How many dates would it be, before its okay to have sex?

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    May 03, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    btw, im a virgin icon_smile.gif. Just another random curious question.... But my answer would be 5 or 6...
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    May 03, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    KyleKitami saidbtw, im a virgin icon_smile.gif. Just another random curious question.... But my answer would be 5 or 6...


    I don't believe in timing it...because you may run into some psycho who dates you 5 or 6 times and then dumps you after he has sex with you.

    A better answer would be more like 3 or 4 months. I miss the days when I'd wait that long to have sex with someone and it'd feel so much better than just an impulsive act. Most guys can't hold out past the 2nd of 3rd date without having sex though, so don't be surprised if guys start disappearing all around you.
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    May 03, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
    15-20 minutes...gotta finish the drink he bought you first.
  • fitnesshound

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    May 03, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    I don't believe in putting arbitrary timelines or numbers of dates on it. You should wait until you feel comfortable with a guy and develop a sense of trust in the guy.

    Than can be second or third date, or that can be the tenth. Just let nature take it's course without pushing or hindering it...trust your intuition.
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    May 03, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    paulflexes said15-20 minutes...gotta finish the drink he bought you first.


    x 10
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    May 03, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    If you feel like spreading your legs, you have sex. If you don't, you don't have sex.
  • rnch

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    May 03, 2011 2:43 PM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidIf you feel like spreading your legs, you have sex. If you don't, you don't have sex.




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    May 03, 2011 2:52 PM GMT

    I think you should have a range of dates, clubbing, movies, dinner. DVD etc,

    I think 3 weeks is my rough time
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    May 03, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    I don't think there is a definite answer either. I evaluate it on a case by case basis. I try to hold out as long as possible. Not saying that is long though icon_razz.gif
  • WildeBoi81

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    May 03, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I had sex four hours after we met. We've been together for over 10 years. Why do you need rules for this kind of thing? Being gay frees us from silly straight conventions.
  • Stephan

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    May 03, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    Its totally up to you and what is comfortable or not.
    Everyone has their standards or ideas of what is acceptable on sex, especially when to do it. However, if you and your partner both agree its time, its time. There is nothing written in stone on when, where, etc.

    Key idea, Talk about it to your partner/friend of when you may have an idea of when sex is a good idea.
    Hope this helps some~

    Ps. Enjoy dating each other and not stress over the sex part, that will come in time!
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    May 03, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    honestly, Im sure it could take years for some people
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    May 03, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    WildeBoi81 saidMy boyfriend and I had sex four hours after we met. We've been together for over 10 years. Why do you need rules for this kind of thing? Being gay frees us from silly straight conventions.


    You are in an Open Relationship, hardly a great example in fairness.
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    May 03, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    It is ok whenever you feel comfortable with this guy and like one of the guys above said...it could be the first or second date or it could be the 20th date...it's all about how you and him feel about it so there isn't any "definite timing" or any nonsense of that type...
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    May 03, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    If he's hot and both parties are down for it: first date.
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    May 03, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    it depends on what you want from someone. if you know it's a passing thing, then don't let time pass you by, go for it the second you feel ready....because clouds don't linger in the sky......but if you think it could be durable, take your time, you can always revisit a moment, but you can't undo some of them
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 03, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    The real answer is.. when it feels right. It can be the first date.... or as many as you want. You make it right, don't ask others because it is different for everybody.

    Me? I went out with my now partner twice. I was an absolute virgin when I met him.. he was Mr. experienced, having been in 2 long term relationships prior to meeting me.

    Of course it was me who attacked him for the first 4 hour episode on our second date. The problem was, he didn't believe I hadn't messed with men before based on what I did.....

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    May 03, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    3 months of dating... then 3 months of being together in a relationship... THEN sex.

    Him being hot doesn't speed up the process... him being rich doesn't speed up the process...

  • rnch

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    May 03, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    it would also depend on what your definition of "sex" is.

    my long term bf and I got naked, enjoyed lots of foreplay and mutual jerk offs 3 hours after we met.

    he didn't "capture my pearl of great price" until about 3 months later.

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    May 03, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    on the first date ;) ... my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half
  • swimbikerun

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    May 03, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    It is whatever you both feel comfortable with. But since you're rather inexperienced why not take it extra slow and let it happen naturally with someone memorable?
  • iHavok

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    May 03, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    Never.

    Sex is bad mmmkay?
  • iHavok

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    May 03, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    rnch saidit would also depend on what your definition of "sex" is.

    my long term bf and I got naked, enjoyed lots of foreplay and mutual jerk offs 3 hours after we met.

    he didn't "capture my pearl of great price" until about 3 months later.



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    That is the fanciest way to refer to your shithole ever!
  • LJay

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    May 03, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    Whenever.

    Paul, I can't believe that you can't drink faster than that!
  • groundcombat

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    May 03, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Dates? What are those? icon_smile.gif