Sex with a fuck buddy

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    May 04, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    Ok...another questions... Thinking about trying bb with my fuck buddy. We aren't dating but have been messing around for a while. What do you guys think? Do a lot of guys try it or not?

    I know its risky.
  • Timbales

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    May 04, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    don't
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    May 04, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    You just have to be open to the risks involved. Go for it but be educated.
    I've had so much BB sex with guys, it's pretty amazing I'm HIV-. I've also seen the devastation of many friends who became HIV+.
  • swedeinusa

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    May 04, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    In most cases, don't don't don't don't.

    But if you are just itching to try it and no amount of prewarnings, or knowledge of the risks that it entails
    test once
    test twice
    test three times for good luck
    Be honest, be frank, and be open about it all
    and test one more time.
  • creature

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    May 04, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Don't do it.
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    May 04, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    What's wrong with using a condom?! Even though I'm in a LTR I use condom all the time (100% without fail). You can't trust people what they say. It's your life and health. Without it, what do you have? Just a dead corpse. (sorry if that sounded harsh but it needed to be said)
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    May 04, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    And here I thought you were considering trying bodybuilding with him.
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    May 04, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    I just have to ask the question... is it truly worth risking your health and well-being for this?

    I really don't think anyone wants to become a statistic icon_sad.gif.

    Here is a quote describing the prevalence of HIV in the U.S.:
    "During 2009, there were an estimated 42,959 new diagnoses of HIV infection in the 40 states and five dependent areas. Adult or adolescent males accounted for three-quarters of new HIV diagnoses. The main transmission route among males was male-to-male sexual contact (74%), followed by heterosexual contact (14%) and injecting drug use (8%). Among female adult and adolescents, 84.9% were infected through heterosexual contact and 14.8% through injecting drug use."

    Compare that with the incidence of HIV infection in Central Europe:
    "There were a total of 1,612 HIV diagnoses in Central Europe in 2009. Of these diagnoses, 17% were in individuals aged 15 to 24 years old and 20% were female. Of those infections where the transmission route was known:
    * 44% were exposed through male-to-male sexual contact;
    * 34% were acquired through heterosexual contact;
    * and 9% were due to injecting drug use."

    I would venture to say that the huge marginal difference between MSM incidence of HIV in the US vs Europe is largely due to the ridiculous difference there is in STD and safer sex education. If you have multiple sex partners and do not practice safe sex 100% of the time, statistically speaking you will probably end up with some sort of STD, whether it be ghonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, haemophilus ducreyi, some sort of UTI, or even the lifelong partners like genital warts (HPV), oral herpes (HSV-1), genital herpes (HSV-2), and/or many others...

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchhstp/newsroom/docs/FastFacts-MSM-FINAL508COMP.pdf

    "Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (MSM)1 represent approximately 2% of the US population, yet are the population most severely affected by HIV and are the only risk group in which new HIV infections have been increasing steadily since the early 1990s ... At the end of 2006, more than half (53%) of all people living with HIV in the United States were MSM or MSM-IDU ... Since the beginning of the US epidemic, MSM have consistently represented the largest percentage of persons diagnosed with AIDS and persons with an AIDS diagnosis who have died." - http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/msm/index.htm

    http://www.avert.org/young-gay-men.htm


    I find this to be the most disturbing of all:
    "... of those infected ... 44% were not aware of the fact..." http://www.medpagetoday.com/HIVAIDS/HIVAIDS/22381


    What's even more terrifying, is I've seen statistics that vary describing gay population of Washington D.C. as being anywhere from 25% to 50% HIV+, that's 1/4 to 1/2 of the gay men you would meet if you visited Washington D.C..

    When it comes down to it, it is your decision to make. I just hope for your sake, you don't end up regretting it.
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    May 04, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    The Darwin award should be given to those who bb with fuck buddies. LOL.
    Naturally removing their genes from the gene pool - well... eventually...
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    May 04, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    You know the risks but are you willing to live w/ the consequences if you become infected?

    Knowing it as an abstract concept and living w/ it are two very different things.

    Just dont.
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    May 04, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    drop03 saidOk...another questions... Thinking about trying bb with my fuck buddy. We aren't dating but have been messing around for a while. What do you guys think? Do a lot of guys try it or not?

    I know its risky.


    Who is really going to tell you to bb.. Yeah you might not get HIV (exposure ranges from 1 in 10-100 in M2M) but if you do it will change your life forever.

    I don't think you should take the risk with an fb. If you want to do it, you both need to get tested. If you are going to do it again that means repeat testing.

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    May 04, 2011 10:03 AM GMT
    NO
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    May 04, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidAnd here I thought you were considering trying bodybuilding with him.
    I didn't know there was a difference. icon_razz.gif
  • Hothouse

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    May 04, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    I may catch flack for this, and I know the risks of unprotected sex, but seems to me that two buds, who have known each other for a long time, who fuck, should be able to make an informed decision that's right for them.
    If they trust each other, know for a fact that they're clean, and are confident that neither one is going to participate in unprotected sex with any other people then they should bareback if they want to.
    Yes, there are risks, there are a lot of risks in any sexual relationship, but they should be able to do it if they want to. A fuckbud relationship is like a committed romantic relationship - there has to be trust and respect in both.
    Only the two involved can decide if it's something that will work for them.
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    May 04, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    in some ways, it's more honest than alot of the "happy couples" who start off with the rush of romance, combine logistics, get bored and then open their relationship

    i'd question how vanilla you are that you bb is the next logical step. depending on your level of creativity, there are a million nerve endings that can get you wherever you want to travel.

    but i digress.....

    if it were me, i'd not do it.
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    May 04, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    It's your and your FB's choice, but you should proceed with caution. Trust your instincts and good judgment.
  • Beeftastic

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    May 05, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    Just remember one thing PEOPLE LIE ABOUT SEX. They have for all of history, gay or straight. People LIE TO THEMSELVES about sex. I've know the most honest people who admit to lying about sex.

    That said, if you are insisting about bottoming bareback make sure he has a recent Retrovirus HIV test (the kind that takes two weeks to get the results). That is the best way to know if someone is HIV positive. Take into account that even that test won't show HIV infection until two weeks after exposure, add to that two weeks to get the test, and you have a full month of risk involved, even if you trust them.
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    May 07, 2011 10:06 AM GMT
    Why put your life at risk because of a few minutes of BB? It is not a good idea. Play it safe. We want you around for a long, happy, healthy life.