Crush on my nephew

  • coolest_dude

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    Apr 28, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    I hate to admit that I have a crush on my nephew. He is about 10 yrs younger than me and he is not gay and I am not open gay either. We went on a family cruise recently and we both drank enough that I almost wanted ask him if I could blow him, but didn't.
    I know this is wrong... but what should I do.. All I want to do is to blow him, nothing else.. Please help if you have any suggestions..
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    Apr 28, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    you should move on. distract yourself with other things. things outside of your sphere. blow some stranger from CL before you blow a relative. you'll never escape it if you do.
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    Apr 28, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    First thing I would do is imagine my brother (or sister's husband) beating the living shit out of me for making a pass at his not-gay son. I would imagine the look of disgust and horror in my nephew's face as all love and respect he had for me vanished. Then I would picture me dealing with our parents, their shame, disgust, disbelief as they tried to deal with finding out I was gay and on top of that had incentuous intentions that are apparently beyond my ability to control. Then I'd think about every "family cruise", BBQ, reunion, Christmas that ever happened in the future that I would either not be invited to or everyone would be walking on glass if I did. Basically, I'd think about how acting on such an impulse could destroy in one minute relationships and trusts that literally took a lifetime to build...destroy them so that they would never, ever be the same again.

    And then I'd get my ass to a gay bar and pick up some guy who had some similarities to my N (but not creepily so), take him home and blow him (and maybe fuck his brains out) until I exorcised those demons for good.
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    Apr 28, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    ajackson saidFirst thing I would do is imagine my brother (or sister's husband) beating the living shit out of me for making a pass at his not-gay son. I would imagine the look of disgust and horror in my nephew's face as all love and respect he had for me vanished. Then I would picture me dealing with our parents, their shame, disgust, disbelief as they tried to deal with finding out I was gay and on top of that had incentuous intentions that are apparently beyond my ability to control. Then I'd think about every "family cruise", BBQ, reunion, Christmas that ever happened in the future that I would either not be invited to or everyone would be walking on glass if I did. Basically, I'd think about how acting on such an impulse could destroy in one minute relationships and trusts that literally took a lifetime to build...destroy them so that they would never, ever be the same again.

    And then I'd get my ass to a gay bar and pick up some guy who had some similarities to my N (but not creepily so), take him home and blow him (and maybe fuck his brains out) until I exorcised those demons for good.


    Excellent answer. +1
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    Apr 28, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
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    ajackson saidFirst thing I would do is imagine my brother (or sister's husband) beating the living shit out of me for making a pass at his not-gay son. I would imagine the look of disgust and horror in my nephew's face as all love and respect he had for me vanished. Then I would picture me dealing with our parents, their shame, disgust, disbelief as they tried to deal with finding out I was gay and on top of that had incentuous intentions that are apparently beyond my ability to control. Then I'd think about every "family cruise", BBQ, reunion, Christmas that ever happened in the future that I would either not be invited to or everyone would be walking on glass if I did. Basically, I'd think about how acting on such an impulse could destroy in one minute relationships and trusts that literally took a lifetime to build...destroy them so that they would never, ever be the same again.

    And then I'd get my ass to a gay bar and pick up some guy who had some similarities to my N (but not creepily so), take him home and blow him (and maybe fuck his brains out) until I exorcised those demons for good.


    Excellent answer. +1


    Stupendous reply. +2. (just trying to one-up you buddy icon_razz.gif )

    I loved the gay bar part btw. Or, there's always A4A. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 28, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    i for exorcising those demons too!
  • Koaa2

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    Big mistake if you act on this. There are all kinds of ramifications. If he was gay and you were out it might be different. The question is why are you out? This is 2011, get a life quick!
  • Koaa2

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    Why arent't you out? Sorry for that. There is no excuse for not being out these days, absolutely none!
  • coolest_dude

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    Apr 29, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    Thank you all for the answers.. Some of them are really good and an eye opener for me.. I greatly appreciate your time..
  • rnch

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    Apr 29, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    more than a few years ago i had a similar experience.

    i had a long talk with a distant cousin that i had not seen in about 15 years at a family reunion. his family was 800 miles away from mine; as a general rule we are not known as a "close nit, touchy-feely" type of extended family.

    J** was 26 at the time, i was about 15 years older than him. like me, he had recently grown out a well groomed mustache/goatee, which his bible belt conservative parents did NOT approve of. he and I were the only 2 guys in the room sporting facial hair and a semi-modern hair style.

    although not a weight lifter or a runner, he had a well-proportioned body, shorter hair style and the same blue eyes that i have. his short pants revealed tanned, nicely formed legs. his polo shirt neither hugged his lean torso nor billowed out like a tent; it fit him "just right". this "kid" had grown up and matured and filled out well!! we were the only two men there not dressed in blue jeans and "urban cowboy" style plad shirts and stetson hats.

    we started chatting over punch and cookies (this being a baptist menonite family reunion), figured out who the other was and how we were related. what kind of car we both drove (having a car (not a pick up truck) marked us both as being "hip and modern" in this farmer family group), talked about our college degrees and what all we went thru to attain them....

    we kept smiling at each other and staring deep into the other's blue eyes, chatting each other up, laughing, occassionally lightly touching each other on the shoulder or forearm as we make wise cracks, leaning against the wall away from the rest of the family and ignoring their discussion of combines and crop rotation and federal tax credits...

    athough nothing sexual or ribald or suggestive was mentioned, i felt a deep jolt in the pit of my stomach as i chatted up this distant cousin of mine. by the way his eyes dilated and how he was leaning in towards me; i suspect he felt the same way.

    still deep in the closet at that time;i didn't realize what was going on between us, that boy/young man was pegging my personal "gaydar" meter.

    later on his mother commented to my father how well the two of us "got along"; that it was unusual for J** to talk so long to relative strangers, that he was a "private person" and not one to start up a long conversation as he did with me.

    sometimes i wonder how much farther we could had gone, given more time and getting to know each other better.

    we have exchanged occassional Christmas cards; but haven't seen him since then. unlike the other prolific breeders family members; he is still single.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    I think I need to take a shower.
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    Apr 29, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
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    Apr 29, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
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    Qft