Gay man with kids?

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    Apr 29, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    Gay men having kids...from their own DNA vers Adoption!
    As a single Gay man or with a partner?
    I have gotten a lot of flack from a past partner when I mentioned that I love the idea of adoption but I would love to spawn my own child! Thoughts?


    I'm a single man with no kids! I love kids and also love my freedom.
    I know right now is not the time for me to have kids, but I am preparing for that moment when I may be ready to devote myself to a child and love on them the way they deserve.

    I would love to be partnered and grow old with a man forever but a child may come before I cross paths with a Mr Right.

    Children or no children...both for me are still possible and I'd be happy either way....but I see the pride my father has now in me as I'm older and I'd love to love a kid that same way. Hmmm

    Any fathers out there? Single fathers? Curious on anyones take
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    Apr 29, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    my boyfriend has a girl. icon_smile.gif but she's 18. i guess it would have been cool if she was a bit younger...
  • commoncoll

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    Apr 29, 2011 11:17 PM GMT
    I have a 14-month old son. He can kind of sort of walk now. Possibly another child on the way. But I am not single. I have a wife.
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    Apr 30, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Ignoxuous saidI'm a single man with no kids! I love kids and also love my freedom.
    I know right now is not the time for me to have kids, but I am preparing for that moment when I may be ready to devote myself to a child and love on them the way they deserve.

    I would love to be partnered and grow old with a man forever but a child may come before I cross paths with a Mr Right.

    Children or no children...both for me are still possible and I'd be happy either way....but I see the pride my father has now in me as I'm older and I'd love to love a kid that same way. Hmmm

    Any fathers out there? Single fathers? Curious on anyones take


    I'm 41 and I have a 20 year old son. It's possible to be a single parent, you don't need a wife or partner, but you may need family support.

    I don't think I will have other kids but if my son will have kids of his own, I would be there for him to support with anything. Weekly babysitting, money, etc.
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    Apr 30, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    I will have kids one day! Single or with someone, I will still have a child. I love kids a lot and definitely see them in my future, whether adopted or surrogated. I will make it happen. =D
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    Apr 30, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    commoncoll saidI have a 14-month old son. He can kind of sort of walk now. Possibly another child on the way. But I am not single. I have a wife.


    Then you are not gay eithericon_cool.gif

    All the best with your family.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Apr 30, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    I love men with kids it melts my heart icon_redface.gif
  • mybud

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    Apr 30, 2011 3:29 AM GMT
    It's in my long range plan to have kids...
  • romern

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    Apr 30, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    I have two daughters, 6 & 9 yrs old. Love them to death. They are my life and are extremely loving girls! I'm so happy they are in my life! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 30, 2011 7:32 AM GMT
    esails said...best thing I have ever done...


    Okay I'm gonna be the asshole here (nothing personal to you esails, I just chose to quote you):
    It really pisses me off when people say that having kids is the best thing they've ever done. The way I see it, it's not the best thing but actually the easiest thing you've done. You fucked a woman and came in her and that's it. You procreated and had kids. It was actually very easy and required little thought; biology took over. You deserve no award for having kids.

    It's not hard to make them, but hard to raise them correctly. Any idiot can do what you've done, but raising kids to become adults is something else... If you have awesome adult children - then good for you. Otherwise, shut the fuck up.

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    Apr 30, 2011 8:18 AM GMT
    I'm a sperm donor father with a lesbian couple and raised my sons (18 year old twins) as thier dad. I did all the regular stuff that straight dads do and I think we have the same things to offer, make the same mistakes etc. I thought I would be vastly different from my own dad, but I was wrong lol.

    It goes by unbelievably fast, but we are still close, still have great talks and still go camping together. There are a lot of sacrifices and a lot of rewards - teaching them to drive has been really fun ( and funny). Getting along with thier biological mom has not exactly been a day at the bitch...I mean beach (oops)....

    It's not for everyone - my gay brother hates kids, but he managed to be a great uncle anyway. I've dated guys for whom this turned out to be a deal breaker, but I think I made the right choice for me. It changed me in a really good way.

    I will say this about gay parents - we put more thought into having children because with us it's more of a choice as opposed to an expectation. I thought about it for about two years before I decided.
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    Apr 30, 2011 9:01 AM GMT
    Bale02 said
    esails said...best thing I have ever done...


    Okay I'm gonna be the asshole here (nothing personal to you esails, I just chose to quote you):
    It really pisses me off when people say that having kids is the best thing they've ever done. The way I see it, it's not the best thing but actually the easiest thing you've done. You fucked a woman and came in her and that's it. You procreated and had kids. It was actually very easy and required little thought; biology took over. You deserve no award for having kids.

    It's not hard to make them, but hard to raise them correctly. Any idiot can do what you've done, but raising kids to become adults is something else... If you have awesome adult children - then good for you. Otherwise, shut the fuck up.



    No worries bub...that wasn't an ass hole thing to say, just an ignorant thing to say! You really tried to find something to be angry about! You reek of effort in your malice! You quote a guy for say'n " best thing I've ever done" then go on a rampage saying it was so easy!

    Um maybe if the guy said instead of the "best" thing ever done...the "hardest" thing he ever done. You would have a point!
    Some of the simplest acts can be the BEST things, and also its a given raising a child is tough! I don't think any parent in the end would trade that!
    If you want to hate so much, and since anyone can read into all your effort to hate in your message, give a little more effort or have your hate come from a genuine place! At least then it may make more sense! No one would agree still but we would see you for the bitter person you are instead of someone with a cry for attention.

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    Apr 30, 2011 9:42 AM GMT
    I have 4 grown children that I raised myself, 2 boys and 2 girls. I can't even imagine my life without them. They'll change you forever, both the good, bad and ugly.icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 30, 2011 10:23 AM GMT
    Bale02 said
    esails said...best thing I have ever done...


