Friends who change when they get a boyfriend?

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    Apr 27, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
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    Apr 27, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    He wants you to be his boyfriend, but is too afraid to ask you.
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    Apr 27, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    I doubt it :p We've talked about that, in the past, and decided that we've become more friends than potential partners. Plus I could never see him that way..especially after witnessing his change in character this past year and a half.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    operator04 saidI doubt it :p We've talked about that, in the past, and decided that we've become more friends than potential partners.
    I've heard that so many times, and seen so many potential life-time-relationships fail because of that mindset, that I no longer believe it. Now I believe that forming a relationship with your best friend is the best way to have a partner for life. After all, if your partner is not your best friend, it's not going to work regardless of how hard you try to make it work.

    operator04 saidPlus I could never see him that way..especially after witnessing his change in character this past year and a half.
    Sounds like you're finding an excuse not to be his partner. You already know (subconsciously) that the only reason he changed like that is because of the emotional trauma he put himself through to avoid showing his true feelings for you.
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    Apr 27, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    You make some good points. You're right that if your partner is not your best friend, then it won't work. I'm a firm believe of that too. Just that, I don't know with him..
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    Apr 28, 2011 9:15 AM GMT
    OK, I'm sorry I could not read the whole thing past paragraph 4...for future reference, paraphrasing might garnish more responses (not to be rude, I have to paraphrase all the time cause I can go on forever too).

    I think it's either 1 of 2 things. He could be making you jealous or he may have some underlying attraction to you and it's his way of getting back. I've had guys do both.

    Friends who change when they have a boyfriend are soon narrowed over to the "associates" category.

    Trying to hangout with people who are couples is a lot of work. You've got 2 minds to deal with, and you don't know who's thinking what. I say, pull back a little and see what happens. This seems to be occupying your thoughts too much.
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    Apr 28, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    ^^Thanks for your input! And you're right, I did go on for a bit :p I need to learn to cut things down :/

    But that's what I've been doing lately, pulling back, and just getting some space. Not only from him, but other friends too. There comes a point when you feel the need to just have your own space and not associate with anyone for some time.