She can't get a hint

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    Apr 27, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    So I did this to myself. Since I moved to the suburbs of Chicago I started going to a new gym location. After a week or so I met a girl who was really impressed with my routines and asked me if I could show her few things. Its been 6 months now and she became my regular work-out partner. Since a lot of my workouts are pretty intense(I don't stand around talking to people or take 10 minutes before my sets) she can't keep up and slows me down. I'm actually considering going to another location. I've talked to her and said that we have to limit our workouts together to 2 a week but she doesn't seem to get the hint. I don't want to hurt her feelings because she's an awesome person but I also don't want to sacrifice my progress. What should I do or say? Help.
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    Apr 28, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    i think she has thing for you...i mean who wouldn't right?

    anyways, just introduce her to a new person & maybe she'll start bothering the other person out...if all fails, just tell her to stop it. she'll get the memo...
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    Apr 28, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Oh leave her aloneicon_twisted.gif
  • AFGGuy

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    Apr 28, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    It's tough but everyone faces these decisions in life. The choice of making yourself happy or someone else. So you can do...

    A - Work out alone to pursue personal happiness, or

    B - Continue working out with your friend and it'll make her happy

    If you go with A, be honest, tell her the reasons you want to work out alone. As a nice guy it is hard to confront your friends, but you can do it!
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    Apr 28, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    Schedule only a couple things she can keep up on.

    I work out with debilitating asthma and reflux while the person I am with runs at least 15 miles. I have to quit running after 7 minutes or else I'll pass out.

    Trust me, she can do other things in the gym while you have your own personal time. icon_biggrin.gif
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    Apr 28, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    jsut start without her

    she'll just either go with you or realize you will go without her

    girls will get the subtle hints...believe it or not
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    Apr 28, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    In this case you have to take the chance of hurting her feelings somewhat and just be firm, remind her one more time of the fact and that you're not shutting her out completely but you must have your own workout time alone. If she persists then cut her out completely, it's her problem, don't make it yours.

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Apr 28, 2011 9:16 AM GMT
    Just let her know what the problem is. I don't see why you should have to change gym locations, unless of course she gets really mad and starts acting really crazy because you no longer want her as your workout partner. Good luck!

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    Apr 28, 2011 12:52 PM GMT
    umm, i am guessing you havent told her you're gay yet? that will do it.

    She seems like a nice person. You will hurt her worse if you dont tell her now. I came out to my now fag hag when I started to suspect she liked me.
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    Apr 28, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    As also quoted to hot straight guys..

    'Ditch the bitch and make the switch'
  • TrentGrad

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    Apr 28, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    Why don't you just try to be honest with her?

    Tell her that you have very specific fitness goals you're working towards, and you need to focus more intensely on your workouts. Tell her you value her friendship, and if she thinks she can keep up with you, you'd be happy to continue working out with her...but if not, she may find it more rewarding to connect with someone whose routines more closely resemble hers.

    Of course, if you really do value the friendship (as it seems you do, seeing how you called her an awesome person), you'll have to work out a way to maintain the friendship.
  • LJay

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    Apr 28, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    You could say to her: After today, I want to work on my own. I have my own pace and need to work on that.

    Then you might change your times around a bit so that you don't tend to run into her as much.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Apr 28, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    michalchi29 said I don't want to hurt her feelings because she's an awesome person but I also don't want to sacrifice my progress. What should I do or say? Help.


    Maybe say something like "Don't take this personally, but I really prefer working out by myself and getting into a zone and focusing during my workouts. I've never been much for workout partners". Then maybe you could temper it, if you want to be friends, by seeing if she wants to grab something to eat or a drink after the gym. Just so she doesn't feel totally dumped by the hot gay guy she's crushing on LOL icon_lol.gif
  • LJay

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    Apr 28, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    OOOOOHHHHH

    Don't ask her out after workouts. You'll really get into a fix then.

    When I was in high school and college I tried to be a nice guy and let girls down easily. It just did not work. One or two still carry torches. Eek!
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    Apr 28, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    wi2sd saidAs also quoted to hot straight guys..

    'Ditch the bitch and make the switch'



    ahahaha! tattoo worthy right there!
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    LJay saidOOOOOHHHHH

    Don't ask her out after workouts. You'll really get into a fix then.

    When I was in high school and college I tried to be a nice guy and let girls down easily. It just did not work. One or two still carry torches. Eek!



    Go to another location for a while. That will break her habit.
    She may be crushing on you.