My BF Wants to do Porn ...

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    May 02, 2011 8:40 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past year and everything has been great. Unfortunately, ever since he created a RealJock profile, he has been getting a lot of attention. I like to think I am a good-looking guy and I am typically not a jealous person. However, the straw hit the camels back when my boyfriend mentioned someone at Sean Cody, who saw him on this site, is trying to get him to do porn for their website. He says he wouldn't do it, but I constantly find him bringing it up in normal conversation and bragging to his friends about it. He talks about how hot the guys on the website are and how much money he would make having sex with these guys.

    I'm trying to dig deep within myself to find why this bothers me so much. I wanna be the cool boyfriend and say that it wouldn't bother me, but I also don't want to compete with these porn stars. It scares me that I will lose him over this because I know he would definitely enjoy himself and then what would he need me for anymore. I couldn't be with him anymore.

    I really need some advice or your thoughts/opinions. Could you be in a relationship with someone who did internet porn?

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    May 02, 2011 8:42 AM GMT
    I could date someone who is already doing internet porn as long as I know what's going on. But I'd get weirded out if I was with someone for a year who just started doing porn now. I don't know if I could accept that.
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    May 02, 2011 8:58 AM GMT
    I'm sorry icon_sad.gif
  • Timbales

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    May 02, 2011 12:48 PM GMT
    not to insult your bf, but having Sean Cody after you isn't exactly the most exclusive thing to happen to someone
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    May 02, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    Timbales saidnot to insult your bf, but having Sean Cody after you isn't exactly the most exclusive thing to happen to someone


    My thoughts exactly.

    It sounds like your boyfriend enjoys the idea of doing porn, and is very flattered by having someone contact him to do it. I doubt he'd do it though. Give it a month, I bet it passes.
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    May 02, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    ..it is nothing...me and two of my friends got email from sean cody about doing porns with them too... it is not that exclusive...

    it is worth thinking bout it if they pay loyalty fees and you get a cut of what they make...but just one time payment..no

    as of being in relationship with someone who did porn...yeah why not....it really doesnt bother me....

    like the previous poster said....tell him to go ahead and do it....I doubt he will go through with it...
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    May 02, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    JAKEBENSON saidI could date someone who is already doing internet porn as long as I know what's going on. But I'd get weirded out if I was with someone for a year who just started doing porn now. I don't know if I could accept that.


    Jake's totally right. I agree 100%.
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    May 02, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    Sounds to me like he just wants an excuse to have sex with other hot guys.
    If he were pondering the idea primarily from a business standpoint, I'd say tell him to go for it.
    But as it stands, I'd say he just wants to cheat; and getting paid for it would simply be a bonus.
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    May 02, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    they never asked me icon_confused.gif
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    May 02, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidthey never asked me icon_confused.gif


    Your profile pic is too ambiguous. I had no idea it was a body side shot when I first looked at it. Besides you're way too expensive to fly out icon_sad.gif. Too far. (I am guessing btw I don't work for them)
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    May 02, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    Aren't Sean Cody the 'straight' guys that just talk about themselves and then jack off?
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    May 02, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidAren't Sean Cody the 'straight' guys that just talk about themselves and then jack off?


    Just the fact that you asked that question means you're a bad gay, but an Innocent good boy icon_wink.gif
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    May 02, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    It happens man, and it is a huge ego boost when someone wants to pay you to strip naked.

    At the end of the day, the people Ive played with who have done porn have told me that it is just a job. If he considers it to be sex, he is highly mistaken. Most of what you do is to look hot, and not feel good.

    It will pass in time.
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    May 02, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Maybe he's just too proud about how hot he is, and he doesnt seem to intend to go for that porn offer. Money is big, so he might surely have the tendency of boasting about it.

    But if he goes for it then ... um well, i'm the selfish type so i don't think sharing my man's goodness is a good thing.
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    May 02, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    I guess we are just not on the same level sexually. He wants sex multiple times a day and I can't do that everyday. I don't have the stamina.

    Of course, the idea of being paid to get banged by a bunch of attractive (ahem) "straight" guys sounds hot. I understand that. What gay man wouldn't enjoy that ... in theory. And I agree, Sean Cody is nothing spectacular like he seems to think. Once it's out there, it's out there for good. My boyfriend on the other hand doesn't see it like that. He tells me "those porn sites love blonde bottoms like myself." I used to think he was just a normal, good wholesome guy with respect for himself. I'm starting to think otherwise.

    I feel my body is reserved for the person who works hard at trying to win me over and who is in love with me for more than just sex ... not just every "Joe Blow" (no pun intended) who subscribes to see me nude. Once you actually see it, there is no more mystery.

    And for those of you who say he probably wouldn't go through with it, I definitely know he would. He is a consultant so his job requires a good amount of travel and he makes great money already, so doing porn would just be for pure pleasure (which makes me even sicker to my stomach). I'd rather have him tell me upfront. It would be worse if did it and kept it a secret from me because he already knows I'm against it. That way I can decide if I could continue with him further.

    I'm not even going to get into the whole aspect of spreading STDs/HIV because I think we all know that could happen.
  • rnch

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    May 02, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    the bf doing porn would be the end of our relationship.



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    May 02, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    If he did it in the past, it's no big deal.
    If he already was doing it before we met, I would need some time to get used to it.
    If we were already dating and monogamous, it would be really tough. I would understand a guy who got into it because the job he was doing or wanted to be doing wasn't hiring in this economy. If it's not this, then it seems like he's trying to sabotage the relationship.