Some advice, I hope you take ... it worked for me ...

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    Apr 28, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    You know how everyone is just looking for that PERFECT guy. You wil only date people if you they fit your "guidlines" and turn a ot of people away cause they dont fit into that.

    Well I have been rushing into one relatoinship after the other. In the last 8yrs, i havent been single more then 6mo (until recently I was planing to make it 1yr, but lasted 9mo). I decided that I needed to stop being so "plastic" and stuck up about things. I dumped my "guidlines and list" and broadened my age range. I was sceptical and al, but ready for a change and to see how it would work. No reason not to try.

    So i met guy after guy and taked with anyone that would write back or send me and email. I met some wonderful people and made some friends aong the way. Im so glad for the changes that I made.

    The main reason im happy about the changes (besides all the great peope i met) was cause of the new man in my life. He looks and acts nothing like my previous bf's, but i have never been happier. He does the things I enjoy and like (for exampe the 1st time we went on a walk together, he just reached over and grabbed my hand). I see no probem with hlding hands in public or giving eachother a kiss in public and stuff. I have been ooking for a bf that feels the same, and now i have.

    I feel so lucky and blessed to have found someone that naturally does and feels things the same way as me. I get to see him everyday. We end out night with cuddling and intimacy (which to me is much more important then sex). We are waiting till we both get tested before we sleep together. He is into me as muc has I am him and just the best thing in the word. I cant say enough.

    ****** Sorry so long, alomst done ********************

    So the point of all of this was to say to open your options. Stop being so stuck up or set on certain things. Say hi and be friendy to those that are that way to you. I promise along the way you will meet some amazing ppl. yes there are the stupid ons too, but dont et that stop you from adding some great people to your life. This was one of the best decitions i have ever made ...

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    Apr 28, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    According to the profile counts on RJ there are 281452 profiles on here? sadly the vast majority fit the description in which you were able to free yourself from! kudos to you for finally doing some growing up and realizing that the world doesn't evolve around, but that you evolve around it!! you my friend are a true hero in my book! God Bless.

    In my experience there is nothing more liberating then freeing the self from the limitations of one's own prejudices, fears, and egos! it feels good to be part or fill the shoes of someone's own little world doesn't it!?

    Leandro ♥

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    Apr 28, 2011 7:29 AM GMT
    You make very good sense. It has been said of me that I am stuck up and unapproachable. I swear I am not. But I am learning to be more aware of my attitude and being single has taught me that point
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    Apr 28, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    Hahah noce, i luved that song.

    And thanks for you kind words. It has taken some work to get to where I am at. Im not done yet, but i wil keep working till I am. Who knows i may never be done. My bf catches me sometimes falling back inot those traps, but he is good at keeping me grounded so YAY for that.

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    Apr 28, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Sweety, I'm glad that we found each other and I think it's amazing that we fit so well together, but proof-read your forum post (you can edit it with the edit button right there at the top). Pst... 8 more days. Have a good day.
  • iHavok

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    Apr 28, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    Its really great advice...and yet friends tell me Im wasting my time by dating too many men who are obviously not a good match, in the name of being open minded and giving everyone a chance...
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    Apr 28, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    Good advice and important to emphasize. One thing I learned (and continue to do) is to be flexible and more laid back about things I used to be so "black and white" about. It doesn't have to "be this way" or "that way" in order to have success. Glad to see you discovered happiness along your route... I hope it continues!

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    Baby your silly ... i never proof read, maybe i hsoud start lol ...

    And yes im glad you guys do that same thing. How do you know ifthey will be a good fit in your life (as a partner or friend or whatever) unless you give it try and see? How can you just look at ppl and say "Oh hell no"?