How do you feel about being set up with guys?

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    May 04, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    I will be honest, I hate being set up. When people set you up and both of you know that you are meeting because everyone is hoping you will hit it off, it adds so much pressure and makes things so awkward! I just feel like there are too many expectations in those situations. Hate it!

    I prefer when people will just get us to come to the same party or other gathering and if we click, we click. There is just a lot less pressure that way! My friends told me they found me the perfect guy at a club a few months ago and when they introduce us, he is completely nothing I am attracted to (I guess that is what happens when lesbians try to find boys for you), he was little boy cute and I want a man. Now the same lesbians want to hook me up with one guy. This guy is hot as hell, but I still would rather just meet without the expectations that we need to get together because looks aren't everything.

    So how do you guys feel about being set up??

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    May 04, 2011 11:42 AM GMT
    I wouldn't mind it if my friends actually knew what they were doing. I tell them what I generally look for in a guy and when it comes to meeting him, he is the opposite of what I said. I do agree with you that there is a certain pressure when it comes to meeting them for the first time. I'm naturally awkward so it probably raises the already awkward situation to ridiculously awkward. Ive only been set up a few times but I think those are going to be the last for now.

    I like that my friends want to set me up with someone, but from now on I should do this by myself. I now what I want ( at least I think so ). It will take the pressure off and it will make it such less awkward. One of my friends did a little fluffing when she told a guy about me. That was great, nothing starts a relationship like one built on lies! That is why I'm not letting this go on anymore. My friends have good intentions, but sometimes they get in the way.
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    May 04, 2011 11:47 AM GMT
    I don't do Blind Dates and I would kinda feel a bit insulted that my friends are trying to get involved with my personal/sexual life regardless of the nice intention behind it. Just my opinion.
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    May 04, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    I'd do it if the friend has good taste and is trustworthy. It's all a matter of taste-- you wouldn't trust just anyone with your beer, wine, vodka, shirt, or tie selections. So therefore, be selective about the person who is going to make introductions.

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    May 04, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    I don't care, as long as I get to meet the guy... he can always become a friend, boyfriend, casual sex or just a nice conversation. :-) Or it could be a disaster... but it would be neither the first, nor the last disaster : ))
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    May 04, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    marcobruno1978 saidIt's all a matter of taste-- you wouldn't trust just anyone with your beer, wine, vodka, shirt, or tie selections


    I like that! Makes a lot of sense. My issue is that my best friend knows my taste in men. When someone asked me once, she could answer it better than I could. But sometimes what she thinks is a good looking man is a sweet, young little cute boy and that will come out occasionally when she thinks I should meet a guy.

    Honestly, I often times feel like I don't want all this intervention into my love life. Would just rather "oh there is this cute guy you should meet" and see where it goes. I am still not 100% sure what exactly I am looking for out of men right now anyways