Renting out a room in my home..do I need to tell the renter I'm gay?

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    Apr 28, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    If its a female? Or a male?

    I'd never ask them about their sexuality, but I also don't wanna sign a lease with a tenant that is intolerant.

    What's the best way to handle this?
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    Apr 28, 2011 1:33 PM GMT
    Yes, tell the renter you're gay.
    If you accidentally bring in a homophobe and get "found out" later, I feel sorry for all your stuff...cause it will likely be damaged.
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    Just put up a lot of Tom Of Finland artwork on the walls, and they'll get the hint. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Just incorporate strategic key words into the listing, like fabulous view, darling kitchen, cute fixtures and an Oh Em Gee hot guy neighbor who washes his car shirtless. Problem solved!
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    Tim Finland or pictures of yourself. Lying, naked, on your stomach on a bear rug and have the picture hanging over the fire place. LoL.
  • Koaa2

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Are your fucking nuts, not telling someone your gay and living in your place! Please this is 2011.
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    moscowmikey saidIf its a female? Or a male?

    I'd never ask them about their sexuality, but I also don't wanna sign a lease with a tenant that is intolerant.

    What's the best way to handle this?
    j dude, your sexual orientation is no one else business. if they have a problem with you being gay than tough for them. dude, let them find out on there own. hell you may be surprised he or she might have already figured it out.
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Koaa2 saidAre your fucking nuts, not telling someone your gay and living in your place! Please this is 2011.

    This.
  • Koaa2

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    Oh wait a minute, I just looked at your profile and it says you live in Idaho. Are you fucking nuts for living in Idaho!
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    Koaa2 saidAre your fucking nuts, not telling someone your gay and living in your place! Please this is 2011.

    This.


    Yes, I agree!
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    Apr 29, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidj dude, your sexual orientation is no one else business. if they have a problem with you being gay than tough for them. dude, let them find out on there own. hell you may be surprised he or she might have already figured it out.


    Ignore his advice.

    When you place the advertisement online- or in a newspaper just be sure to include "must be gay-friendly."

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidJust incorporate strategic key words into the listing, like fabulous view, darling kitchen, cute fixtures and an Oh Em Gee hot guy neighbor who washes his car shirtless. Problem solved!


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    Apr 29, 2011 12:01 PM GMT
    A1EX said
    tuffguyndc saidj dude, your sexual orientation is no one else business. if they have a problem with you being gay than tough for them. dude, let them find out on there own. hell you may be surprised he or she might have already figured it out.


    Ignore his advice.

    When you place the advertisement online- or in a newspaper just be sure to include "must be gay-friendly."



    I advertise on Craigslist...and I will ad this to my ad!

    Simple. Truthful.

    And will clearly do the job.

    Thanks!
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:17 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidOh wait a minute, I just looked at your profile and it says you live in Idaho. Are you fucking nuts for living in Idaho!


    So true.

    I really can not leave because I have joint custody of my two young girls (7 and 3) and under Idaho law...the parent who moves loses.

    A guy I'm dating and I travel to Seattle every month or so and stay in his condo on Capital Hill. When I see a lot of the guys there living a very free and open life as gay men, sometimes I'm envious and get the urge to move away from Idaho.
    But, I have made the choices in life that I have made and my life has unfolded in this way...and I am happier now than ever in my life.

    Mike
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:45 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    moscowmikey saidIf its a female? Or a male?

    I'd never ask them about their sexuality, but I also don't wanna sign a lease with a tenant that is intolerant.

    What's the best way to handle this?
    j dude, your sexual orientation is no one else business. if they have a problem with you being gay than tough for them. dude, let them find out on there own. hell you may be surprised he or she might have already figured it out.


    I agree. I would not see any point in making a deal about my sexuality, and never have in such a setting. But then my sexuality does not define one as a whole either, there are many other aspects about one too.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:51 PM GMT
    I cannot imagine opening my home to an absolute stranger. If I chose to rent a room, then I would seek referrals. Part of that process would be to screen for appropriate candidates... meaning, those I am comfortable living with in a relaxed (honest) context.

    The burden of 'information' is on the applicant, not you. It's your home. You get to decide who you find at the breakfast table or bathroom every day.

    No need to come out to applicants. Ask good questions!

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    Apr 29, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    The new roommate will likely start suspecting when he wakes up the first night and finds you jerking off in his face.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    j dude, your sexual orientation is no one else business. if they have a problem with you being gay than tough for them. dude, let them find out on there own. hell you may be surprised he or she might have already figured it out.


    No way, there are personal safety issues involved here! I have two lodgers and my ads always state "gay friendly" in the text. Potential housemates are free to draw their own conclusions on your sexuality but they at least know that homophobia isn't welcome.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    I dont know i have to disagree with some of you. Why do u have to tell them you re gay.? Unless you plan to sleep with him. If he has issues, then that will be his problem to find out if his lanlord is gay and has a problem with it, to find someplace else yeah it is 2011. he needs to deal with it. If he is a homo phobe then then renting from a single man should tell him that he can either be str8 or gay. So its his bad.
  • rnch

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    Apr 29, 2011 6:53 PM GMT
    only if you think that the new renter is cute and might be "do-able"


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    Apr 29, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    Having the need to tell your sexuality is a form of pre-segregating. It;s not like straight people tell people they are straight. If they find out later they should be OK with it, if not you have their information and the contract stating they can stay or not.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    I'm on the opposite end of this, my lease ends in a month and I have no where to live! Such a hassle telling all potential room renters that I'm gay, awkward... but it needs to be done.
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    Apr 29, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    If I were renting out a self-contained apt I would agree with you, my sexuality is none of my tenants' business. But in sharing living space--kitchen, bathroom, laundry, etc--I don't want to rent to someone is homophobic. Why would I give someone like that access to my home?
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    Apr 29, 2011 7:02 PM GMT
    KardioKing saidI'm on the opposite end of this, my lease ends in a month and I have no where to live! Such a hassle telling all potential room renters that I'm gay, awkward... but it needs to be done.


    You can come live with me, I have the left side of my bed for rent icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    KardioKing saidI'm on the opposite end of this, my lease ends in a month and I have no where to live! Such a hassle telling all potential room renters that I'm gay, awkward... but it needs to be done.


    You can come live with me, I have the left side of my bed for rent icon_wink.gif


    Score!!!! I'm there. icon_wink.gif