PotatoPotato saidHe doesn't have a point at all. I'm going to go ahead and assume that everyone on this site feels that they were born gay... So you would like to identify yourself as something that you had no control over? Lame. Maybe if you're a human rights activist...brag about that. If you've won the Nobel Prize--go ahead and let the world know. If you're gay or you have green eyes...congrats? You sure did a great job getting out of that uterus.
Well now wait a second...I think you've really jumped the gun on this one!
Why shouldn't people feel proud enough of being gay that they can say, without patronizing condemnations from other gays, that they are gay first and foremost? There are members of the gay community who have been fighting for the rights of all of us for decades now!
Indeed, I think that this will continue to be a generational divide: older gays, who remember the world as it used to be, likely also remember to a greater extent the times when they were cast out by their families, shunned by their friends, excommunicated by their churches, beaten down and harassed not only by bashers, but also by cops, fired from jobs, denied housing, etc...
That these guys built a community that often supplanted the family ties that they were cast out of and created public awareness and a support structure to advocate for gay rights would, in my opinion, give them significant reason to be "gay first and foremost," and I think that calling that lame is actually quite ignorant!
I think the reality is that it was these people who effected the changes over the last two generations which have allowed many younger people to make what I think is an even MORE PATHETIC statement about their sexual orientation. Tell me if this sounds familiar: "I don't believe in labels."
Sorry, but if you're going to put me on the spot and ask me which sounds lame, I'm afraid I'm always going to say that it's the group of gays who either say they "don't believe in labels," or the group that stresses they are "straight acting gays!"
And no...I am not gay first and foremost...but whilst I was born gay, learning to accept myself was a more grueling ordeal...and so I do take some pride in the fact that I am gay...and I am still here, running this race, and living this life!