Why am I so attracted to straight guys? Arghhh!

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    Apr 26, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    ok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?

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    Apr 27, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    go_vols saidok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?

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    You're most likely attracted to handsome men, who appear to be masculine. In your professional sphere, that may often mean straight men. Forget them.

    There are plenty of gay men who are every bit as masculine as any straight man who ever lived. Maybe in Raleigh they are hard to find. But they do exist.

    Your problem is one of experience and opportunity. I've sensed this with you in the past here. The man you want is out there, and he's gay. Your challenge is Raleigh. I've been there.

    But he may even be right under your nose. I wonder if you know how to look for him? You're smart, you're no fool. Use your skills, and apply them to this challenge like you would any other. And when you find him, you won't be wasting your time & attention on a straight guy doing an audit at your company. You really do need to look at your focus.
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    Apr 27, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    How do you know they're straight?
    As a new "out" guy, you of all people should know that many guys "appear" straight, when inside they're really wanting a big fat juicy cock up their ass. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 27, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    Oh Brad. icon_sad.gif You just need to accept the fact that there are more straight people in the world, so the chance that you run into a hot guy that you're actually attracted to, is so much higher. I also suspect that you're probably more attracted to straight-acting guys? And let's face it, perhaps only about half of the homos are straight-acting / truly masculine (not the pretending-to-be-butch-in-order-to-hide-his-insecurities kind of "masculine"); it might even be less than half.

    So factor all that in, your chance running into a straight guy you're attracted to, is about 15 ~ 19 times higher than you meeting a gay guy who you're attracted to. And you're not the only one I'm sure! Don't beat yourself up over it. icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 27, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    Straight is a state of mind at that moment in time, not an actual trait.

    So I say, he may have been straight while performing the audit...but that's just at that moment in time.

    Gay until proven otherwise icon_cool.gif Question is, do you really want to go thru proving it, especially at work LOL.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    go_vols saidok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?

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    95% of guys are straight so 95% of hot guys are straight. I, too, am excited when I see a hot guy who happens to be straight. To all those who give you crap about it, tell them to mind their own business!
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    sometimes we want what we can't get, so we hope and wish and chase or even dream about it.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Because your gay?
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    I agree....don't you think that all guys are secretly interested in guys? I think any handsome guy is HOT too
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    Because they outnumber gays
    100:1
    Hetero:Homo
    Honeydew saidBecause your gay?


    you're*
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    go_vols saidok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?

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    Why wouldnt you be! they exude masculinity and what we all want. try focusing on str8 acting men thats healthier. .. str8 men are one step to a heart break
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    brianindenver saidStraight is a state of mind at that moment in time, not an actual trait.

    So I say, he may have been straight while performing the audit...but that's just at that moment in time.

    Gay until proven otherwise icon_cool.gif Question is, do you really want to go thru proving it, especially at work LOL.


    Sorry but as a pure homosexual, one of the real gays. I can tell you being a poofter is no more a state of mind than being a heterosexual. Sorry but my dick just does not find a vagina attractive, and it refuses to play in them, because of their smell and look ugly to boot. No diffrent to how a straight guy would feel about another mans dick, or what they may want to do with his butt.

    But I can understand how a bisexual may think as you do.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    Been there, done that. I've always fallen for straight guys or gay guys who didn't want to be gay. A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME! Forget them and move on. It's hard enough developing a relationship with a gay guy who's comfortable being gay.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    git sum tail!!! LOL then forget em
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    go_vols saidok, so i was at work today and a great looking guy is here this week performing an audit for our company. Of course he's straight and I'm totally attracted to him. When I told one of my co-workers about it, she said "you're always attracted to straight guys!"...and it's true (for the most part). Why is that? And am I the only one out there?

    Insight please. Go!

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    Brad, dont be ashamed about having an attracting to someone that is "straight".

    The worst thing you can do is compromise.
    Dont let anyone make you feel bad about a lack of interest in someone you consider " not your type" or not masculine enough.

    I agree "straightacting" or masculinity and sexual preference are not necessarily the same. For the most part effeminate or flamboyant gay guys are just louder, and more easy to spot. And usually the first to "bitch" when they are rejected. And in my experience come with a underlying psychiatric issues. Just as slutty over-sexual women are usually psychologically unstable.


    Although numbers are not on your side, there is a very good chance there is someone out there with the same attraction for you.

    I suggest getting involved in activities that would involve the guys in your taste category.

    Go on a structured camping trip, softball team instead of hanging around bars.
    Or even a gay professional group in your area.


    Female friends are important, but I would caution you. They are driven by estrogen, you are driven by testosterone. Estrogen is very powerful and a causes them to be very competitive subconsciously.

    Last, sort of an axiom. Relationships in and around the workplace are very dangerous.



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    Apr 27, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    You're attracted to true masculine men.

    I find fem gay guys amusing and entertaining, but I'm not attracted to them.

    ...and there really aren't actual straight guys that I know of?
    (as long as no one finds out that is... been there and done that, never ends well. ...for you (me))
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Story of my life.
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    Apr 27, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Because they just ooze masculinity....connie_1.gif
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    Apr 27, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    True_Blue_Aussie said
    brianindenver saidStraight is a state of mind at that moment in time, not an actual trait.

    So I say, he may have been straight while performing the audit...but that's just at that moment in time.

    Gay until proven otherwise icon_cool.gif Question is, do you really want to go thru proving it, especially at work LOL.


    Sorry but as a pure homosexual, one of the real gays. I can tell you being a poofter is no more a state of mind than being a heterosexual. Sorry but my dick just does not find a vagina attractive, and it refuses to play in them, because of their smell and look ugly to boot. No diffrent to how a straight guy would feel about another mans dick, or what they may want to do with his butt.

    But I can understand how a bisexual may think as you do.


    There is the Nazi answer to your question...off to the concentration camps for all those who are not 'pure'...

    at least this will make your choices easier - all 'non-pure' homos will be in concentration camps, all straight guys will be outside the concentration camps - and the 'true homos' will have their own banners and badges to identify them...and also living outside the concentration camps ...QED
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    Apr 27, 2011 4:56 AM GMT
    i'm in the same boat. i always find myself attracted to straight guys. i can't figure it out. if you hang out with a lot of them, like myself, it might be because you associate yourself around them more often.?
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    Apr 27, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    ^this forum. its the same for me too! i dunno what it is... but it seems like im always more attracted to straight than gay guys. wtf. but i read some of the earlier responses and that seemed to help. thanks to ^ ppl.
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    Apr 27, 2011 7:39 AM GMT
    gay guys only are attracted to straight guys because they know that they cant have them ..
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    Apr 27, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    AussieK saidgay guys only are attracted to straight guys because they know that they cant have them ..


    They can't have me either- but you don't see me trying to beat these guys off with a stick.
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    Apr 27, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    It happens to me too. Straight guys are my kryptonite.
    They're so damn attractive. I don't feel the same fire when i see a hot gay guy.
    But when i meet or see a straight guy, it's like FIRE!!! And i can't put it out.
    But i keep telling myself to stop being such retarded homo and leave straights alone ^^
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    Apr 27, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    because most str8 guys are non dysfunctional