go_vols saidok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?
Insight please. Go!
Brad, dont be ashamed about having an attracting to someone that is "straight".
The worst thing you can do is compromise.
Dont let anyone make you feel bad about a lack of interest in someone you consider " not your type" or not masculine enough.
I agree "straightacting" or masculinity and sexual preference are not necessarily the same. For the most part effeminate or flamboyant gay guys are just louder, and more easy to spot. And usually the first to "bitch" when they are rejected. And in my experience come with a underlying psychiatric issues. Just as slutty over-sexual women are usually psychologically unstable.
Although numbers are not on your side, there is a very good chance there is someone out there with the same attraction for you.
I suggest getting involved in activities that would involve the guys in your taste category.
Go on a structured camping trip, softball team instead of hanging around bars.
Or even a gay professional group in your area.
Female friends are important, but I would caution you. They are driven by estrogen, you are driven by testosterone. Estrogen is very powerful and a causes them to be very competitive subconsciously.
Last, sort of an axiom. Relationships in and around the workplace are very dangerous.