If Guys come up an dance near you in a club?

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    May 01, 2011 1:42 AM GMT

    This guy (who i got chatting to over fb) said he seen me out in a club an then he sent me a message over fb saying " I take it you wernt interested" (i didn't even notice him or see him out) so i asked him what he was onabout and he said he was dancing near me in the club but because i didn't notice he thought i wasn't interested, So it's got me wondering if this is what most gay guys do when out clubbing? Like say if your interested in someone do you usually dance near the guy to catch his attention?? icon_confused.gif
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    May 01, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    WhatsMyName said
    so i asked him what he was onabout


    LOL, when you said that I was like I know this guy has to be from England. And sure enough...

    Unless the guy was dancing up on me, then I won't take it for anything else other than the fact that the place was busy and there's a lot of people in there.


  • alphatop

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    May 01, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    No, you don't dance around someone you find attractive, not at allicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 01, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver saidUnless the guy was dancing up on me, then I won't take it for anything else other than the fact that the place was busy and there's a lot of people in there.


    Agreed. He could have tapped your shoulder or something to get your attention. Tell him to man up.
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    May 01, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    Baby I just wanna dance
    I don't really care
    I just wanna dance
    I don't really care.. care.. care
    Feel it in the air... yeah yeah

  • rebelbeard

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    May 01, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    WhatsMyName said
    so i asked him what he was onabout


    LOL, when you said that I was like I know this guy has to be from England. And sure enough...

    Unless the guy was dancing up on me, then I won't take it for anything else other than the fact that the place was busy and there's a lot of people in there.





    LMAO I thought the same thing!


    I always keep a visual on everyone around me when I go out. I like to be aware of my surroundings at all times. You never know when a hot guy will be there or a ninja assassin is going to try and kill you.
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    May 01, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    I just go 2 dance...but I do know the feeling when guys are dancing close 2 you or even grab you to get your attention...
  • needleninja

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    May 01, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    usually when your dancing, you dont necessarly notice other people dancing, or who show intrests in you. i dont see what the problem is.
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    May 01, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidBaby I just wanna dance
    I don't really care
    I just wanna dance
    I don't really care.. care.. care
    Feel it in the air... yeah yeah



    Good song! When I worked at a club, that song would play all the time! David Guetta rocks! I also like his Kelly Rowland song about dancing. These two are awesome songs!
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    May 01, 2011 8:55 PM GMT


    I don't notice anyone when I dance. Just dance! =D Let him know that when you dance, you're in a trance and all you feel is the music. Haha, I've never taken drugs in my life but people tell me whenever I dance, the think I'm on E or something. Hahahahaha!

    I don't mind dancing with someone but if they get a little to bold and try to make out or something, I literally will dance away. Hahaha.
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    May 01, 2011 9:06 PM GMT

    "Hi, it's me, lets dance"

    see how easy that is. fuckin drama queens.
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    May 01, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    ScottsSoHot said
    "Hi, it's me, lets dance"

    see how easy that is. fuckin drama queens.


    Sounds easy on paper, but once you're out on the playing field it's not as simple as that.

    Last thing you want is to go up and start dancing with someone who was not even interested to begin with, and then half way thru the song he's "gotta go find his friends" and just leaves you hanging there feeling stupid.

    Trust me, I've had that happen before and I've done that to people as well. All the embarrassment would be eliminated if both parties showed a bit more interest. If 1 does and the other doesn't, then there's no dance.

    Rule is, if he doesn't look at you...then he doesn't want to dance. He could be dancing 1 inch away from me, but if he hasn't looked at me...then he's not interested. But, all I need to do is walk a few feet to the left, right, front or center and guarantee someone else will...
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    May 01, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    ScottsSoHot said
    "Hi, it's me, lets dance"

    see how easy that is. fuckin drama queens.


    Sounds easy on paper, but once you're out on the playing field it's not as simple as that.

    Last thing you want is to go up and start dancing with someone who was not even interested to begin with, and then half way thru the song he's "gotta go find his friends" and just leaves you hanging there feeling stupid.

    Trust me, I've had that happen before and I've done that to people as well. All the embarrassment would be eliminated if both parties showed a bit more interest. If 1 does and the other doesn't, then there's no dance.

    Rule is, if he doesn't look at you...then he doesn't want to dance. He could be dancing 1 inch away from me, but if he hasn't looked at me...then he's not interested. But, all I need to do is walk a few feet to the left, right, front or center and guarantee someone else will...


    The OP stated they knew each other. Play all the games you want, life is not complicated unless you make it that way, see your response above.
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    May 01, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    ScottsSoHot said
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    ScottsSoHot said
    "Hi, it's me, lets dance"

    see how easy that is. fuckin drama queens.


