Dammit why do I always end up with the sloppy seconds?

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    May 03, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    This is kind of adding on to my other post, but I'm just wondering am I the only one who always ends up with guys who are either just getting out a relationship and not over their X or guys who are already in relationships but are just seeing their options open?

    It just seems time and time again I always end up with the bruised, the hurt guy who was hurt so bad in his last relationship that he can't seem to get with someone else again. And then all they fucking talk about is their X?

    Arrgghhh I'm just so annoyed right now. That's why I was saying in another topic where the guy's X was dating his best friend and consider sloppy seconds. Well for what I run into most of them are someone's sloppy seconds.
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    May 03, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    Because you seek out drama and wouldn't know how to have a relationship that was healthy, from reading your profile you are just another club kid who thinks what kind of man-purse you carry is more important than the type of person you are.

    Like attracts like.
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    May 03, 2011 6:26 AM GMT
    ScottsSoHot saidcdn, cocky, and charismatic.. why do guys hate?


    That's what your profile says. Obviously you're not getting too far with guys yourself.

    Stop picking fights with me already. I want real advice, not gibberish coming from your fucking asshole
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    May 03, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    ScottsSoHot saidcdn, cocky, and charismatic.. why do guys hate?


    That's what your profile says. Obviously you're not getting too far with guys yourself.

    Stop picking fights with me already. I want real advice, not gibberish coming from your fucking asshole


    I get any guy I want. I'm not a desperate whore who picks up anything he can find at the clubs.
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    May 03, 2011 6:31 AM GMT
    ScottsSoHot said
    I get any guy I want. I'm not a desperate whore who picks up anything he can find at the clubs.


    You can't get me....so what you saying?
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    May 03, 2011 6:32 AM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    ScottsSoHot said
    I get any guy I want. I'm not a desperate whore who picks up anything he can find at the clubs.


    You can't get me....so what you saying?


    wanna bet? two jager bombs and a $5 Id have you
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    May 03, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    Record time. This thread turned into a bitchfight in like 3 posts!!

    Would you like me to pour you guys a bowl of milk?
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    May 03, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    ScottsSoHot saidwanna bet? two jager bombs and a $5 Id have you


    I knew you were into me all this time! Typical schoolyard bully behavior.
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    May 03, 2011 7:14 AM GMT
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    May 03, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    Let's try this thread again.
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    May 03, 2011 7:31 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidLet's try this thread again.


    Oh hi there. icon_wink.gif
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    May 03, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    How YOU doin'











    maybe we should just let this thread die
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    May 03, 2011 9:00 AM GMT
    How about instead of letting the thread die we talk about why guys try to hop back into relationships or even bother getting to know a guy when they know they can't handle someone new in their life? I get tired of walking into their love triangle because they give off an appearance that they are available...

    It's like some men never break up with their X. 2 years later they are still dating their X and all their X's problems...Not a date goes by that they are talking about their X, and what their X did, and how their X did this to them, and the X did that and used to be like this and hope you're not like that.

    Then don't get involved with anyone then. They talk all that and then turn around and say, "I don't wanna be serious". Well fine, I don't wanna be serious either but you better have my money before you walk in the door. Cash upfront.
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    May 03, 2011 9:20 AM GMT
    Lol so much drama
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    May 03, 2011 10:21 AM GMT
    lol Brian you're kidding right? A follow-up thread? You can't be serious bud. icon_lol.gif

    If you don't want sloppy seconds, maybe you should date a virgin? icon_neutral.gif. Good luck finding one these days; you'll need to date a high schooler for that. But then I'll start to hear you whining how they are so immature and shit. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • stee99

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    May 03, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    If i hafta pull this thread over we're turning around and going home..
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    May 03, 2011 10:36 AM GMT
    Well seeing as it was my post you're talking about ...you all can check that out right here http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1533307/...

    I just think its different situation as most things are. I'm just mad my friend is even considering we talked it out and he said he was just playing with me but I really upset me and I voiced my opinion to him and we're gonna talk it out when i get my new phone (peed on the last one... LONG story but basically got hammered at my fraternity's party, got in a fight, woke up with sharpie tattoo all over my body and I pissed on my phone and my bro's bed, more details but I think that's another thread.

