Being single...as if you don't hate it too!!!

  • Silent_Angel

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    Apr 03, 2008 11:05 PM GMT
    Wow ok so I'm single and well i guess theres nohing wrong with that...he only problem is when you know you feel it...like it s juat a little emptyness.that lonelyness...idk..i was just kinda feelilng it todsay and thought i might say something..that and ..i liek this guy right...adn i could swear that he would alomost never notice me...and it is just kinda ..hurtful...you know?
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    Apr 04, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    i hate being single..but then again i have too much going on for me with my education and work to get too caught up..although i do miss having someone to cuddle with and just spend time with....last time i was in a formal relationship was two years ago, and i recently met someone and got close but we never we really partners..but that ended, so meh, the world keeps on turning
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    Apr 04, 2008 2:09 AM GMT
    My first LTR..about 4 years...cost me about a quarter of a million dollars. Be careful what you wish for?
  • Timbales

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    Apr 04, 2008 2:10 AM GMT
    If anyone wants to borrow my bf for awhile, let me know. He likes the 'guy next door' type.
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    Apr 04, 2008 3:15 AM GMT
    Caslon saidMy first LTR..about 4 years...cost me about a quarter of a million dollars. Be careful what you wish for?



    im intrigued...do go on
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    Apr 04, 2008 3:29 AM GMT
    Moudi said[quote][cite]Caslon said[/cite]My first LTR..about 4 years...cost me about a quarter of a million dollars. Be careful what you wish for?



    im intrigued...do go on[/quote]

    Let's just say I invested in him and he turned out to be a poor investment.
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    Apr 04, 2008 3:35 AM GMT
    Caslon said[quote][cite]Moudi said[/cite][quote][cite]Caslon said[/cite]My first LTR..about 4 years...cost me about a quarter of a million dollars. Be careful what you wish for?



    im intrigued...do go on[/quote]

    Let's just say I invested in him and he turned out to be a poor investment.[/quote]

    my mind is still wandering off as to what u might have invested...lets speak technically here..what rate of return did he have? icon_lol.gif and better yet, did u conduct a thorough financial risk analysis before u made this investment?
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    Apr 04, 2008 4:13 AM GMT
    No, I just invested in his dream to make him happy.
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    Apr 04, 2008 4:14 AM GMT
    Caslon saidNo, I just invested in his dream to make him happy.


    u killed my financial interest rate talk...boooo!!!!
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    Apr 04, 2008 4:17 AM GMT
    ...oh...and let me add ....may he rot in hell!

    I havent seen him in years. I have no knowledge of how he is doing. And I dont want to see or know about him.
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    Apr 04, 2008 4:19 AM GMT
    Caslon said...oh...and let me add ....may he rot in hell!

    I havent seen him in years. I have no knowledge of how he is doing. And I dont want to see or know about him.


    i second that to a past ex..may he rot in hell as well....lets have a gay bashing party on our exes and eat chocolate?
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    Apr 04, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    As far as being single goes, yeah it sucks at some points, but right now my life is far to hectic for me to be involved with a serious relationship. Don't get me wrong I love to sleep next to someone. My ex and I slept in the same bed together for a long time so I got used to it, and I'm still getting used to sleeping alone again, but Its nice to have someone next to you.
  • cityguy39

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    Apr 04, 2008 4:56 AM GMT
    I'm very recently single, well the relationship ended long before he moved out. I'm getting used to being alone again. This was my first time living with someone, I know now I can do it, just with the right person. The hardest thing about being alone is the silence that gets loud as hell sometimes. I miss him but it was the right thing to do.

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    Apr 05, 2008 4:07 AM GMT
    [quote]As far as being single goes, yeah it sucks at some points, but right now my life is far to hectic for me to be involved with a serious relationship. Don't get me wrong I love to sleep next to someone. My ex and I slept in the same bed together for a long time so I got used to it, and I'm still getting used to sleeping alone again, but Its nice to have someone next to you.[/quote]

    I know what oyu mean i still cuddle with a pillo w and when i sleep and wake up late at night i am still expecting someone to be next to me ...
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    Apr 05, 2008 5:06 AM GMT
    Not to put a damper on all of this single talk, but I have to say that sometimes I love being single. Sure, I've started seeing someone from a distance, but I find that when I am single I have the time to sit back and just kind of enjoy the lessons that life has given me. Time to grow and get myself ready for whatever happens to be next.

