How Much is Too Much??

  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 30, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    How much is too much texting/IMing, etc? I mean I don't do it every second with a guy but sometimes I feel like people get annoyed and they don't say anything, ignore it and keep talking or they just don't respond at all. I mean, I say "hey how was your day" and it's like they are sooo cool that they can't respond or say more than 2 words icon_razz.gif

    I love it when someone asks me that. I wouldn't care if it was everyday icon_razz.gif How many people ask you how your day is? It must be a lot to get annoyed by the question lol

    I guess it comes down to this: When meeting a new person how much convo are you supposed to have? I mean talking everyday is nice but it never lasts
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    There is 3 or 4 people I am constantly texting back and forth with throughout the day lol. icon_rolleyes.gif Thank god they respond! or else I'd be bored walking, being on the bus, waiting in line, being at work... icon_redface.gif I've hardly been ignored, or ignored anyone.. My phone is stuck to me 24/7... I sleep with it even icon_rolleyes.gif so Text me bioootch lol!
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    Apr 30, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    If one has to ask the question, then probably, too much. icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 30, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    Think it may be a generational thing to some degree. Hate texting. I'll probably ignore it, call you later and we can have like, you know, a conversation?

    And I always have my Sametime switched off in the office. How on earth am I supposed to recall and follow up effectively on anything we discussed? (Unless it's been a "formal" sametime meeting).

    I acknowledge, though, that my attitude is both dated and unrealistic. I could, of course, for example, write down (or, more aptly, copy/paste/type/add to my Outlook Tasks) what someone requests in a Sametime. Same way I would with a phonecall.

    Phonecalls always get a speedier response though.

    Instant Messaging online is only enjoyable wigth people whio bother to write paragraphs (after all, you effectively speak paragraphs in dialogue).

    One-two word conversations are soooooooooooooooo tedious.

  • ohioguy12

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    Apr 30, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    I don't mind texting if there is a purpose for it (such as someone is in class/work or theyjust have a short little message) But if you're capable of calling, then I prefer that.

    A lot of people gotta remember that other people have lives too, so if it takes a while for someone to respond to a text, or if they just get a short answer then don't sweat it.
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    I rely on text msg as my preferred mode of communication. I rather not rec'd two words text replies, I mean why bother. I guess when I say this it is going to date me a bit. I am old school, I dont like the idea my boss feels he has the right to call me at any given time. call my home number! I just think something is way off on that.

    I like the good ol days, when you can call my house phone, if I am not there, leave a message and Ill get back to you.icon_biggrin.gif
    Same should apply with cell and text message.
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    I text on an off. If its someone that I really like, then the texting is frequent. Otherwise I'm really not much of texter, or cell phone talker.
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    If texted as much as I comment on here it would be too much.
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    floridajockguy said
    I like the good ol days, when you can call my house phone, if I am not there, leave a message and Ill get back to you.icon_biggrin.gif
    Same should apply with cell and text message.


    I couldn't agree with you more
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    Some people just aren't texters and some people love it. For me, it really depends on the person I am texting. If its a guy I like, I wouldn't mind texting him throughout the day. But if he wants to text me, he BETTER be a good texter! I can't stand it when a guy texts me first so he clearly wants to talk, then when I ask him about his day he will just say "good" or something like that with no elaboration. I would rather a guy not want to text me than text me but say nothing. I will stop texting right then and there
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    Apr 30, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Texting is way too frustrating for me. I'm a fast typist and the other guy is always slower, with such lengthy pauses it's obvious that he's "multitasking." Plus in person it's easier to command full attention.
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    Apr 30, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    I find it annoying if you're trying to converse.. its perfect if you want to give a short bit of information and then done...
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    May 01, 2011 9:38 AM GMT
    meemo21 saidThere is 3 or 4 people I am constantly texting back and forth with throughout the day lol. Thank god they respond! or else I'd be bored walking, being on the bus, waiting in line, being at work...


    That's exactly why after a certain amount of texts, I stop responding and may not respond at all...

    I don't want someone texting me because they are bored. I want them to text me because they want to meet. I tell people all the time, if you're not texting me to meet up, then I don't see why you are. If I wanted a pen pal I can just sit my ass on any of the various forums scattered across the internet.

    Personally, every since texting has become main stream I have found that the value of communication has plummeted. I had a guy today tell me, "well I texted you but didn't hear from you for a few hours so assumed you had a change of plans." It's like, did I say no? Because when we were speaking IN PERSON last night we agreed to meet today.

    I try to cope with it and work with people, but ultimately text messages will always be the bottom of the barrel way to communicate with people. I remember a time when it was so easy to meet people, effortlessly. And just talk on the phone. Those days seem to be a distant memory now...
  • TheAlchemixt

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    May 01, 2011 9:46 AM GMT
    I hate when people text you and they EXPECT you to respond right away and if you don't respond right away they blow up your phone or ask you why you are ignoring them. Hello, I have a life!
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    May 01, 2011 9:51 AM GMT
    You mean like with a guy you like? You don't wanna come off as desperate when a guy asks you how was your day, you have to play hard to get and if he texts you, DO NOT text him back immediately cuz otherwise he'll think your desperate, so wait like 40 minutes or so so he'll think that you're really busy and stuff hahahaha LOLicon_razz.gif
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    May 01, 2011 9:54 AM GMT
    TerraFirma saidIf one has to ask the question, then probably, too much. icon_eek.gif

    +1
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    May 01, 2011 11:00 AM GMT
    TheHottestTwink saidYou mean like with a guy you like? You don't wanna come off as desperate when a guy asks you how was your day, you have to play hard to get and if he texts you, DO NOT text him back immediately cuz otherwise he'll think your desperate, so wait like 40 minutes or so so he'll think that you're really busy and stuff hahahaha LOLicon_razz.gif


    game playing.. oh no, run!

    seriously, text back if you can, but recognise that if you text someone, you may be doing it cause you don't want to call and interrupt something the other person is doing, and if that is the case, then they may actually be doing something and not be able to text back more than a few words!

    i usually text back straight away but if i'm at work then it'll only be a few words... and i won't have time to hold a 'text convo' with someone... personally if a convo requires me to text back a second time then i'll leave it at that and call the person when i get a moment...