Finally lost it with a Dubai guy

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    Apr 05, 2008 11:58 AM GMT
    There are a LOT of really cool guys from a lot of different countries on here. I speak French and German and know a lot of guys from all over the world, which is why this kind of thing really bothers me.

    I FINALLY lost it with a guy from overseas who hopped on chat. I had never seen this guy before. Way too early in the morning. I just had to do it. If someone like this came up to me in public I would most certainly tell them to just go away.

    I get rather odd requests to "chat," either I'm supposed to give them a one-way cam show (and of course they have no cam and no pic) or do whatever. The whole polite response thing rarely works and I usually end up having to block them.

    Here's what happened. Let me know what you think:

    (some foreign dude): do u whant to have fun on cam
    wagen22302: What the fuck? I don't even fucking know you.
    wagen22302: Go have fun with yourself.
    wagen22302: Asshole
    (some foreign dude): y r u so angry if u dont want to speak to
    some one dont anser them
    (some foreign dude): and thats it
    wagen22302: Why should I bother trying to be polite to
    a rude asshole I don't even know?
    wagen22302: So the way the world is supposed to
    work is you can be whatever kind of jerk you want to
    be?
    wagen22302: And I have to be nice about it?
    (some foreign dude): sorry im not rude ass holl ots u
    wagen22302: Yes you are
    wagen22302: You don't even KNOW me and you start
    asking questions like that?
    wagen22302: I'm not normally rude at all
    (some foreign dude): k its a gay websit its for un
    wagen22302: but I am sick of guys like you coming in here like that
    wagen22302: Maybe you need to learn the difference between being gay and being a jerk about being gay
    (some foreign dude): r u gay or what
    (some foreign dude): its a gay plas her
    wagen22302: So what?
    wagen22302: Does that give you the right to act like
    that?
    wagen22302: You're a jerk
    (some foreign dude): dont u love to look for now dicks
    (some foreign dude): dont u love to suck a dick
    wagen22302: Why would you have a conversation like this with someone you don't know?
    wagen22302: you're an asshole
    (some foreign dude): k
    (some foreign dude): im so so sorry
    wagen22302: Go away
    (some foreign dude): do u whant us to be gen
    (some foreign dude): agen
    wagen22302: what the FUCK is wrong with you?
    wagen22302: what is it about "go away" that you don't understand?
    (some foreign dude): f u c k
    (some foreign dude): u
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    Apr 05, 2008 12:11 PM GMT
    what's really creepy is what if they're recording it and selling it to porn studios or something? icon_eek.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 05, 2008 1:23 PM GMT
    I'd probably never have a conversation like that, I'd just tell him to go away and block him. I don't have the time or inclination to get upset about such a small thing.
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    Apr 05, 2008 1:30 PM GMT
    Thats very common in the middle east...most guys dont get the whole relationship thing, and all they want is sex....every single guy i met on a online dating sight in the middle east is like that, it annoys the shit out of me, but they are just like that
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    Apr 05, 2008 1:44 PM GMT
    let me give u an example.....

    i have an account on Manjam.com and i have set in lebanon so i can just see what the guys there are like nowadays...but i get messages from people all around, and the weirdest thing is that they put their numbers on there...here are a few example form today morning (i xed out the numbers just for their privacy i guess)

    This guy is from the Philippines:

    [quote]ook so nice and i find u so interesting and u look so yummy and even so hot...hope we could have some fun and hope we could play a wild game...heheehe!

    josh koline here, makati area, 0xxxxxxxxxx..

    i will give it to you the best blowjob and mega deep throat ever!

    power bottom here! Wink[/quote]

    This guy is from Pakistan:

    [quote]hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii...you know what....im in love wid...you...all da day...i just watch ur pics....please do me...[/quote]


    Very lovely
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    Apr 05, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    Not worth spending the energy on it.

    I've had this happen several times. I either ignore them or else I just say, "No thank you."

    In my opinion (and it's just my opinion - doesn't make it right), I think it's just as bad to be a jerk back. It brings us down to the other guy's level.

    If you want to be constructive, why not explain to the guy that he'll have better response from contactees if he begins by having a bit of friendly conversation with a contact.

    Not all cultures are the same. Some are far more direct than ours.

    Be excellent to everyone.
  • ShawnTX

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    Apr 05, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    I don't blame you for your reaction, but they're really not worth your time.

    I get IMs like this on here all the time, I tell them I'm not interested and that they should IM someone who DOESN'T have 'If you're IMing me for c2c don't bother, I'm not interested' on their profiles (not like they actually bother to read profiles), but they just don't seem to get it.

    Just block them, cause being nice about it doesn't seem to work either.
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    Apr 05, 2008 3:01 PM GMT
    DAMN! He only asked you if you wanted to have fun on cam. A simple "no" would have sufficed. You didnt have to bite his head off.
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    Apr 05, 2008 3:21 PM GMT
    wagen22302 saidHere's what happened. Let me know what you think:

    (some foreign dude): do u whant to have fun on cam
    wagen22302: What the fuck? I don't even fucking know you.
    wagen22302: Go have fun with yourself.
    wagen22302: Asshole
    (some foreign dude): y r u so angry if u dont want to speak to
    some one dont anser them


    I find this strange.
    Based on the conversation you post above, it is you wagen who came up rude first. You could have just dismissed him, told him you are not into cyber sex and block him.
    But you chose a flame war, and now you want a pat on the back.
    I really find this odd. icon_confused.gif

    Anyway, next time search for the BLOCK button and use it.



