Should I join the site?

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    Apr 28, 2011 11:57 PM GMT


    Hiyas,

    Well I made an account to ask someone a question, and I noticed there's a helluva lotta big hunky musclemen here. Other sites I've been to are pretty full of bottom geeks like myself, and I have a hankerin' for being around MEN, top men mostly. I get along well with bottoms, but they're everywhere! Tops are the ones I both have problems with, and want to interact with most. And my impression is that this place has a much different ratio than most.

    I also like that this site encourages verification because the internet is full of phoney baloney assholes.

    To be forthright, I have absolutely NO interest in exercise or sports, except a little MMA. I eat a lot of candy and chocolate and ice cream and cookies, and luckily I'm still skinny, but healthy eating isn't on my mind.

    Sooo what I really wanna know is... What do you guys think of someone like me joining? And does someone who's here for the sexy musclemen get accepted fully or thought of as a pest?

    I really don't want to be a pest to anyone if I can help it.

    GTFO or Stay?
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    Apr 28, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Blakiepoo said



    Sooo what I really wanna know is... What do you guys think of someone like me joining? And does someone who's here for the sexy musclemen get accepted fully or thought of as a pest?

    I really don't want to be a pest to anyone if I can help it.


    Sound like you need more self-confidence and less of a need for approval from others.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    Don't care, but If you really need to ask....GTFO! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Only manly men are allowed here. No fems, no fatties, and no [insert anything other offensive descriptor].
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidDon't care, but If you really need to ask....GTFO! icon_rolleyes.gif

    Ditto, plus this isn't a pick-up site.

    But if you stay, you might see the errors of your wicked ways...starting with your unhealthy eating!


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    Apr 29, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    Ooh and don't worry about all the bitches out there, it's just like the real world. There are nice people and there are those that are less nice.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    You're welcome to join.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
    I'm chubby and don't work out and I'm here. Fuck what anyone thinks.
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    Apr 29, 2011 1:47 AM GMT
    Monir saidOoh and don't worry about all the bitches out there, it's just like the real world. There are nice people and there are those that are less nice.


    Warning!!!!
    Rant!!!
    (Not necessarily directed at Monir.

    OMG!! Real World my ass. Who creates the profiles on any site? Fake people? No. Real People. The only difference from the real world and the internet is that no one can immediately kick someone's ass. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Rant Over!!!
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    Apr 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    Going out on a limb here:
    If you have no interest whatsoever in working out or getting healthy, why would you ever want to join a site that is geared toward that, even if the vast majority of it's members are gay? Anduru doesn't work out according to him, but he does participate in the forums alot, which covers the 'LIFE' part of Gay Fitness Health & Life.

    I personally have no problem necessarily with you coming on here just for sex. At the very least, you admit that. Just be prepared for more push back that not.

    But, just maybe the fitness and health part will take. icon_wink.gif

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    Apr 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    Going out on a limb here:
    If you have no interest whatsoever in working out or getting healthy, why would you ever want to join a site that is geared toward that, even if the vast majority of it's members are gay? Anduru doesn't work out according to him, but he does participate in the forums alot, which covers the 'LIFE' part of Gay Fitness Health & Life.

    I personally have no problem necessarily with you coming on here just for sex. At the very least, you admit that. Just be prepared for more push back that not.

    But, just maybe the fitness and health part will take. icon_wink.gif

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    Apr 29, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    Oh, stay. Eventually you'll start to enjoy eating well and exercising. Maybe not soon, but good god, check out the hot men who do. If you have a weakness for cake, eventually you'll develop a hankering for beef...and like attracts like.
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    Mmmmmm, cake.
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    Blakiepoo said
    Well I made an account to ask someone a question, and I noticed there's a helluva lotta big hunky musclemen here. Other sites I've been to are pretty full of bottom geeks like myself, and I have a hankerin' for being around MEN, top men mostly. I get along well with bottoms, but they're everywhere! Tops are the ones I both have problems with, and want to interact with most. And my impression is that this place has a much different ratio than most.


    This discussion based site with emphasis on physical health in the eye of a homosexual male. It's not a fuck site. So you should worry less about getting your anus pounded by a penis and worry more about accidentally stepping into a puddle of flame wars involving key words like Palestine, Israel, Democrat, Republican, Sexual Racism, and Troll.
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    First of all, the question is moot. You have a profile. You did join.

    As for what we think, take note, it's REAL JOCK, not Real Parent. If you can decide what you want to eat, you can decide where you want to hang out and where you don't. Free will works on the Internet just like it does in life. It's a virtual and actual common truth - you make your own way and are responsible for your own choices and own actions.

    Look, it's a big site. The forums are just a part of it. If you treat RJ like a bar, expect similar 'bar' behavior comin' back at you. You'll find some people to cruise you in chat, etc. Go for it if that's all you want to use it for. It won't last very long, and I doubt you'll find it very satisfying, but you could find some friends. In all honesty, I don't think you'll find it very rewarding as a dating site unless you identify with the 'jock' part.

    If you do stay, please put up a fucking picture. Nothing is more annoying than people begging for approval who are still hiding behind anonymity. Grow a set and post a pic and get verified. It does wonders for credibility.

