Do you care when ppl use the word gay..

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Using it like this for an example.."Hey that movie we just seen was so gay".. do you get offended when people throw the word around like that?
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    It doesn't offend me, but I have a number of comebacks for it.
    Such as: "Did that movie make you horny for a dude?"
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    i get offended a little, but i hear it so often, im just fed up. a friend of mine actually just gave me a bunch of shit about how i should be allowing it and understanding of it and had a bunch of justfication bull about how words have multiple definitions. i said as long as gay is used for homosexuals and for "shitty" at the same time, you're bringing me down.


    and yeah, i do that too paul, like "i dont remember any guys having sex... which part was that?"
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    First off, I know a ton of guys in here who are going to say they don't care. They even use the word themselves, etcetc...

    Fuck those guys.

    The use of gay like that still perpetuates that we are associated with words like stupid/dumb/lame/shitty/bad. It may prove awkward/suck to call your friend, family or co-worker out for using discriminatory language, but you gotta fight the good fight for equality in language. Language is power, and the more you let people have that power over you the more you ruin the equality we're all looking for.

    And yes, some of you, you don't have to worry about equality, blah blah you're masculine and you don't come across as gay and you pride yourself in it - but please remember that you're only a half of the gay population, and the other half, the perhaps "noticeably gay" half doesn't need to be made fun of by anyone, especially fellow gay guys.



    Sorry...today I had to argue with GAY guys about this issue...and I was the only gay person in FAVOR of trying to stop this word from being used in a discriminatory way. -_________-

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    jayyp15 saidLanguage is power, and the more you let people have that power over you the more you ruin the equality we're all looking for.
    +millions
    Like I told a person the other day: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will fucking kill you."
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:53 AM GMT
    I hate it.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    I like it for one reason only.

    It says, "Hey! I lack the intelligence and the vocabulary to express opinions," and I can ignore that person.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    I only have a problem with it as it has negative connotations. If it wasnt negative I would care in the slightest!
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    Apr 26, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    bazungu saidI only have a problem with it as it has negative connotations. If it wasnt negative I would care in the slightest!



    Yea i agree.. but the thing is with me.. is when they say something is gay but it rele has nothing to do with it.. what do they mean by it.. i get rele confused there..
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    Apr 26, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
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    bazungu saidI only have a problem with it as it has negative connotations. If it wasnt negative I would care in the slightest!



    Yea i agree.. but the thing is with me.. is when they say something is gay but it rele has nothing to do with it.. what do they mean by it.. i get rele confused there..


    well, they started saying it because they didn't like gay people, then they didn't want to be the unaccepting type so they claimed it was 2 different things. it's kind of like if you just started going "that's jewish...." to everything you didn't like than when it gets common enough you can say "it just means shitty or penny-pinching-like, i love jews"
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    Apr 26, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    rosco87 said
    andrew_111 said
    bazungu saidI only have a problem with it as it has negative connotations. If it wasnt negative I would care in the slightest!



    Yea i agree.. but the thing is with me.. is when they say something is gay but it rele has nothing to do with it.. what do they mean by it.. i get rele confused there..


    well, they started saying it because they didn't like gay people, then they didn't want to be the unaccepting type so they claimed it was 2 different things. it's kind of like if you just started going "that's jewish...." to everything you didn't like than when it gets common enough you can say "it just means shitty or penny-pinching-like, i love jews"


    Ahh so yea.. that is rude anyway you look at it...
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    Apr 26, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    who cares, its only a word. surely there are better things to worry about in the world than worrying if someone is using the word gay in the wrong context. most people i know who use it to describe something do not mean anything discrimatory or offensive by it. my advice is stop taking yourself so seriously. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 26, 2011 9:53 AM GMT
    I don't take offense to it.

    Sometimes I'll be talking to a girl in class and she'll say "it was totally gay" and you can tell that as soon as she said it she went "oh fuck oops" in her mind, so I don't react to it at all and I just continue the conversation.

    If someone is using it in a derogatory way, clearly meaning to be homophobic, you still shouldn't let it bother you. If you show weakness towards it, letting the person know that it affects you negatively, then of course they're going to keep saying it because that's the reaction they want out of you.

