skinny vs muscular

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    Apr 26, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    i generally like bigger guys that work out and i'm not attracted to guys my own size, but all the guys i try to talk to don't seem interested and the ones that are interested are slim guys like myself. so are muscle guys always looking for muscle guys and slim for slim? cause that means i have to gain weight now.

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    by muscle guys i mean big guys that are in shape. not skinny guys that are muscular
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    i got the same prob.. not that they need to be muscular.. but just bigger then me... i think like all things in life it takes time, and nothing good in life comes easy... so just gotta wait it out and i hope i will find my dream guy one day...
  • Tcrew89

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    Apr 26, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    I wouldn't gain weight just to impress someone. It really depends on the person in this matter and what they are looking for. Most buff guys I've come across are just looking for guys who take care of themselves.

    You really just need to find someone who likes you for you. I know that sounds cliche but its true. NEVER change yourself for someone else.
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    So why aren't you doing something about it?

    Not all muscle guys are looking for the same nor are all slim guys looking for the same BUT it's guaranteed that if you build yourself up your odds will increase exponentially
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    well, i wouldn't change myself for a specific person to like me, but for physical attraction, i'd like to be in the right spectrum.
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I prefer smaller guys it seems.. and they talk to me or whimper when I walk up to them then start talking hahaha
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    This doesn't really apply to me, I have gone from Vegan California guy to Muscle Head Bartender. I think my problem is just dating younger guys. The thing is I am not even looking at them half the time but I guess dorky personalities just get me every time.

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    Apr 26, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    Why are some of you making it sound like "changing" yourself aka getting fitter and in better shape is a bad thing? Besides I never said change for a specific person but get yourself in great shape and you will expand your dating pool. That's they way it is, simple as that , seriously.
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidWhy are some of you making it sound like "changing" yourself aka getting fitter and in better shape is a bad thing? Is it laziness?
    Why does a guy have to be muscled to be "fitter" and in "better shape" I know plenty of guys who are the biggest guy in the gym and they aren't fit by any means. Sure they have a stack of muscle but can barely move and god forbid they actually had to do anything with a high intensity.

    But I know a ton of smaller guys who are lean and fit without a heap of muscles who can run circles around me..

    Fitness and muscle size aren't one and the same.
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    Apr 26, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
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    beneful1 saidWhy are some of you making it sound like "changing" yourself aka getting fitter and in better shape is a bad thing? Is it laziness?
    Why does a guy have to be muscled to be "fitter" and in "better shape" I know plenty of guys who are the biggest guy in the gym and they aren't fit by any means. Sure they have a stack of muscle but can barely move and god forbid they actually had to do anything with a high intensity.

    But I know a ton of smaller guys who are lean and fit without a heap of muscles who can run circles around me..

    Fitness and muscle size aren't one and the same.


    I don't think I said get all huge and muscley did I? I guess it depends on ones definition of what muscular is.. but it still holds true.. a guy who gets himself fit and is visibily semi to fairly muscular expands his dating pool over doing nothing about it. I'm only speaking for myself mind you, my own experience in my 20's.. skinny and nothing special to look at.. Yeah I had a few dates and some bf's here and there but when I bulked up over the course of a few years it was a whole different story when I went out clubbing. I'd get hit on a lot. I don't think my personality changed and my as mentioned nothing to write home about face hadn't changed.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    rosco87 saidcause that means i have to gain weight now.


    You mean you'll actually have to work out?!

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    Apr 26, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    Avron88 said
    rosco87 saidcause that means i have to gain weight now.


    You mean you'll actually have to work out?!

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    lol, hey, i do push ups and sit ups sometimes, but yeah, it'd be pretty nice if i could just be lazy as hell and attract guys i'm attracted to at the same time. hahaha.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    I would never want a guy like Stalone. I like 'em athletic, taut, and smooth.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    rosco87 said
    Avron88 said
    rosco87 saidcause that means i have to gain weight now.


    You mean you'll actually have to work out?!

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    lol, hey, i do push ups and sit ups sometimes, but yeah, it'd be pretty nice if i could just be lazy as hell and attract guys i'm attracted to at the same time. hahaha.


    Sometimes? you are lazy, good luck to ya.

  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 26, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    ha ha ha no, i know muscular guys who have dated slim guys. i have been with slim guys, muscular, and beefy guys
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    rosco87 said
    Avron88 said
    rosco87 saidcause that means i have to gain weight now.


    You mean you'll actually have to work out?!

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    lol, hey, i do push ups and sit ups sometimes, but yeah, it'd be pretty nice if i could just be lazy as hell and attract guys i'm attracted to at the same time. hahaha.

    yeah... ya gonna have to get up and move dear... you can tell when I guy takes care of himself or he's just surviving off his metabolism
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    Go to the gym to make yourself stronger - not to impress someone else.
    It is a by-product of your workout...ie. As you workout and better yourself to be stronger, more muscular, more bulky, people who are attracted to that body form will check you out.

    So, don't go with the mindset that I will workout so I can get men. Go with the mindset of "I will workout to better myself and on the way, I will pick up the men that I am chasing after"

    Both have the same outcome (to get the men you are looking for) but the second mindset makes you look confident and independent.

    And men (not all, some) prefer confidence and independence in other men.

    But this is all my opinion remember that, so you can feel free to disagree with me.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    beneful1 said
    rosco87 said
    Avron88 said
    rosco87 saidcause that means i have to gain weight now.


    You mean you'll actually have to work out?!

    NOOOOOOOOO! icon_razz.gif


    lol, hey, i do push ups and sit ups sometimes, but yeah, it'd be pretty nice if i could just be lazy as hell and attract guys i'm attracted to at the same time. hahaha.


    Sometimes? you are lazy, good luck to ya.



    i'm not lazy, i skateboard for hours a day and do yard work, mental work, computer shit, etc. and when i was working at UPS i blew everyone else out of the water.


    don't be a dick.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    _Mohammed_ saidGo to the gym to make yourself stronger - not to impress someone else.
    It is a by-product of your workout...ie. As you workout and better yourself to be stronger, more muscular, more bulky, people who are attracted to that body form will check you out.

    So, don't go with the mindset that I will workout so I can get men. Go with the mindset of "I will workout to better myself and on the way, I will pick up the men that I am chasing after"

    Both have the same outcome (to get the men you are looking for) but the second mindset makes you look confident and independent.

    And men (not all, some) prefer confidence and independence in other men.

    But this is all my opinion remember that, so you can feel free to disagree with me.



    You're right.. but somehow I have the gut feeling this OP has no intention of doing anything and prefers to just whine about his lot in life.

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    Apr 26, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    fuck you
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    I'm shuddering
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    go be a whiny bitch somewhere else, i'm more concerned with gay sociology, not your personal opinion of me, judging me when you don't know shit about me.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    OH. I dont' know anything about you... the answer all losers give.. you lazy asswipe. You're the one who started the thread about not being able to get the type of guys you want... I gave you advice.. you come across as lazy... skateboarding.. pffft...
    Like I said good luck moron.



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    Apr 26, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Why would a muscular stud want a skinny average guy? Think about it
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    im muscular and im a sucker for skinny guys!