Out at Work!?

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    Apr 26, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    I inadvertently outed myself to a co-worker when we were in Dallas on a business trip. I lured him into to gay part of Dallas just to get a peek at the local culture and as we stopped into Starbucks he started talking about how hot the girls were. I can appreciate that but I did not have much to say. There was a really sexy girl at Cowboy Cool who showed interest in us and I was encouraging him to pursue it. He turned it back on me and asked why I don't go for her. After some excuses, he's like, "unless you don't like girls." Silence. He said he was just kidding and was surprised by the awkward silence but says he's cool with it. Now, my other co-worker mentioned something about some gay area in MA and uttered that she's sure I've heard of it, while my boss talks about when I'll be married, wife, etc. Now, I'm semi-out because of my co-worker but I think it will cause problems if the word spreads because it is a small, family-oriented business.

    Anyone ever been in a similar pickle?

    Let's share...;)
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    BomDiaBen saidI inadvertently outed myself to a co-worker when we were in Dallas on a business trip. I lured him into to gay part of Dallas...


    The inadvertently part loses a little validity when the setup starts with you purposefully luring a co-worker to a gay area.
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    BomDiaBen saidOut at Work!?
    And your point is...?
    I've been out at work for years. It's not a big deal.
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:35 AM GMT
    gay-friendly.* the area isn't overtly gay. It is just West Village.
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    BomDiaBen saidOut at Work!?
    And your point is...?
    I've been out at work for years. It's not a big deal.





    The point is that you can still get fired for that. Not every employer is so understanding.
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    Meh, if I ever got fired for being gay I wouldn't want to work for that organization anyway. Fuck that noise.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    My employer is very gay friendly and offers domestic partner benefits to same sex couples. I was outed at work on my very first day when an extremely flamboyant gay friend of mine walked in my store to congratulate me on my new job and gave me a great big hug and a kiss on the lips. It turned out not to be a big deal at all. I was always out with my former employer too and had no problems.
  • hawkeye7

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    Apr 26, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    just be honest in todays america you have to be the consequenses are not worth it anymore and no business wants the bad press of firing someone for being gay, I learned that one
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    All my coworkers know I am gay. They don't give a crap. I also work in a very liberal industry.

    I could understand your concern tho. goodluck!
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    BomDiaBen said
    paulflexes said
    BomDiaBen saidOut at Work!?
    And your point is...?
    I've been out at work for years. It's not a big deal.





    The point is that you can still get fired for that. Not every employer is so understanding.
    It's a lot easier to find another job than it is to live a lie.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    hawkeye7 saidjust be honest in todays america you have to be the consequenses are not worth it anymore and no business wants the bad press of firing someone for being gay, I learned that one
    +100
    If you get fired for being gay, get the media involved. They'll eat that shit up.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    BomDiaBen said
    paulflexes said
    BomDiaBen saidOut at Work!?
    And your point is...?
    I've been out at work for years. It's not a big deal.


    The point is that you can still get fired for that. Not every employer is so understanding.
    It's a lot easier to find another job than it is to live a lie.

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    Apr 26, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    i work at Target, so hell no!
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    kinda sounds like he already knew you were gay and he was just confirming it...
    but ya I'm out with my biz partners they don't care. They try to set me up with guys all the time actually haha
  • docbailey2005

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    Apr 26, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    Not only am i out at work i'm the only black guy on my dept. there are two of us openly gay. Not an issue at all.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    BomDiaBen saidI inadvertently outed myself to a co-worker when we were in Dallas on a business trip. I lured him into to gay part of Dallas...


    The inadvertently part loses a little validity when the setup starts with you purposefully luring a co-worker to a gay area.


    LOL I was going to say the same thing. When you "lured" someone, you already set yourself up to be outed. Since you used that word, I was even thinking that you had an ulterior motive for bringing him along. Maybe you wanted to see whether he would loosen up with some alcohol in him? Not that I have tried it or would ever do it, but some people have. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Midas426

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    I'm not officially out at work but the other day a co-worker asked me if I was single or had a partner....so yeah my friend was right... everybody already knows. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 26, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidAll my coworkers know I am gay. They don't give a crap. I also work in a very liberal industry.

    I could understand your concern tho. goodluck!


    the porn industry is pretty liberal
  • iHavok

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    Apr 26, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    Yeah I never came out at work.
    Reached that point where people just make assumptions...mid twenties, no girlfriend, no wife, no fiance...yeah not a big leap.

    No one's come straight out and questioned me, but I'm sure if I were to drop a boyfriend comment no one would bat an eye.
    I'd still get old women making me cookies.
    Sometimes it's been being 1 of three guys in an office of 80
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    Apr 26, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    BomDiaBen saidI inadvertently outed myself to a co-worker when we were in Dallas on a business trip. I lured him into to gay part of Dallas just to get a peek at the local culture and as we stopped into Starbucks he started talking about how hot the girls were. I can appreciate that but I did not have much to say. There was a really sexy girl at Cowboy Cool who showed interest in us and I was encouraging him to pursue it. He turned it back on me and asked why I don't go for her. After some excuses, he's like, "unless you don't like girls." Silence. He said he was just kidding and was surprised by the awkward silence but says he's cool with it. Now, my other co-worker mentioned something about some gay area in MA and uttered that she's sure I've heard of it, while my boss talks about when I'll be married, wife, etc. Now, I'm semi-out because of my co-worker but I think it will cause problems if the word spreads because it is a small, family-oriented business.

    Anyone ever been in a similar pickle?

    Let's share...;)


    Yup, I'm the financial advisor for a few family trusts where the family is to the right of Attila the Hun. Not fun!
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    Apr 26, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    I work in fashion. If you're male, you have to tell people if you're straight.