    However, I also have 2 kids that I love spending time with. And I wouldn't trade this time with them for anything. But there are a couple things that scare me. I don't want to grow old alone and single. And there will be a day when I want more than just my kids and friends.

    I want someone to enjoy all the adventures that are left. But maybe it just isn't the right time...

    The last 2 relationships that I was in I found that I had to trade so much of the real me to make them work, that I welcomed getting out of them. My next relastionship won't be that way. So maybe they were just steps to happiness.

    I guess we'll see.
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    Apr 05, 2008 8:40 AM GMT
    Silent_Angel saidWow ok so I'm single and well i guess theres nohing wrong with that...he only problem is when you know you feel it...like it s juat a little emptyness.that lonelyness...idk..i was just kinda feelilng it todsay and thought i might say something..that and ..i liek this guy right...adn i could swear that he would alomost never notice me...and it is just kinda ..hurtful...you know?

    Yeah, everything you said is right on. But almost ironic huh? Nothing wrong with it, but yet an emptiness exists from the loneliness that is kinda hurtful.

    You'll be fine man. I'm going through similar times. It's great to relearn how much you can do unrestricted, but that loneliness yips and whines at times to remind you that there's that part of the human self that needs to some attention.
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    Apr 05, 2008 7:43 PM GMT
    I don't know if anyone agree's with me, but I think that you should learn to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with someone else. Because if you still have that void, you'd probably will end up rushing or throwing yourself at someone and not truely appreciating who they are.......


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    Apr 05, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
    Respectyourself saidI don't know if anyone agree's with me, but I think that you should learn to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with someone else. Because if you still have that void, you'd probably will end up rushing or throwing yourself at someone and not truely appreciating who they are.......


    That'd be 5 dollars please icon_smile.gificon_twisted.gif


    I will give you 10 bucks for the excellent advice.
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    Apr 05, 2008 8:15 PM GMT
    I think to sum it all up - being single sucks: especially when you have no control over the reason for your singleness (i.e. work, school, etc). That's where friendship is supposed to attempt fill the void - temporarily suffice. It's not perfect, but do more stuff with friends. If you have little or no friends around [like me]... nows a good time to make friends.

    A lot of times we look for boyfriends when we really need a solid group of friends...
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    Apr 05, 2008 9:25 PM GMT
    Being single can sometimes be lonely, quiet, a little depressing - but it is better than being in a relationship with the wrong person.

    Think of being single not as a drag or lonely, but as a chance to be free to meet and date new, fresh guys! There are so many men to meet - you can't know what good situation is right around the corner! Keep in mind - you may never meet a soul if you're sitting on your sofa at home - so get out! Go someplace! Join up with friends and just DO something!
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    Apr 06, 2008 4:02 AM GMT
    I was in a party mood yesterday on a boat...until I was introduced to a visiting gay couple who's getting married next year. They looked happy and so was I... until depression crept in. I stayed in the bar inside the boat and people noticed something was up. I told them "tummy upset".
    I went home on a cab with a minor panic attack. Glad I was too tired and just slept it off.
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    Apr 06, 2008 4:18 AM GMT
    zimatar saidI was in a party mood yesterday on a boat...until I was introduced to a visiting gay couple who's getting married next year. They looked happy and so was I... until depression crept in. I stayed in the bar inside the boat and people noticed something was up. I told them "tummy upset".
    I went home on a cab with a minor panic attack. Glad I was too tired and just slept it off.
    I don't understandicon_neutral.gif


    eh, i dont like meeting happy gay couples nowadays...makes me feel the same way...i dont understand either...why is it so hard to get a boyfriend!
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    Apr 06, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    Why couldnt we have had the internet when I was young?!?!

    You can shop from your armchair. And look at these gorgeous young hunks!
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    Apr 06, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    eh, i dont like meeting happy gay couples nowadays...makes me feel the same way...i dont understand either...why is it so hard to get a boyfriend! [/quote]

    I love meeting happy gay couples... It gives me hope. Especially when they are in a monog relationship.

    I never want to have to settle for less than what I deserve. But when I see two beautiful men, and even the ugly ones, in love my heart is so full.
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    Apr 06, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
    Kissingpro...you nailed it!