    Sounds easy on paper, but once you're out on the playing field it's not as simple as that.

    Last thing you want is to go up and start dancing with someone who was not even interested to begin with, and then half way thru the song he's "gotta go find his friends" and just leaves you hanging there feeling stupid.

    Trust me, I've had that happen before and I've done that to people as well. All the embarrassment would be eliminated if both parties showed a bit more interest. If 1 does and the other doesn't, then there's no dance.

    Rule is, if he doesn't look at you...then he doesn't want to dance. He could be dancing 1 inch away from me, but if he hasn't looked at me...then he's not interested. But, all I need to do is walk a few feet to the left, right, front or center and guarantee someone else will...


    The OP stated they knew each other. Play all the games you want, life is not complicated unless you make it that way, see your response above.


    I would say Scott is spot on! Ive always said life isnt that complicated or hard, its what we make of it. Rock on Scott!
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    May 02, 2011 12:10 AM GMT
    HighOctane said
    I would say Scott is spot on! Ive always said life isnt that complicated or hard, its what we make of it. Rock on Scott!


    Well, if life wasn't that complicated or hard, why is the question being presented here?

    See, I have an issue with that type of thinking. No, life isn't impossible...but it's certainly not easy. Nobody teaches us how to ask guys to dance and I see this EVERY SINGLE TIME when I go out with someone. They see someone, but they can't ask them to dance. Or they go up to someone who didn't even notice them and try to make a relationship out of it.

    All I'm saying is that you can't just assume someone wants to dance just because they are dancing near you. The OP did not know the guy, the guy just happened to see him on facebook.

    I seen 1 guy, he was dancing all hard in front of me and my friend. Well, when I went up to talk to him later that night, he says...well, actually I was trying to get with your friend!

    So no, it's not just simple, easy breezy world. It's a tough, fast and harsh world. And when you get into the nightclub, where things move EXTREMELY fast, and there's people all around you it gets that much difficult.

    By just jumping up and dancing with any old person just because they are dancing near you can be not only embarrassing but dangerous.

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    May 02, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    HighOctane said
    I would say Scott is spot on! Ive always said life isnt that complicated or hard, its what we make of it. Rock on Scott!


    Well, if life wasn't that complicated or hard, why is the question being presented here?

    See, I have an issue with that type of thinking. No, life isn't impossible...but it's certainly not easy. Nobody teaches us how to ask guys to dance and I see this EVERY SINGLE TIME when I go out with someone. They see someone, but they can't ask them to dance. Or they go up to someone who didn't even notice them and try to make a relationship out of it.

    All I'm saying is that you can't just assume someone wants to dance just because they are dancing near you. The OP did not know the guy, the guy just happened to see him on facebook.

    I seen 1 guy, he was dancing all hard in front of me and my friend. Well, when I went up to talk to him later that night, he says...well, actually I was trying to get with your friend!

    So no, it's not just simple, easy breezy world. It's a tough, fast and harsh world. And when you get into the nightclub, where things move EXTREMELY fast, and there's people all around you it gets that much difficult.



    They had been chatting on FB ergo they had previous knowledge of each other. Please keep responding, your responses highlight how drama is a lifestyle. Your own account of walking up to someone and them not wanting you is the "simple" way of finding out. You creating a scenario in your head that he wanted you is the complicated drama based way of being in a situation.

    BTW a club is not the world nor life.
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    May 02, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    Depends on what the Dj's spinning.
    some songs I don't notice anyone unless they're spanking my ass or have their hands in my pants...must be why that happens a lot.
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    May 02, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    ScottsSoHot said
    They had been chatting on FB ergo they had previous knowledge of each other. Please keep responding, your responses highlight how drama is a lifestyle. Your own account of walking up to someone and them not wanting you is the "simple" way of finding out. You creating a scenario in your head that he wanted you is the complicated drama based way of being in a situation.

    BTW a club is not the world nor life.


    Actually, it is. Because you're there, you're around people and you want to have a good time. Your mere presence puts you in a scenario that's life and death. Dancing or not dancing. Getting a guy or not getting a guy. There's feelings involve, emotions involved both good and bad. Your spirit and dignity does not go on vacation when you walk inside a club. Your ego doesn't either. You want to protect both of those and not put those on the line.

    Regardless of how you feel, that does not speak for the masses. This guy asked a question and your statement stating, "fucking drama queens" is neither helpful nor refined.

    Now, I do understand that sometimes yes, you just wanna ask someone to dance regardless of the situation. But not everyone is prepared to dance and not everyone is prepared to be so blatantly turned down. Instead of taking chances, try to feel if the person is on to you rather than aggressively approaching someone who may not feel the same as you.