    You just got to look in different places or with a different market than what you like, I mean its kind of what you told me about the race thing.
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    May 03, 2011 12:21 PM GMT
    cityaznguy saidlol Brian you're kidding right? A follow-up thread? You can't be serious bud. icon_lol.gif

    If you don't want sloppy seconds, maybe you should date a virgin? icon_neutral.gif. Good luck finding one these days; you'll need to date a high schooler for that. But then I'll start to hear you whining how they are so immature and shit. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I was just about to say I may have to resort to dating under-age kids but I was afraid that would be against TOS and I'd be banned from RJ LOL. Shit, High School wasn't that long ago and I remember some of those 16 and 17 year olds were unbelievably hot. Especially nowadays, they could pass for 20 or 21...
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 03, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    Sloppy seconds??

    If you want to avoid "ending up" with those you feel are distracted with other
    past issues, perhaps the best thing to do is to know the guys you are dating a bit more. Talk to them initially and get the facts you need in order to move forward (or not) with future dates or a relationship. If they don't talk to you and you sense it in their behavior, then the best thing is to communicate.

    Many people have issues they are grappling with on an ongoing basis,
    describing them as "sloppy seconds" probably isn't the best avenue.
  • Timbales

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    May 03, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    maybe you need a better screening process to identify these guys before you get too involved
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    May 03, 2011 12:41 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidSloppy seconds??

    If you want to avoid "ending up" with those you feel are distracted with other
    past issues, perhaps the best thing to do is to know the guys you are dating a bit more. Talk to them initially and get the facts you need in order to move forward (or not) with future dates or a relationship. If they don't talk to you and you sense it in their behavior, then the best thing is to communicate.

    Many people have issues they are grappling with on an ongoing basis,
    describing them as "sloppy seconds" probably isn't the best avenue.


    I think it had to do with the fact that the guy was in his mid 40s. That's why I can't deal with men in their 40s unless they are..well you already know. It seems like gay guys in their 40s go backward. They aren't just sloppy seconds but sloppy minutes, days and years...Yeah they may be more accommodating and 'seem' more mature, but they be putting me through too many changes. At 23 I should be meeting people fresh for long term relationships, not some fucking burnout that's been in 10 and 20 year relationships. And then by the time they get to me, they're so emotionally fried that every opportunity to show themselves approval turns into some speech about their life and their X's. I don't have time for that shit...

    But I should have known he was bogus because every time we'd hangout, somehow his X would pop up in the discussion. I even asked him the other week, "you're not over your X are you?" But apparently he said they were friends and his X is dating someone else.



  • HndsmKansan

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    May 03, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    Fit4FitnDenver said
    HndsmKansan saidSloppy seconds??

    If you want to avoid "ending up" with those you feel are distracted with other
    past issues, perhaps the best thing to do is to know the guys you are dating a bit more. Talk to them initially and get the facts you need in order to move forward (or not) with future dates or a relationship. If they don't talk to you and you sense it in their behavior, then the best thing is to communicate.

    Many people have issues they are grappling with on an ongoing basis,
    describing them as "sloppy seconds" probably isn't the best avenue.


    I think it had to do with the fact that the guy was in his mid 40s. That's why I can't deal with men in their 40s unless they are..well you already know. It seems like gay guys in their 40s go backward.


    LOL

    Um... what a comment. No. I don't know very many gay guys in their 40's that "go backward"... I certainly don't. Many guys, regardless of age, are focused on things in their past... DON'T tie it to age! You could have a 23 year old who was "going backward" as you put it, focused on a past relationship or something with their family or college.
  • Timbales

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    May 03, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    Everyone's got baggage. Some people are lugging around a big old duffel bag and some have a nice little carry on stowed away in a closet at home.
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    cityaznguy saidlol Brian you're kidding right? A follow-up thread? You can't be serious bud. icon_lol.gif

    If you don't want sloppy seconds, maybe you should date a virgin? icon_neutral.gif. Good luck finding one these days; you'll need to date a high schooler for that. But then I'll start to hear you whining how they are so immature and shit. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I was just about to say I may have to resort to dating under-age kids but I was afraid that would be against TOS and I'd be banned from RJ LOL. Shit, High School wasn't that long ago and I remember some of those 16 and 17 year olds were unbelievably hot. Especially nowadays, they could pass for 20 or 21...


    Nah don't worry Brian bud. We'll find you a hot guy who's been living under a rock in a monastery, who just recently came out, who has no sexual experience at all, and is in his twenties, located at Denver. They are soooooo ubiquitous these days, ya know? You have to shoo them away all the time.....icon_lol.gif