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    May 11, 2008 6:19 PM GMT
    I found myself in 3-somes a few times when I first came out and didn't care for them.

    Now (a hundred emotional years later), I think a threesome could be very interesting depending upon what each man brings to it (psychologically). If there is a foundation of compassion, patience, and affection, "splitting" one's attention between two people, and being OK with them focusing on each other, can be . . . expanding.

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    Jul 11, 2008 7:46 PM GMT
    We do 3somes once in a while because it's hot as hell LOL but we are secure in our relationship...Most guys just can't do it so they go cheat lol If you are not secure enough in the love that bonds you both together as lovers, then it wont work, I would not recomend it for new relationships, unless u were good friends before u started dating.
    If the sex part is discussed before u meet the 3rd, and all parties know what is expected and what role they will play, then it should be an awesome time.
  • puttputt

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    Jul 11, 2008 8:10 PM GMT
    I've done a few 3somes with couples and they are way better than random 3somes. Couples usually have a groove that you get sucked into... random 3somes can easily get sloppy and confusing.