My boyfriend made me support heteros

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    Apr 06, 2008 12:48 AM GMT
    He had me goto a heterosexual wedding today at some church. I went to be a nice and accompany him. He knew I wanted to stage a protest as the reverand (who had a butch haircut) said "today we are here for christian marriage, a marriage is between a man and a woman" she said that statement three times. Our whole pew in the church was lavender lane because we were all gay and lesbian and I was pissed. I dunno what the point of this post is, just ranting i guess.

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  • Timbales

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    Apr 06, 2008 12:50 AM GMT
    So you supported him? That's nice.
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    Apr 06, 2008 1:06 AM GMT
    I think that it is great that you supported him as well as allowing the day to be about the couple rather than protesting it.

    I know how wrong it feels when others want to protest "our" rights.
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    Apr 06, 2008 1:37 AM GMT
    Religious marriage has nothing to do with civil marriage. I can get married to a guy at any number of churches without the consent of the state. When we are fighting for gay marriage we are not trying to strong arm religious folks into accepting us into their little institution.
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    Apr 06, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    he made u? did he physically pull u by ur hand and take u there? i believe u had the freedom the choose whether or not to go...just correcting the statement here...

    but i dont see anything wrong with supporting it...marriage in my opinion is marriage....and its happiness and its a commitment....man man, woman man, tree man..or even dog and man....its all happy
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    Apr 06, 2008 2:52 AM GMT
    well im in the fight for civil marriage, if a church wants to be dumb its their perogative. i just couldnt believe i was sitting in the pews of a dumb institution. whatever i did it for him and its over with.

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  • GeorgeNJ

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    Apr 06, 2008 3:14 AM GMT
    You went with your boyfriend to show support for the couple, not support for the church minister.

    In fact, you're being there with your boyfriend - and all the rest in Lavender Lane -- was a statement in itself.

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    Apr 06, 2008 4:22 AM GMT
    ggeo17: "In fact, you're being there with your boyfriend - and all the rest in Lavender Lane -- was a statement in itself."

    Yeah hippie, I think you should be proud. It might have been the first time that homophobic minister even observed loving gay couples in real life.
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    Apr 06, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    Excellent points, ggeo17!

    He went for the couple, you went for him. That's love.
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    Apr 06, 2008 9:03 AM GMT
    It's good to be there to support straight weddings. For each straight wedding you're invited to, that's at least two people who love you enough to fight with us for gay equality.
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    Apr 06, 2008 9:06 AM GMT
    Awesome that you went to this wedding, man.

    As for being "made" to do something I don't think that is the case. If you truly don't want to do something, unless you have no choice in the matter, then you wouldn't have gone. I'm sure your BF would understand if weddings weren't your thing.

    Hope you had fun at least. Wedding cake is pretty good.
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    Apr 06, 2008 2:37 PM GMT
    did you enjoy yourself hippie?

    and question 2, does the couple hold the same views as the minister? if THEY do, then i would be surprised of there even being a bunch of 'mos invited to the ceremony. but from what i get from the story, the minister is following the doctrine of a religion she holds in high regard. as MZ said, other churches will still marry you, the fight for marriage isn't against a church church specifically, it's with the government.
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    Apr 06, 2008 2:42 PM GMT
    I have been to several weddings where they state that more than once and there was no "lavender lane". Any chance you are over reacting? Let's not forget that a Christian wedding is between and man and a woman even though one day I hope to legally be bound to my bf. icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 06, 2008 2:44 PM GMT
    Chizzad saidLet's not forget that a Christian wedding is between and man and a woman even though one day I hope to legally be bound to my bf.


    There's no law against tying him up even now, is there? I mean, some guys are into that.
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    Apr 06, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
    jprichva saidChizzad saidLet's not forget that a Christian wedding is between and man and a woman even though one day I hope to legally be bound to my bf.

    There's no law against tying him up even now, is there? I mean, some guys are into that.


    Haha you are right, I am waiting on the revolution LOL
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    Apr 07, 2008 7:43 AM GMT
    nah the couple who had the wedding are great, very gay-friendly hence the presense of lavender lane in the church. I guess you guys are right, I wonder if the reverand though made those comments knowing there was a decent sized queer ppulation present. i wanted to go talk to her after to voice how her words hurt me but my boyfriend is totally not the activist type and get very uncomfortable. sometimes i wonder how he dates me considering my life is activism lol. the cake was good lol, and his gay co-workers are fun so all in all it was a win. damn bitch reverand lol.

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    Apr 07, 2008 8:17 AM GMT
    Well I have no interest in marriage, unless it includes polygamy! lol

    Since One does not support terrorism. One refuses too step foot in a catholic Church, as they were the First religious Terrorists. icon_twisted.gif they be....