Picking up guys at the gym...

  • snip3s

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    May 02, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    So I'm recently single and never noticed before the guys checking me out at the gym.

    But now that I take notice of it what's the proper protocol to take?

    I go to school gym (not a gay gym) n I'm not really looking to just hook up. I'm hoping to make a new friend/ date/ work out buddy.

    1 guy saw me in the showers as he was leaving to dry up, n then quickly came back for a 2nd shower icon_biggrin.gif

    I thought he was cute, noticed him checking me out several times after that, usually in the locker room. I approached him once, but he seemed really nervous n then I realized he was there with a work out partner so I left him alone. I approached him on a separate occasion when he was there alone and I introduced myself and got his name.

    Now what...?
    Idk if he's openly gay or simply curious. Do I try to set up a date? Do I ask for his number? Do I just wait for him to make the next move since I already approached him for his name?

    Also, what's proper protocol for me checking out/ meeting other guys at the gym that I think are hot and might be gay? How do I approach in a friendly way that doesn't necessarily make me look like a horny gay guy hitting on a possibly straight guy...?

    sorry if this topic is posted somewhere previously, I didn't see it...
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    May 02, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    omg you are making this way too complicated. Just approach it like how you would making a new friend. When I was in college I would make friends off gym all the time. Easiest way is to lift weights around them and ask them to spot you. Voilà! And if you are around the same fitness level and he doesn't have a workout buddy, do it together. You can then hang out and enjoy the steam room / sauna / protein shakes together. It's a really bonding experience icon_smile.gif. How do you know if he's gay? Just see if he's checking out your bod when you guys are in the steam room together. Boner: gay. No boner: questionable but likely straight.

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  • snip3s

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    May 03, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    haha, tnx man.

    I just don't like to be obvious/ make the 1st move and then the hot guys are usually pretty intimidating to go over and ask for a spot especially when I lift not as much as they do...

    I guess I'll wait for the chance to offer my help to spot him?
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    May 03, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    Smile, then say hello.
    Then drop trou. Lol! icon_wink.gif
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    May 03, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidSmile, then say hello.
    Then drop trou. Lol! icon_wink.gif


    and drop the soap. icon_biggrin.gif

    haha.

    just be yourself, find some common ground, or tell him that he kicked ass on his workout or some shit like that, guys at the gym like their egos stroked.
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    May 03, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    One of my rules is "Don't shit where you eat", or in this case lift"icon_razz.gif
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    May 03, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    I've met a couple of exes at the gym. It's a great social arena for gay guys and you are already starting with something in common.

    Just act like it's any other social arena and be natural.
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    May 03, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    Like the other guys said, talk to him and start working out together. Use your common interest to build a relationship.
    You can ask him to spot for you. Drop you pants. Say, "Do you spot anything you like?"
  • snip3s

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    May 03, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    haha, tnx guys, good advice.

    in the past i'd always go gym with whoever I was seeing at the time, so picking up at the gym was never an option until now.

    i hear ya about not shitting where u lift but i figure my gym schedule is easy enough to change if i ever really needed to avoid some1.

    Today I'll see if I can say a few words to the guy I've had my eye on for the past few days.

    I'll let u guys know how it went...
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    May 03, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    Easy fix; Just go over and say hi. The end.


    Although, If he's intimidated by you that might not work very well. I have tons of "admirers" in one of my gyms that stare every single day yet when I go over to break the ice and introduce myself, they are ultra shy and never return the glance yet they keep staring through the mirrors. Go figure.

    I guess, I'll never hook up with anyone at that gymicon_cry.gif
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    Feb 21, 2014 2:10 PM GMT
    i never knew about picking up guys at the gym or anywhere for that matter lol i mean i presume everyone to be straight except for the obvious lads but i dont think i could approach a lad and ask him out in that sense but yet if dared i would tell them they are fit haha
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    Feb 21, 2014 3:34 PM GMT
    Cityaznguy saidomg you are making this way too complicated. Just approach it like how you would making a new friend. When I was in college I would make friends off gym all the time. Easiest way is to lift weights around them and ask them to spot you. Voilà! And if you are around the same fitness level and he doesn't have a workout buddy, do it together. You can then hang out and enjoy the steam room / sauna / protein shakes together. It's a really bonding experience icon_smile.gif. How do you know if he's gay? Just see if he's checking out your bod when you guys are in the steam room together. Boner: gay. No boner: questionable but likely straight.

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    ∆ Great advice. I might like to add.....pretend the guy is someone you have no sexual interest in. With me, I just behave the way I would behave around a girl I thought was cool. Just talk to him as a potential friend and it takes off a lot of that pressure you're feeling. Disconnect your brain from your dick for a minute. If he's interested in you as more than a friend, you can quickly turn it back on.
  • comoesta

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    Mar 07, 2014 6:34 PM GMT
    I know wt u mean. At the gym there are 2 cute guys. We check each other out all the time from far. Recently, I've started to put myself out there. So, past week I approached them. Both times, they would answer the questions I ask them and would never ask me anything in return. And while they answer me they seem quite nervous, so I leave them at that. I guess someone will come along, I just need to wait it out.
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    Mar 07, 2014 6:57 PM GMT
    You're making this way too hard. Everyone at the gym knows I'm gay. I tell them I'm a gay activist.

    "My name is Chuck Gudgel. Pleased to meet you Billy Smith. I'm in my 39'th year of lifting. Know that I never require exclusive access to a machine. I understand the adult concept of sharing. I'm gay, by the way, but, if you're straight, I won't hold it against you."

    I've said that many, many, times.

    All the silly stuff around this is just that...silly.

    Put the fact that you're gay on the table, remove the doubt, and it opens up the integrity of the interaction, and makes the relationship honest.

    I mentioned this the other day, but, there's a young black man who works at the gym, as a trainer; he's gorgeous; he's going to the NFL Combine here in a few weeks, and... he loves to feel me up. He's completely comfortably with the fact that I'm a very built gay guy and is very public about when he feels me up. We giggle and said in the free weight area "Wanna feel, Bud?" We both giggled. (Talked to him at length last night. He's very much the alpha male, but, a young man that exudes extreme confidence, and he's super nice. There was another guy who plays in the NFL for Cleveland I spoke with him at length, last night, too.)

    You're gay. Get honest. Get a life. Get on with it.

    Choose to lead; to be a leader; to empower; rather than being a quivering coward. You'll be the happier for it. You'll be healthier for it. You'll inspire others. Get with it.

    GET OVER IT.

    I had a second conversation on Scruff the other night with a fireman from Allen. Faceless, 40ish, he had come after me before. Closeted; says he'll lose his job if he has integrity. Nothing could be further from the truth, of course. So... he leads a miserable, self loathing, dishonest, existence. I told him, very nicely, "I can't have you in my life."