Changing room etiquette question...

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    Feb 14, 2007 12:11 AM GMT
    I work out at the office, in the morning. There's like maybe seven of us regulars who show up around 6:30 a.m. We have communal showers in our change rooms so it's a given that we're going to see ourselves naked, which is fine. However - although I am very comfortable with being naked, so that's not the problem - I have a colleague who insists on carrying on dedicated and comprehensive conversations while we're in the change room, especially when he's coming out of the showers and drying himself with all the subtlety of an bull in a wheat field. That's something I'm not comfortable with. For a while now, I've been timing myself to either finish before him so I can beat him to the showers, or try to tend to other pre-shower grooming until he leaves the shower room, to no avail. The later I walk in after him, the longer his showers, it seems. What do I do?
  • dfrourke

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    Feb 14, 2007 1:28 AM GMT
    I hate to be simplistic, but I really see 3 solutions here:

    1. Continue to avoid the situation by timing your workouts around his so you miss the conversation.

    2. Talk to your co-worker/colleague about locker room chatter later in the day when you both are not "in the moment."

    3. Don't work out at work.

    Good luck.

    - David
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    Feb 14, 2007 1:37 AM GMT
    Are you not comfortable talking... or him being naked. He might be trying prolong the interlude for a reason.
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    Feb 14, 2007 2:02 AM GMT
    Are they business conversations? It would be nice if you could divert those to the office proper, but beware of being excluded from them. I once worked in a department where lots of important business was conducted during the lunch-time jogs. And I'm not a runner (bad knees.) I also used to work out at a gym that was next to a law school. There were always naked lawyers in the shower loudly trading info about what scumbags their clients were and actually working out deals in there. I guess it's a grand old tradition, but I always wondered just why they couldn't do business in the office.
  • UTB1

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    Feb 14, 2007 3:14 AM GMT
    Best way to deal with it is to mimic his actions. If he is like a bull in a wheat field - u do the same, but be the stud bull in the wheat field. He will either get real uncomfortable and get the drift or u will have an idea of what his real motivations are.
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    Feb 14, 2007 4:56 PM GMT
    Don't wear red. #;0)

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    Feb 14, 2007 11:28 PM GMT
    Hey guys, thanks for your very valuable advise and insight. sephchek, I've posed myself the same question, but really, whichever way I look at it, it wouldn't be an attractive proposition to me, for numerous reasons. Mindgarden, I understand what you're saying - I quit smoking last year and I realized how much business was actually conducted in the smoking room. As we seldom work on the same projects, my colleague and me, I don't think it would affect my beingintheloopness.

    We'll see tomorrow a.m. as he'll probably be working out again. And I'll make sure that none of my workout clothes are red :-)

    Thanks again guys.
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Sep 06, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    It's a straight guy thing, don't worry about it, he's not trying to pick you up. Just turn toward the wall, dry your self off and get dress and just say uh huh a lot.
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    Sep 06, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    I'm betting that in the years that have ensued since this topic was created, the OP and the locker room exhibitionist have run away together. Hey, call me a hopeless romantic...
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    Sep 06, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    Maybe I'm jaded, but I really don't believe most of the shit that gets posted in the forums. Like this thread. Sounds more like erotic fiction. Just like all the "crushing on straight best friend" threads.
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    Sep 06, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIt's a straight guy thing, don't worry about it, he's not trying to pick you up. Just turn toward the wall, dry your self off and get dress and just say uh huh a lot.


    Straight guy thing. We have our really big, deep conversations in the locker room. We did it tonight until about 15 minutes after the gym had closed. Don't worry about it because no one is hitting on anyone. We have maybe all of four or five homosexuals in the gym so there's no one around to do the hitting.
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    Sep 06, 2013 2:54 PM GMT
    You might yell, "Put your pants on and then we'll talk" as I have already done with so many men at the gym.
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    Sep 06, 2013 3:24 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidAre they business conversations? It would be nice if you could divert those to the office proper, but beware of being excluded from them. I once worked in a department where lots of important business was conducted during the lunch-time jogs. And I'm not a runner (bad knees.) I also used to work out at a gym that was next to a law school. There were always naked lawyers in the shower loudly trading info about what scumbags their clients were and actually working out deals in there. I guess it's a grand old tradition, but I always wondered just why they couldn't do business in the office.

    Women in an office will often complain about being excluded from business chat in those kinds of male-only environments. That includes on the golf course. And although private country club discrimination against women playing golf is seldom seen nowadays, very often men don't want to make a foursome with female players. A woman excluded from the business deals conducted on the golf course can be at a serious professional disadvantage, and maybe some men want it that way.

    It's also one of the reasons why women lobbied to open up male health clubs to women, including the YMCA (as well as because of the inferior or even nonexistent facilities that women had). But then again, women still can't get into male locker rooms, saunas & steam rooms, and many men will only play games like racquetball with other men.
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    Sep 06, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    Very very ^^^^^ true. It's not all that intentional really, it just happens that men bond and talk in those kind of environments. Lots of business goes down in the locker room and/or golf course. Lot of opportunities that hear about in those kind of environments.

    Although there are some women in my side of the business, it is still very male 90% dominated. Even the annual commercial awards banquet is still held in the large downtown athletic club as it has been for a 100 years or so ... an environment that once epitomized what Bob is talking about.
  • BillandChuck

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    Sep 06, 2013 6:11 PM GMT
    Obviously the OP was never in the service because if he had been, this wouldn't have been anything unusual to him whatsoever. We're pretty convinced that the major military initiatives in the history of America were mostly planned in the shower rooms of the command bases and Pentagon!
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    Sep 06, 2013 6:19 PM GMT
    When you're involved playing team sports, you take part in a whole lot of conversations with the guys in the gang showers and later when drying off or using the sink areas. The talk is about the game, the practice, the upcoming weekend, anything at all. It is a high energy, happy, upbeat, highly charged atmosphere. There shouldn't be any problem with this kind of camaraderie among healthy well adjusted males.
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    Sep 06, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidWhen you're involved playing team sports, you take part in a whole lot of conversations with the guys in the gang showers and later when drying off or using the sink areas. The talk is about the game, the practice, the upcoming weekend, anything at all. It is a high energy, happy, upbeat, highly charged atmosphere. There shouldn't be any problem with this kind of camaraderie among healthy well adjusted males.


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