Facebook - really worth it & should I join?

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    Apr 26, 2011 7:18 AM GMT
    Hi Guys

    I've been avoiding facebook for years and years as it seems all my friends get addicted to it.

    Is it as great as everyone says and worth me joining?
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    Apr 26, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
    If you have to ask, then no. icon_lol.gif

    I guess it all depends on what you expect out of it. Personally, I think it's a great centralized communication tool to keep in touch with family and friends that live far away. All of my mine are close by and I see them on a semi-frequent basis. So I have no need for FB.

    I suppose you can try it out for a while and see what all the fuss is about, right?
  • alexSturm

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    Apr 26, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Join it, but don't make that your main profile pic...

    You'll get tons of friend requests from strangers hahaha

    Facebook isn't really that bad if you have your settings right, you'll only be connected with those you care about and can converse and keep up pretty easy.

    I get to see tons of pictures of my nieces and nephews that live hours away, I can't imagine not having facebook.
  • BardBear

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    Apr 26, 2011 9:52 AM GMT
    I joined it as I was intending on moving down here to Florida and got tired of daily, long slogging emails to everyone with every-single-announcements (they're request, not mine). So I switched to facebook to make sure the information was always the same and quick. And then I sorta just stayed. I keep most of settings private, but it works.

    Peace,
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    Apr 26, 2011 12:01 PM GMT
    Facebook does the exact opposite of what it was supposed to do. People interact with friends less and the connections are very fragile and vague. A lot of people have hundreds or thousands of "friends" on Facebook, but in most cases they are just little icons that sit on your page that you never interact with about anything of substance. And even your real life friends can become very distant once you're on Facebook too. There's really no need to have lunch with your buddy Sean anymore because he just posted pics from his trip to Hawaii, so no need to ask him about that.....you've seen his entire trip in vivid color. You know he went out last night and where he had dinner. Hell, he even posted a pic of the cereal he ate for breakfast. And you saw on Facebook he joined a Sarah Palin fan page and now you're a little pissed about that. Why bother calling him?

    Facebook offers a fake intimacy. Trouble with that is, the fake intimacy replaces the real intimacy and suddenly there is no need for that real connection anymore. Notice how no one wants to talk on the phone anymore? "Just text me." Why? Because it's safer for those who lack social skills. And Facebook is no different.

    Facebook may seem harmless but it will change the way you interact with your friends in a negative way.
  • Crucializer

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    Apr 26, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
    I had a FB acct and then I closed it after about a year . . . I just dont care what my friend from elementary school is having for dinner. And then theres the psycho girl from junior high that posts every 5 minutes . . . and its stupid shit!

    And then theres the requests to play games I have no time to play . . . It just just became a huge waste of my time. But thats just me! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 26, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    If you've made it this long without it then don't bother, it's not that great.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    FB has enabled me to keep in contact with people who would've otherwise dropped off the face of the planet. Its a nice way to see how your friend's and loved one's lives are developing if you don't have the time to call or visit them. Just don't spend all your time on it and don't put stuff on there that you wouldn't want your boss to see and you're fine.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    it's useful for keeping track of my hobby friends around the world. that's 80% of what my friends are. artists and doll collectors. as for real life friends, it can only augment. if it's a replacement, they're not really your friends.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    I've lost friends because of facebook. I deleted my account and it was the best thing I ever did. The less you know about your friends and the less they know about you, the better.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    miamimasseur saidI've lost friends because of facebook. I deleted my account and it was the best thing I ever did. The less you know about your friends and the less they know about you, the better.


    Wait, what...? The less you know about your friends, the better? Seriously? Get some new friends.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    I like facebook. I am not a "constant status updater" but I do go on every day or two and check out what is going on. Facebook is not a good way of keeping up with local friends who need in-person care and attention, but it enables me to keep up with a far-flung network of folks who, in the primitive pre-Internet days, I figured I would never, ever see again. For that, it is very cool.
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    I feel like facebook is a must have in college. It's east to set up events, meetings, get-togethers, play games, build relationships with people you've just met and want to get to know, etc. Plus I can stay in contact with friends and family as much as I like, and they can respond when they can get to it.

    Lets put it this way... you would get a lot more out of facebook than you do out of realjock (that is, if you use it to connect with friends and not to look up hot guys and hookups).
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    Apr 26, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidFacebook does the exact opposite of what it was supposed to do. People interact with friends less and the connections are very fragile and vague. A lot of people have hundreds or thousands of "friends" on Facebook, but in most cases they are just little icons that sit on your page that you never interact with about anything of substance. And even your real life friends can become very distant once you're on Facebook too. There's really no need to have lunch with your buddy Sean anymore because he just posted pics from his trip to Hawaii, so no need to ask him about that.....you've seen his entire trip in vivid color. You know he went out last night and where he had dinner. Hell, he even posted a pic of the cereal he ate for breakfast. And you saw on Facebook he joined a Sarah Palin fan page and now you're a little pissed about that. Why bother calling him?