    Okay I'm gonna be the asshole here (nothing personal to you esails, I just chose to quote you):
    It really pisses me off when people say that having kids is the best thing they've ever done. The way I see it, it's not the best thing but actually the easiest thing you've done. You fucked a woman and came in her and that's it. You procreated and had kids. It was actually very easy and required little thought; biology took over. You deserve no award for having kids.

    It's not hard to make them, but hard to raise them correctly. Any idiot can do what you've done, but raising kids to become adults is something else... If you have awesome adult children - then good for you. Otherwise, shut the fuck up.



    Yes, I did fuck a woman and she got preggers. I also stayed up all night with fevers, drove thousands of miles to soccer/baseball/school. Talked him through tough times and watched him get hurt, find happiness, and work.

    The best thing I have ever done...and the hardest. PS The day he got married was the happiest day of my life. I helped raise a human being who is capable of giving and receiving love. I am proud of him and he is proud of me.

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    Apr 30, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Being a single dad is my fantasy - I can't really see myself ever being married (to a guy or a girl). I definitely want kids though..so I'm hoping it won't be a problem when I finally venture down that path.
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    Apr 30, 2011 1:09 PM GMT
    I would like to think I'd be able to raise a child and though I am good with kids. I can't picture myself with one at atm.
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    Apr 30, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    This topic comes up alot on here. Its funny how some men have biological clocks also, who knew?!

    I have a 22 yr old son thats a marine, a 20 yr old dghtr that has a 9 mnth old son, yea im a grandpa! And an 11 yr old son that is the light of my life.

    All of them are wonderful, beautiful loving kids & very accepting. I couldnt ask for better kids. They have truly shown me what unconditional love is. If it weren't for them I cant even imagine what my life would be like right now.
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    Apr 30, 2011 1:40 PM GMT
    Bigsmiles said
    Bale02 said
    esails said...best thing I have ever done...


    Okay I'm gonna be the asshole here (nothing personal to you esails, I just chose to quote you):
    It really pisses me off when people say that having kids is the best thing they've ever done. The way I see it, it's not the best thing but actually the easiest thing you've done. You fucked a woman and came in her and that's it. You procreated and had kids. It was actually very easy and required little thought; biology took over. You deserve no award for having kids.

    It's not hard to make them, but hard to raise them correctly. Any idiot can do what you've done, but raising kids to become adults is something else... If you have awesome adult children - then good for you. Otherwise, shut the fuck up.



    Yes, I did fuck a woman and she got preggers. I also stayed up all night with fevers, drove thousands of miles to soccer/baseball/school. Talked him through tough times and watched him get hurt, find happiness, and work.

    The best thing I have ever done...and the hardest. PS The day he got married was the happiest day of my life. I helped raise a human being who is capable of giving and receiving love. I am proud of him and he is proud of me.

    shower%20alden%20with%20love.JPG






    What a great pic Big smiles!! Your son looks just like you! Congrats on being a grandpa!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 01, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    I have 3 sons...got them the old fashioned way......she went psycho and the boys are all mine......my oldest is 26, middle is 19 and youngest is 16...icon_cool.gif
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    May 01, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    I'm still young but I'd like to have kids when I'm in my forties (and married hopefully) and I'd like to hire a surrogate and have at least one kid with my sperm and one kid with my future husband's sperm, so if he happens to be Black, Asian, White, or Latino, we have a kid that looks like me and one that looks like himicon_biggrin.gif I think a lot about this for being a 21 year old singleton! icon_razz.gif
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    May 01, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    DueDiligence saidI will have kids one day! Single or with someone, I will still have a child. I love kids a lot and definitely see them in my future, whether adopted or surrogated. I will make it happen. =D


    I feel the same way. One way or the other I will be a dad someday. I want more then one tho. I'm an only child and I thought it was boring I don't want that for my kid.
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    May 01, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    TheHottestTwink saidI'm still young but I'd like to have kids when I'm in my forties (and married hopefully) and I'd like to hire a surrogate and have at least one kid with my sperm and one kid with my future husband's sperm, so if he happens to be Black, Asian, White, or Latino, we have a kid that looks like me and one that looks like himicon_biggrin.gif I think a lot about this for being a 21 year old singleton! icon_razz.gif
    I'm not going to lie- I'm pretty much the same way here. I do want my own kid with my own DNA someday- when I get some life experience (some people on this forum say that I seem mature- trust me, I'm not.) and buckle down emotionally, mentally and financially. It could be with my wife or I could be like what hottest twink said and find and possibly hire a surrogate. I don't know- I can't even legally drink here, so I have a lot of time to figure things out.
  • Ironman4U

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    May 02, 2011 12:06 AM GMT
    I had a daughter the old-fashioned way...divorced and was a single parent. Then I had a partner come into the picture for 15 years who became a step-dad to my daughter. Wouldn't trade being a dad for anything in the world. Biggest and most important responsibility of my life. Feel very blessed to be a gay man and to also be a father.
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    May 02, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Bigsmiles said
    Yes, I did fuck a woman and she got preggers. I also stayed up all night with fevers, drove thousands of miles to soccer/baseball/school. Talked him through tough times and watched him get hurt, find happiness, and work.

    The best thing I have ever done...and the hardest. PS The day he got married was the happiest day of my life. I helped raise a human being who is capable of giving and receiving love. I am proud of him and he is proud of me.

    shower%20alden%20with%20love.JPG


    Awwwww. This is a great story! You really did a great job!
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    May 02, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    I think if you have the financial means to do IVF and pay for a kid's upkeep, GO FOR IT!!! I intend to! If anyone's looked into this seriously, I'd love to chat.