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    Apr 05, 2008 3:31 PM GMT
    I think you were rude.

    You have choices.

    When you open Realjock and you don't want the Instant Messaging function to be switched on then turn it off.

    If you forget and someone tries messaging you and you don't want to chat then close the window and turn off your instant messaging.

    There's really no need to be unpleasant to guys you don't know. Try stepping off your little pedestal for a change.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 05, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    yeah, I turned mine off for similar reasons
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    Apr 05, 2008 3:48 PM GMT
    When guys ask incessantly to cam, I just direct them to one of those free cam sites out there, like cam4.com, so they can't stop bothering people who just what to chat about inane stuff.
  • puttputt

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    Apr 05, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Woo hoo! Was wondering when this thread would come. Here are two recent ones, both no pics:


    1. we can use our webcam for anything....


    2. Hi Jimmy, I would like to intrdouce with you, Hello my name is Kou, I am a deaf male. I am Asian, I am single. I am eighteen years old. I am come from North California, but I will be moving to San Francisco during summer times. I really like you very much. I want be your new boy friends, I am very exciting about you. You are very hot sexy man. Can I have your address or e-mail address. Please e-mail me at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx@hotmail.com. You are very look cute man . I love you very much. Muahz. Please e-mail me back. I would like to hear from you as soon as possibile.
  • ShawnTX

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    Apr 05, 2008 4:08 PM GMT
    You really can't blame wagen for his reaction. When it happens almost on a daily basis, or getting 3 IMs wanting c2c in the span of 15 mintues, sometimes you just lose your cool.

    And no, I don't think he should have to turn off his IM feature just to prevent these types from IMing him. They really should go to a pick-up site instead.
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:11 PM GMT
    "The whole polite response thing rarely works and I usually end up having to block them."


    Well, the whole impolite response thing clearly doesn't work any better, and it only makes you a bigger asshole than some guy from a different culture who just wants to cam.
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:34 PM GMT
    This type of behavior is not only limited to guys overseas. There are quite a fews guys who are stateside who act in the same manner and sometimes even more agressive...ugh!icon_rolleyes.gif

    I have taken the non-compliance approach! icon_lol.gif

    You were NOT rude. I'm not sure if I would have entertained him as long as you have, though. Live and learn.
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
    Sounds like there is a place for you on the Bush foreign policy team, if you want it.

    Ciao
    Terry
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:40 PM GMT
    I would have told him no thanks, and that would have been it, end of conversation.
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:44 PM GMT
    Not that I don't agree that starting a chat asking for a cam show is rude, but losing your temper and cursing him out is also rude. You could have handled it much better.

    To me, there is nothing that makes a guy unattractive so quickly than to see him start into a string of cursing and hostility directed at someone else, even it's justified. It makes you look bad.

    Clearly there is a cultural divide and the guy was apologetic when confronted with it.

    If this had happened to me, I would have just replied "I'm not going there" and then quit responding.
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    Apr 05, 2008 4:45 PM GMT
    Correction to my earlier post YOU WERE NOT RUDE!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 05, 2008 5:07 PM GMT
    ShawnTO saidI get IMs like this on here all the time, I tell them I'm not interested and that they should IM someone who DOESN'T have 'If you're IMing me for c2c don't bother, I'm not interested' on their profiles (not like they actually bother to read profiles), but they just don't seem to get it.

    Just block them, cause being nice about it doesn't seem to work either.


    Okay, Okay, Shawn, I won't do it again, I promise.

    Until tomorrow maybe.
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    Apr 05, 2008 5:11 PM GMT
    Caslon saidDAMN! He only asked you if you wanted to have fun on cam. A simple "no" would have sufficed. You didnt have to bite his head off.
    Exactly Caslon!!!!!!!!!!!!!What is all the big drama about?
  • ShawnTX

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    Apr 05, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
    jprichva said[quote][cite]ShawnTO said[/cite]I get IMs like this on here all the time, I tell them I'm not interested and that they should IM someone who DOESN'T have 'If you're IMing me for c2c don't bother, I'm not interested' on their profiles (not like they actually bother to read profiles), but they just don't seem to get it.

    Just block them, cause being nice about it doesn't seem to work either.


    Okay, Okay, Shawn, I won't do it again, I promise.

    Until tomorrow maybe.[/quote]

    You're the exception, of course.
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    Apr 05, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    I am sorry to say it but you came off as the rude party here. Yup, many ppl don't like these requests but you never had to resort to name calling.
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    Apr 05, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    i don't blame him. all of my profiles say something like "friends first" or "no cam requests" etc.

    my first answer to a cybersex/cam request is a blunt "no", my second response is "fuck the hell off, i said NO you fucking ass belch."

    someone please explain to me why it seems socially acceptable in a virtual world to walk up to a stranger in a mall and start fucking or sucking their dick?

    you wouldn't do it in a real mall, where the hell did the couth go? AIM/YH/MSN, etc is not "lets-fuck-right-now.com"

    most of us have instant messaging running all the time, including when friends, family, and youngsters are visiting. that aside, it's damned rude to walk up to someone, bend over and bare your nasty asshole at them and start yelling "fuck me! ohmygawd you're fucking hot! i want you to fuck me!" it's not like we live in an orgy warehouse.

    so no, i don't blame him in the slightest bit for going off on this guy. frankly i quite encourage it.