I just came out to my mormon boss

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    Apr 29, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    And it went surprisingly well. He thanked me, told me he considers me a friend, and that he would never judge me. He said he'd do whatever he can to make the workplace a place that I'm comfortable being myself.

    I'm just very happy it went so well, and wanted to share a nudge of encouragement with you all.
  • ytOwen

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    Apr 29, 2011 9:31 AM GMT
    Congrats! Keep it up! Owen
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:32 AM GMT
    Well done mate. He sounds like he has a sensible head on his shoulders.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Apr 29, 2011 11:15 AM GMT
    Must have took a lot of balls to do that!
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    Apr 29, 2011 11:20 AM GMT
    Why did you wanna come out to your boss anyway? You must feel pretty secure in your job if you come out to a boss that's obviously religious
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    Apr 29, 2011 11:41 AM GMT
    Balls...you has them. Congrats dude! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:17 PM GMT
    Be aware of the Mormon smile.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:18 PM GMT
    True_Blue_Aussie saidBe aware of the Mormon smile.
    +infinity
    But you can't use that against all Mormons...there are a handful of genuinely nice ones.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:19 PM GMT
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    True_Blue_Aussie saidBe aware of the Mormon smile.
    +infinity
    But you can't use that against all Mormons...there are a handful of genuinely nice ones.


    Little you can tell one about Mormons know it's priesthood well. Be aware of the Mormon smile; I know it well. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    I was raised by a pack of wild Mormons in SE Idaho....
    drank the Kool-aid and ate the Jello.

    Mormons, above all religions should be tolerant of others...having been driven out of NY...Ohio...Illinois...and finally Missouri...they traveled out west to escape the persecution and live their lives the way they wanted.

    I'm glad your boss is one of the more enlightened people.
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    Apr 29, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    moscowmikey saidI was raised by a pack of wild Mormons in SE Idaho....
    drank the Kool-aid and ate the Jello.

    Mormons, above all religions should be tolerant of others...having been driven out of NY...Ohio...Illinois...and finally Missouri...they traveled out west to escape the persecution and live their lives the way they wanted.

    I'm glad your boss is one of the more enlightened people.


    Or seems that way, that smile hides a lot.

    Well the LDS religion now considers it's self a global religio, and it feels this gives it the right to meddle in Australian politics. For this American Organisation, to meddle in American politics is one thing, to do it down under is another.

    But......hay he may always seem nice, and even be a good person. But watch that Mormon smile.
  • macguyver32

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    Apr 29, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    I think that you will find that most Mormons don't use their religion as a shield against people. Also remember to separate the actions of the organization from the actions of the individual. The Mormon church can be cold and hard about many things, but most of the members, realizing that fact, largely try to mitigate it by being genuinely friendly, honest, understanding and forgiving people.

    I would say that a vast majority of Mormons you meet will treat you like your boss has chosen to.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 29, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    You were very lucky. I have a couple of friends who were involved in the Morman church and when they came out... it was a horror show.
    Kicked out of the church and isolated.
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    macguyver32 saidI think that you will find that most Mormons don't use their religion as a shield against people. Also remember to separate the actions of the organization from the actions of the individual. The Mormon church can be cold and hard about many things, but most of the members, realizing that fact, largely try to mitigate it by being genuinely friendly,


    You tell that to a certain professor at the University of Utah who came out while he was still married.... his wife and children were supportive.. but to this day his other family and friends shunned him. and the Church was the leader..... Today he lives in Kansas. and he is awesome. What a great guy!
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
    mzkyte saidAnd it went surprisingly well. He thanked me, told me he considers me a friend, and that he would never judge me. He said he'd do whatever he can to make the workplace a place that I'm comfortable being myself.

    I'm just very happy it went so well, and wanted to share a nudge of encouragement with you all.


    Gratz!
    Never had issues with any Mormons in my life, be they friends, dates, or neighbors! Sad to hear others haven't been as lucky.
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:47 PM GMT
    Congrats Buddy! I'm glad it all worked out for you. Your boss seems like a wonderful individual who truly understands the true meaning of Christian love.

    Every religion has members who think they are official embassadors of GOD, and thus, have the right to pass judgement on others. They usually sit in the front pew!
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    For as much as they love musicals and as campy as they are, you would think the gays would be a mormon's favorite thing.
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    Apr 29, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    macguyver32 saidI think that you will find that most Mormons don't use their religion as a shield against people. Also remember to separate the actions of the organization from the actions of the individual. The Mormon church can be cold and hard about many things, but most of the members, realizing that fact, largely try to mitigate it by being genuinely friendly,


    You tell that to a certain professor at the University of Utah who came out while he was still married.... his wife and children were supportive.. but to this day his other family and friends shunned him. and the Church was the leader..... Today he lives in Kansas. and he is awesome. What a great guy!


    I would say that he was a bit too close to the fire, so-to-speak. Makes sense. I'm from Logan so I know a thing or two about what you are saying. Even still, in my experience, the accepting ones have far outweighed the non's.
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    May 10, 2011 12:14 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the comments guys.

    Over the past week, I also came out to the rest of the office, including another mormon coworker, and it all went very well. The other mormon guy told me he's never had a gay friend before (my thoughts: at least that he knows of!) - just goes to show how important it is for us to take these steps and not live in fear. Now they'll all have more awareness of and respect for gay people across the board.
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    May 11, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    mzkyte saidThanks for all the comments guys.

    Over the past week, I also came out to the rest of the office, including another mormon coworker, and it all went very well. The other mormon guy told me he's never had a gay friend before (my thoughts: at least that he knows of!) - just goes to show how important it is for us to take these steps and not live in fear. Now they'll all have more awareness of and respect for gay people across the board.

    A good thing for yourself, a good thing for our community. Now please keep us updated, whether these guys were just mouthing the PC thing, or genuinely on your side. I hope they were genuine, but time will tell.
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    May 11, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    Don't worry you will be able to find another job.
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    May 11, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    True_Blue_Aussie said
    paulflexes said
    True_Blue_Aussie saidBe aware of the Mormon smile.
    +infinity
    But you can't use that against all Mormons...there are a handful of genuinely nice ones.


    Little you can tell one about Mormons know it's priesthood well. Be aware of the Mormon smile; I know it well. icon_wink.gif


    Have to agree with Patticakes here. I grew up in the middle that shit. The OP had better watch his back.
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    May 11, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    wow! that means that movie called latter days, is not true about the mormon church then?
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    May 11, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    Does anybody else feel a bit uneasy about the "I won't judge you" line? It feels like, yes there is something wrong with being gay but i'm not going to point it out. I've never said "i won't judge you" to someone who was doing something that needed no judgement. It's more of a bland tolerance, not really a proper acceptance.
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    May 11, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    russnipp saidDoes anybody else feel a bit uneasy about the "I won't judge you" line? It feels like, yes there is something wrong with being gay but i'm not going to point it out. I've never said "i won't judge you" to someone who was doing something that needed no judgement. It's more of a bland tolerance, not really a proper acceptance.
    "I won't judge you" = "you're a dirty filthy skank who needs to be fucking shot but I'll keep my mouth shut and talk about you behind your back like a good little christian."