    That's how I feel about words in general - they only have power if you give them power, and how do you give them power? By being a little crybaby when somebody uses them.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    biisurfer saidwho cares, its only a word. surely there are better things to worry about in the world than worrying if someone is using the word gay in the wrong context. most people i know who use it to describe something do not mean anything discrimatory or offensive by it. my advice is stop taking yourself so seriously. icon_biggrin.gif



    its just a question jeez.. its not like it phazes me when i hear it... i brush it off...
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    It does sometimes ... when it comes to serous situation ...

    Even tho , i don't know why ppl using those Labels ...
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    This thread is giving me the strangest feeling of deja vu.

    This thread is giving me the strangest feeling of deja vu.

    jayyp15 saidFirst off, I know a ton of guys in here who are going to say they don't care. They even use the word themselves, etcetc...

    Fuck those guys.

    The use of gay like that still perpetuates that we are associated with words like stupid/dumb/lame/shitty/bad. It may prove awkward/suck to call your friend, family or co-worker out for using discriminatory language, but you gotta fight the good fight for equality in language. Language is power, and the more you let people have that power over you the more you ruin the equality we're all looking for.

    And yes, some of you, you don't have to worry about equality, blah blah you're masculine and you don't come across as gay and you pride yourself in it - but please remember that you're only a half of the gay population, and the other half, the perhaps "noticeably gay" half doesn't need to be made fun of by anyone, especially fellow gay guys.



    Sorry...today I had to argue with GAY guys about this issue...and I was the only gay person in FAVOR of trying to stop this word from being used in a discriminatory way. -_________-



    I couldn't have said it better myself. Cheers.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:19 PM GMT

    basically it's really gay, but i don't really care.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Naw...
    Don't have the time or energy to waste on anything that minor.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    Not in the least bit. I guess I am broken. Then again I tend to call people vaginas when they are whining.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    biisurfer saidwho cares, its only a word. surely there are better things to worry about in the world than worrying if someone is using the word gay in the wrong context. most people i know who use it to describe something do not mean anything discrimatory or offensive by it. my advice is stop taking yourself so seriously. icon_biggrin.gif


    Well if it's "only a word," how does sound. That movie was just for niggers.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    Honeydew saidNot in the least bit. I guess I am broken. Then again I tend to call people vaginas when they are whining.


    Got to disagree with you on that one. I don't like hearing that such and such a restaurant was so gay. I'm gay and I'm downright wonderful!
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    andrew_111 said Using it like this for an example.."Hey that movie we just seen was so gay".. do you get offended when people throw the word around like that?


    Yes it does coz the intent is to insult
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    biisurfer saidwho cares, its only a word. surely there are better things to worry about in the world than worrying if someone is using the word gay in the wrong context. most people i know who use it to describe something do not mean anything discrimatory or offensive by it. my advice is stop taking yourself so seriously. icon_biggrin.gif


    Well if it's "only a word," how does sound. That movie was just for niggers.


    I dont get to offended its not like all attack if i hear it, i just think there idiots for using it... but i do agrree with what u just said.. all tho i wouldnt of dropped the N word only kause some mite get offended... but i think the more and more people use the word gay for stupid reasons, they take away its meaning...
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    iHavok saidNaw...
    Don't have the time or energy to waste on anything that minor.


    That makes sense for (us) older gays, but if I was an out or barely out teenager in a heavily Christian high school in the deep south, I don't think I'd classify it as minor.

    N***** may no longer have the political power it once did, but I imagine black people might still take offense to hearing that something was n**-rigged, for example. "Oh, but I don't mean anything about black people; I just mean it's something bad." Same thing.

    In re: "That's gay": Since you're using a term that applies to me or mine to describe something bad, you're equating part of my identity with suckiness or negativity. It's not ok. No, I don't fly off the handle or become an Outraged Gay, but I do say something. Defusing the situation - but educating - with humor is the best way for me, I've found.
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    I also an equally ambivalent when people use the word potato or corkscrew or yellow.

    If you do have the time and energy to get polarized by such a word, I think you might do well with some time spent reevaluating your priorities.

    If it's true in relationships that only you can make yourself happy, or sad, then I think similarly only you can make yourself offended.