    Facebook offers a fake intimacy. Trouble with that is, the fake intimacy replaces the real intimacy and suddenly there is no need for that real connection anymore. Notice how no one wants to talk on the phone anymore? "Just text me." Why? Because it's safer for those who lack social skills. And Facebook is no different.

    Facebook may seem harmless but it will change the way you interact with your friends in a negative way.


    Yep. I agree. I now only go on there every couple of days if that. I am slowly giving up on it. And the shitty part is when you found out that "friends" had a party, and didn't invite you. And you see all of the pictures and all of the people who went talking about how much fun they had.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    I deleted my FB account years ago when they had the issue of auto-opt-in for using your pictures commercially in their ads (fortunately I had not uploaded any images yet). They got away with it because it was in the fine print, which realistically, very few people read. Yeah you can opt-out, but nobody knew to opt-out because - if they didn't read the fine print - they didn't know they were opted in.

    And then there were a few other privacy issues which I remember reading about, but don't remember the details.

    Basically, I don't trust FB. They have a history of being deceiving and violating people's privacy.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    If you have made it this long through your life without Facebook then you probably just shouldn't join. I love Facebook, but it has been losing its appeal to me for about the past 4 years.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Avoid it if you have held out for this long. As soon as you join and accept your friends, the likely result is that you will hear less from them, because they assume you've seen their updates in your news feed. They won't call you to tell you about a party they're having, they'll just post an event and expect that you'll get the invite.

    I would really like to delete my profile and run away from the whole thing as fast as possible. I really don't like Mark Zuckerberg and his practices, not to mention the complete disregard for people's privacy, even profiting via selling your personal information to third parties. The only problem? If I did, I would likely never hear from a number of my friends ever again, neither would I have a means of contacting them reliably. I would probably also miss out on various parties and events. The very reason is simply by signalling to my friends that I have a Facebook profile, therefore no extra contact effort is required from them when mass communication suffices.

    I agree totally with scruffypup that it's a false intimacy. In fact, you may find with friends you add that they become more distant with you.
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    Ugh, I always delete mine and then a week later reactivate it. icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    I think you should ... its not bad .. + lots of ppl going to ask u if u have an account .. usually there i watch interesting videos ... know some news

    So not bad
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    Apr 26, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    hawke saidHi Guys

    I've been avoiding facebook for years and years as it seems all my friends get addicted to it.

    Is it as great as everyone says and worth me joining?


    If you want to reconnect with old friends and family then facebook is a good thing... It's good to build up your social network so you can keep in touch with people a d grow...
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    don't do it man. fight it! damn it, fight it man. i have held out and i will continue to hold out
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    I think Facebook is great! Have reconnected w/ a lot of people that I had lost touch w/ over the years. Everyone on my friends list are people that have all played a role in my life at one time or another! It is great keeping up w/ how they are doing and what's going on in their lives.....

    I try not let it get out of control! I usually log in once a day to see what is up w/ everyone and to check out the birthdays.. People that I am close to I still take time out to call and hang out w/ them! It is a great way to keep up w/ friends that have moved away or you just don't get to talk to that often due to jobs/ careers/ kids/ marriages/ etc.

    On the flipside people do get carried away w/ FB sometimes! I have buddy that just keeps adding people all day long! He brags about how many friends he has but most of them are people that he has never met!! Friends of mine are on his list that he has never even talked to before.... I think that is really weird! Then you have the couples that are on the newsfeed all day long telling each other how much they love each other.... Sigh!
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    Apr 26, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    I like it. After graduating high school I've kept in touch with quite a few of my classmates. I lived in Norcal for a bit, but came back home. I'm keeping in contact with the friends I've made there. I like Facebook. I understand why people don't like it, but I like keeping on touch with people I've become friends with.

    And I agree not to use your profile pic as the one here icon_razz.gif When people have nice body pics, they end up having like 3000 "friends"
  • ConnerHabib

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    Just deleted it after having it for a long time (waaay back when you could only have it with a college email address).

    It's a time-suck and substitutes real interactions with a false sense of meaning.
    You begin to search for a feeling instead of an actual engagement - For instance, you'll post a status update to feel people think you're funny. You'll comment on someone's wall to feel people think you've stated something intelligent. If no one responds, you may feel a little down.

    What's worse, facebook will begin to invade the rest of your life: You'll begin to think things like, "Oh I'm having so much fun at this baseball game, I should take a picture of it so I can put it on facebook." Once that starts happening, you begin to translate your real and meaningful experiences into a lifeless, meaningless profile site.

    It's linked to conservative groups and groups that spy on people. Furthermore, it sends your information to corporate marketers.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DIGdWsxHJlM

    Avoid. It's dumb.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Apr 26, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    I'm not a regular user of FB, but I do love how you can reconnect with people from the past that you had lost touch with. It's fun in small doses