    If you treat it like a community in which you want to actively participate, then you're likely to get a better experience. But you need to expect to be asked "so, if you don't have any affinity, why are you hanging out?" If your only response is "I'm attracted to jocks" you're gonna' get some unpleasant responses in return. (Search forums for topics relating to "creepy" and "crusing at the gym" etc. to get a taste of how those responses could come flying at you...)

    In the end, you're already here. So stay. Seeking our advice on topics relative to "fitness" "Health" and "Life" is one thing, but seeking our opinion on your right to participate in an open forum is like asking us if it's okay if your breathe. It's not the high-school cafeteria. Sit down. We don't get up when you come over to the table. (Most of us don't). We might not hold conversation very long if there isn't common interest. Please note, that's not judgement that's just normal socialization.

    If you do spend time on the Forums, then what you'll experience is a LOT of push back and a lot of potential for solid friendship. You'll either be comfortable and stay, or eventually leave and move on. Like any other site. If you find yourself getting bitter or angry then I'd suggest you check your motivation and remember the sign on the gate states very clearly "Gay Fitness, Health and Life" in that order. Too many men who have a "type" but don't mirror it in any respect end up bitching here like wet hens about feeling like outsiders. It grows super tedious and so boring that eventually nobody is reading their posts and the only real interaction they have is one of fundamentally starting fires with other trolls. Even ideal cultures have fringe elements. Be advised, the quota here is almost full.

    I think that if you're truly curious about your health, and about what it means to be a gay man who is active and interested in other active, health- conscious guys, then we give relatively good counsel on most things.

    So, whether we think you should join is not relevant. Whether or not you want to participate, is. Dive in, try it out, see what happens.

    Good luck!
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidIf you do stay, please put up a fucking picture. Nothing is more annoying than people begging for approval who are still hiding behind anonymity. Grow a set and post a pic and get verified. It does wonders for credibility.

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    MuscleComeBack saidIt's not the high-school cafeteria. Sit down.

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    Apr 29, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    im marrying all of you.. just fyi.
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    Apr 29, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
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    Apr 29, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    If you don't have an interest in healthful living, why join a site that's geared toward it?
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    Apr 29, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    SFYogi saidIf you don't have an interest in healthful living, why join a site that's geared toward it?
    For the forums and eye candy, duh.
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    Apr 29, 2011 5:39 AM GMT
    i know other people have said it... but i mean if you have to ask then why even want to join?
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    Apr 29, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
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    Apr 29, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Well, joining would provide fresh meat for the vultures here. If you were republican, conservative, Christian or any combination there in, they would really have a hay day with you icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    Wow! Lots of responses! And also lots of confusion about my first post. Please realize that I speak expecting people to take my words at face value, there's no "between the lines" stuff.

    First of all, despite it saying "Guys I'm looking to meet" on every profile, I never thought of this as a dating site, nor do I look for local or online fuckbuddies. FYI, I'm celibate and single by choice (8 years and going strowng!), so I'm not here to find anything but friends.

    I have tried some other gay forums and ended up leaving for various reasons, so I'm on the market for a community to join. This one's got the gay members *check*, hotties *check*, and a different membership, a change that might make me stay longer than other sites. I don't know what else there is on this site besides forums and a chat window that popped up last night.

    paulflexes, so you're saying that effeminate personal trainers and exercising fatties are not allowed here? Is that in the terms somewhere? You might want to read my original post again, because nowhere in it did I say I was femme or fat. In fact, I said I was skinny. You must not be eating well enough for your eyes to miss that. Try eating more carrots! Get some beta carotene in ya! icon_lol.gif

    Oh, and when I made the topic, I wasn't asking you guys if I was allowed here, if I was good enough to be here, or taking a vote to decide for me. I wanted to know what reception I could expect to find here, and I wanted to consider how you all feel. To see if it was something that was a problem and RJ was making an effort to keep the site "pure"

    I'm no stranger to forums, I expect there to be trolls and people with perpetual sand in their online vagina being critical at the drop of a hat. What I didn't expect was for my consideration of you all to be thought of as a bad thing. I live in an apartment building full of inconsiderate, rude, and disrespectful people, and I am totally the opposite. And FUCK YEAH I'm proud of that! From my end, it was as asking "is someone sitting here?" and getting "you need me to tell you where the fuck to sit??" in response. nutso.

    Caslon: "you might see the errors of your wicked ways...starting with your unhealthy eating!" Just try to make me! icon_twisted.gif

    Musclecomebac... I won't bother to fill out my profile if I won't be staying, that would be silly. If I do stay, I'd fill the shit out of it and be verified. I'm usually the one complaining about other people never putting much in their profiles.

    Any other forum, I would cannonball-in, but since there's a theme here that I'm not a part of, I am restraining myself. When I get into a forum, I get very involved, opinionated but not insulting, sometimes a diffuser, funnier than I am in person, and post with quality over quantity in mind.

    Strangely, Sporty_g's response was my favourite. Kinda made me feel at ease. Have one of my cookies err.. I mean multivitamins.

    Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond whether friendly or intentionally misunderstanding, as it gives insight into how the community does.