To be a man!

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    Apr 24, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    To be a man you must have honor... and a penis. That I know to be true.

    But seriously, what is it to be a man? Specifically, what sort of things did your dad teach you about being a man growing up? I'm really interested in what behaviors/traits are seen as being manly.

    I've learned that men don't apologize when they're wrong, for whatever reason. They just work hard to make up for it in the future. What else is manly for a guy to do?







    Note: This isn't a thread about pushing social conventions or anything. Just give me basic manly, thanks!



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    Apr 24, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    Animus saidTo be a man you must have honor... and a penis. That I know to be true.
    I've known a few honorable pre-op transvestites. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    To me...and the way I was raised... a man is:
    Honorable
    Humble
    Loyal
    Faithful
    Courteous
    Kind
    Hmmm, kinda sounds like a Boy Scout, huh?? Well, a good Boy Scout has the foundations to become a GREAT MAN !!
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidTo me...and the way I was raised... a man is:
    Honorable
    Humble
    Loyal
    Faithful
    Courteous
    Kind
    Hmmm, kinda sounds like a Boy Scout, huh?? Well, a good Boy Scout has the foundations to become a GREAT MAN !!


    Good grief, we went to different schools together! It was the same for me.

    -Doug
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    I think what we're gonna end up finding as this thread progresses, is that ALL the qualities previously attributed to "real men" (with the exception of a dick) are also qualities that many women and transgenders have as well.

    So, instead of saying a "real man" has those qualities, it would make more sense to say a "respectable human being" has those qualities. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    I get the joke....but these principals were NOT learned in school...they were learned at home, as it should be.
    I have three brothers and three sisters...all of whom I dearly love and KNOW that I am equally loved. We are the product of GREAT parents...all cut from the same cloth.
    Sadly, I see these qualities lacking in younger generations....
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    Sadly, I see these qualities lacking in younger generations....



    Conversely, I see these qualities greatly refined and demonstrated in the younger set.

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    -Doug
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidSadly, I see these qualities lacking in younger generations....
    You're just not looking at the right people. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
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    Friendsrbetter saidSadly, I see these qualities lacking in younger generations....
    You're just not looking at the right people. icon_wink.gif


    Yeah, you're right...it was a generalization that should NOT have been said.
    I take it back....mostly.
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    Apr 24, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    Animus said
    I've learned that men don't apologize when they're wrong, for whatever reason. They just work hard to make up for it in the future. What else is manly for a guy to do?


    I disagree. A man takes responsibility for his actions, right or wrong. If he was wrong then the man would apologize. It's the child that tries to distance himself from a mistake.
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    Apr 24, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    Animus said
    I've learned that men don't apologize when they're wrong, for whatever reason. They just work hard to make up for it in the future. What else is manly for a guy to do?







    Note: This isn't a thread about pushing social conventions or anything. Just give me basic manly, thanks!





    Is it not manly to take an ownership for your actions which is right/wrong?
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    I think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.

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    Apr 24, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI think what we're gonna end up finding as this thread progresses, is that ALL the qualities previously attributed to "real men" (with the exception of a dick) are also qualities that many women and transgenders have as well.

    So, instead of saying a "real man" has those qualities, it would make more sense to say a "respectable human being" has those qualities. icon_wink.gif


    ^^^^^^^ This! +10 Paul
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.


    That's actually called being a human being. Being a "Real man" is just a facade in what society expects men to be, whether it be "This" or "That". Period.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
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    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.

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    Wo wo wo you know it
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    Animus saidTo be a man you must have honor... and a penis.

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    I'm going out on a limb here and assuming you're making a reference.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    UberBane said
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.


    That's actually called being a human


    Nah, chicks are really emotional and like to talk about their feelings
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:14 AM GMT
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    UberBane said
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.


    That's actually called being a human


    Nah, chicks are really emotional and like to talk about their feelings


    Theirs absolutely nothing wrong with being emotional and express your feels as a guy.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.


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    Apr 24, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    UberBane said
    wowgamer92 said
    UberBane said
    wowgamer92 saidI think being a man is able to suck it up when it gets tough and not act emotional.


    That's actually called being a human


    Nah, chicks are really emotional and like to talk about their feelings


    Theirs absolutely nothing wrong with being emotional and express your feels as a guy.


    Once in a blue moon its good but too much then you just become a women
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    Animus saidTo be a man you must have honor... and a penis. That I know to be true.


    Thomas Beatie (the 'pregant man') wasn't born with a penis and he's legally recognised as a male today. You can see he's become a man too in having the deep voice, hair trimmed short, facial hair, and the clothing he chooses to wear.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
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    Animus saidTo be a man you must have honor... and a penis.

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    I'm going out on a limb here and assuming you're making a reference.

    I love crayon shin-chan! Too bad the creator passed away...icon_sad.gif Here's another pic. Love the eye brows!!
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    To the OP, I think to be a man is to own up to responsibilities and having the courage, honor and integrity to face the obstacles of life. Call me an idealist I dunno.

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    Apr 24, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    My dad didn't teach me anything about being a man... except that you have to be a "machista" asshole. He's a fucking mid-20th century born Mexican, what can you expect.

    I have made it my mission to be the opposite of what he is in every way.

    That being said, a man should be:
    honest, decent, hard-working, able to defend himself and those around him that need help, real, masculine, kind, a gentleman, a real buddy.
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    Apr 24, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    CHIdude said He's a fucking Mexican, what can you expect.



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    YAY for sweeping generalizations!