Thinking about coming out to my lil sister first.

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    May 03, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    I've been thinking about telling my lil sister im gay. Im out, but im not out to any of my family members. I figure it would be easy to talk to her about it because she is from a younger understanding generation from me. Im not ready to tell my mom yet, she has alot going on in her life right now, and it would only make things worst I think. My sister has came to me a couple of times kidding around asking "what would you do if I told you I was gay?" I always answer nothing, you would still be you and we would laugh about it. My plan is to take my lil sis out to dinner friday and just spill my guts. If anybody has any better advice on how to handle this situation or a similar experience it would be very helpful to me.
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    May 03, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    i'm not out to my family yet(they are very strict religious ppl, so yeah). but i wanna answer this forum post anyway.. You should ask few questions what she thinks bout homosexuality , if she answers in a negative way, then you have no choice but to keep it for a while; ......just thinking though, what if you just give her small hints that your gay?; if you spill the guts on friday, you may not know it will turn out shitty for um, just leave little hints. I hope this helped... icon_eek.gif
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    May 03, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    My ideal setting to have found out would have been someplace casual like a plain ole living room and no one else around.
    I felt put on the spot with people looking at me and I was afraid to say anything out of fear it was going to come out wrong or be the wrong thing to say.
    I would like to have just been flat out told without drama or hints.
    Honestly, the hints kinda messed with my head and would have preferred to just be told outright from the get go of the conversation. The build up made it more intense than needed to be and that alone caused me to be frustrated.
    Just tell me "I have something to say and you don't need to respond right away.' pause "I'm gay." The end.
    Then I would have liked a few moments to just let it absorb.
    Then ask a question or 2, then walk away and come back to it later for any discussion if needed.
    This is just my experience and how I would have felt most comfortable and think I would have reacted in the best way.