LittleDudeWithMuscles saidBut if they become abusive idiots. . . which happens once in a great while. . .
I submerge my nice guy self and let them have it. You have to.
That's not being rude. That's standing up for yourself. I used to try to be nice with screaming idiots. That doesn't work. It never works. Scream back. Don't edit yourself. You'll win the argument. And you won't be angry with yourself for not sticking up for yourself.
Mr. LittleDudeWithMuscles, I certainly am in accord that one should not acquiesce in abuse. But I am also quite certain that you would never view someone as an abusive idiot, and take such extreme measures, unless the offense were quite grave and oft repeated, in a circumstance where it could cause you actual harm - otherwise, said behavior could not possibly constitute abuse.
It is quite difficult for me to imagine that, just to posit one completely random example, a posting on an anonymous internet message board, could constitute abuse deserving of retaliation in such magnitude. Would you agree?