You ever take a break from sex/porn/JO?

  • Apr 24, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    I'm just wondering if anyone on here has ever temporarily reduced or stopped pursuing sex (or watching porn or jacking off). Because I'm in that boat right now -- not for entirely bad reasons, but it's a new situation for me and I hope it ends soon!

    Little background: I had some health problems for a while and gained a lot of weight from the medications' side effects, about 100 lb. This was over a 10 year period, and it pretty much shut down my sex life. During that time, porn was my sole sexual outlet.

    Now that I've gotten better and gotten back into shape, I've finally realized that I don't have to desperately chase every sexual opportunity as if it were my last chance to have my penis touched. Because I had been doing that for the last couple years, with predictable results.

    What I'm discovering is that I'm having to re-orient myself sexually from porn to real life. Whenever I do watch porn, it's like I'm one of Pavlov's dogs. Hell, all I have to do is haul out the laptop while in bed and I start getting hard before I even launch a browser. This is not good.

    So I've deleted all my porn, tried to stop viewing porn online as well as temporarily cutting down on masturbating (I'd been whacking it so hard lately the damn thing just *hurt* !), and not chasing after every guy who shows the slightest interest.

    I'm not sure if this counts as a "break," but it's definitely a slowdown, or at least a course adjustment. I don't know. All I know is that I'm somehow not "on" anymore. At least not right now.

    But oddly enough, because I'm more relaxed about my approach to sex and dating, another part of me has become a little anxious about my degree of relaxation. It really is an entirely new experience for me.

    So what I'm wondering is, have any of you guys ever stepped back, taken a break, slowed down, whatever, from your sex life? And how did it work out for you?
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    I delete my porn when I start to realise that I've accumulated a lot that I've only watched a few times and wonder if I need more human contact but on the other hand it does curb my promiscuity icon_lol.gif It is a quick fix but so much of it is unsatisfying. I have noticed that my attention span for some human contact is lessened because of porn (like if a blow job takes too long. A bj never takes too long!).
    I have tested myself on how long I could abstain from jacking off and that has lasted two weeks. I sometimes see it as a gauge for how rewarding I've spent the day. If I'm achieving a lot and getting jobs done, by the end of the day I'm so tired that I don't jack off and I notice that if that makes any sense.
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    my interest in porn drops automatically when i'm interested in someone. i have the opposite problem. i forget to "clean the pipes" and i'm too driven, so i have to remind myself to maintain or i'll wear a man out.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    I made a six-week celibacy commitment a few months back. I went through a bad break up, and was "making the rounds" in an attempt to feel better about myself. Not surprisingly, the constant search for external validation is not an effective self-esteem booster.
    Once I decided that I wasn't going to hook up with anyone for the foreseeable future, I stopped feeling the constant need for others to find me attractive, and stopped being disappointed in myself if I left the club alone. Again not surprisingly, I started having more fun when I went out with my friends and started feeling better about myself. Who knew?!
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    May 04, 2011 8:36 AM GMT
    whenever I see porn,i want to masturbate and normally i do this and it happens 2 to 3 times a week,i want to take a break from this but i dont know how bcoz whenever i have computer i want to see porn and do masturabate
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    May 04, 2011 8:45 AM GMT
    It sounds like it's a good change for you.

    I guess my question is how do you see porn and sex with someone real as related? As long as you can maintain the notion that porn is for the most part fabricated (at least in the sense you don't have physical access to these people) and sex with a person has so many more dynamics to be apart of.

    Being conditioned to like porn isn't as serious as you think. As long as you are not expecting your next partner to be a porn star icon_smile.gif