Stop with the NO DRAMA

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    May 04, 2011 7:40 AM GMT
    I’m very sad to read no drama in profiles. I mean I find it to be such a downer when a person tells the world they have no interest in passion, excitement, and life. We live only once and I think drama should be embraced and given a new role. If you don’t want downers or naggers then say that but drama to me is color, vitality, the energy that makes life worth living.

    What do you think?

    Updated;
    These are the definitions I’m using;
    1. Exciting event: a real-life event or situation that is particularity exciting or emotionally involving.
    2. Art plays as genre: works written for performance on the stage, television, or radio considered as a literary genre

    Drama is art for me to use this word in it's negative is what bothers me not the desire to detour misery.
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    May 04, 2011 7:49 AM GMT
    I think yer using the wrong def of drama. You need def #4.

    ition of DRAMA
    1
    a : a composition in verse or prose intended to portray life or character or to tell a story usually involving conflicts and emotions through action and dialogue and typically designed for theatrical performance : play — compare closet drama b : a movie or television production with characteristics (as conflict) of a serious play; broadly : a play, movie, or television production with a serious tone or subject
    2
    : dramatic art, literature, or affairs
    3
    a : a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces b : dramatic state, effect, or quality
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    n : that hateful shit that gay people get wrapped up in where e'rebody is sleeping with e'rebody else's boyfriend, sending nekid pictures to yer family, and drawing everyone into your tragedy until they all want to plunge you into a pool of your own tears
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    May 04, 2011 8:20 AM GMT
    shortguybeau saidI think yer using the wrong def of drama. You need def #4.

    ition of DRAMA
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    n : that hateful shit that gay people get wrapped up in where e'rebody is sleeping with e'rebody else's boyfriend, sending nekid pictures to yer family, and drawing everyone into your tragedy until they all want to plunge you into a pool of your own tears

    I’m aware of the definition but I’m an optimist. Plus it’s my opinion people who say no drama tend to be followed by that they‘re running from.

    This is the definition I’m using;
    Exciting event, a real-life event or situation that is particularity exciting or emotionally involving.


    LOL on your #4
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    May 04, 2011 11:13 AM GMT
    No Drama can also mean the guy concerned does not really have any interest in working at a relationship because in every relationship where two people really connect, things WILL get messy .

    I think they want someome who isn't going to object when they screw you around: that is DRAMA.

  • Karnage

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    May 04, 2011 11:23 AM GMT
    I am a 'no drama' type of person, and to me that means I'm not the type of person who gets bitchy or manipulative in order to get something I want or to make someone else feel bad. If you're in a healthy relationship, there is going to be some kind of conflict. Drama is creating conflict for the sake of conflict, which is not healthy.
  • mynyun

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    May 04, 2011 11:28 AM GMT

    I dunno. When I see a profile that specifically points out "NO drama" I just pass it up. I mean it's like when they say "I have no regrets". So that means they are perfect and too good for me.
    Because I have regrets, since I'm only human. And regardless of how much I try, there will always be some degree of drama.

    Just my opinion.
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    May 04, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    blactor saidNo Drama can also mean the guy concerned does not really have any interest in working at a relationship


    This never even entered my mind. Thanks for the insight.
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    May 04, 2011 12:31 PM GMT
    blactor saidNo Drama can also mean the guy concerned does not really have any interest in working at a relationship because in every relationship where two people really connect, things WILL get messy .

    In any relationship there will be disagreements and conflicts and hurt feelings. You can work these things out by compromises achieved through rational discussion conducted with mutual respect. Or you can yell, scream, make threats, and throw breakable objects. Option #2 is Drama. I prefer Option #1.
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    May 04, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    I agree totally. The latter is childish and immature. But drama can be defined as confrontation. If someone upsets me I will discuss it. But NEVER abusively. And some gay guys can't even cope with that.
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    May 04, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    I thought "no drama" on profiles meant that they failed their acting classes.
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    May 04, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI thought "no drama" on profiles meant that they failed their acting classes.


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  • bravehound

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    May 04, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    When I see "I don't do drama", it's next to statements like "I hate liars / I can't stand fake people - BE REAL! / I don't have time for players in my life" etc.

    People that kick off their own introduction with negativity about others is about the biggest red flag one could wave to let people know they're still coping with something personally damaging. It's sad to think they're quite possibly ensuring they don't meet happy, centered people with a positive outlook on life.
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    May 04, 2011 4:53 PM GMT
    bravehound saidWhen I see "I don't do drama", it's next to statements like "I hate liars / I can't stand fake people - BE REAL! / I don't have time for players in my life" etc.

    People that kick off their own introduction with negativity about others is about the biggest red flag one could wave to let people know they're still coping with something personally damaging. It's sad to think they're quite possibly ensuring they don't meet happy, centered people with a positive outlook on life.


    Very well said!

    I also hate negativity in profiles in general; I think preferences can be stated without having to sound like a negative nancy.
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    May 04, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    I don't even like watching acting drama.
    Such a turn off.
    NO DRAMA=STEP TO THE FRONT OF THE LINE!
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  • ohioguy12

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    May 04, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    Seems like the guys who have "no drama" in their profiles are the ones who create the drama themselves
  • KinesiologyMa...

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    May 04, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    When people NO DRAMA on their page it really means that they have so much drama in their own lives that they can not even handle any more drama from anyone else. LOL So when I see that statement I just stay away
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    May 04, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    If you don't understand what someone means by no drama, you're a fucking idiot.

    shortguybeau said4
    n : that hateful shit that gay people get wrapped up in where e'rebody is sleeping with e'rebody else's boyfriend, sending nekid pictures to yer family, and drawing everyone into your tragedy until they all want to plunge you into a pool of your own tears

    Not quite the definition I would have given, but close enough.

    Seriously, I don't know what kind of sheltered ass lifestyle you've been living if you've never heard the word drama used like this before or you can't deal with a word having multiple definitions.
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    May 04, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    eh, it's just [gay] people being lemmings

    an overwhelming majority of the profiles say some iteration of:

    masculine, chill, no-drama, down-to-earth, straight-acting, VGL (love the self-description)

    yet, in reality, most of these people are anything but
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    May 04, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    If something is elegant, no need to proclaim it as such.
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    May 04, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    SFYogi saidIf something is elegant, no need to proclaim it as such.


    Oooh Good one!
    I'm stealing this as quote of the day, hehe.... icon_wink.gif
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    May 04, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    I think it means people have enough of their own drama to deal with and don t need second helpings from someone else?
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    May 04, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    I'm not sure you are interpreting the drama part right.

    i think people aren't looking for people who are extreme in the case that they over react or blow things out of proportion.

    I don't think this means they don't want a relationship. I think it all lies in finding the right person to be with and all that good stuff.

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    May 04, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    Zettabyte saidIf you don't understand what someone means by no drama, you're a fucking idiot.

    shortguybeau said4
    n : that hateful shit that gay people get wrapped up in where e'rebody is sleeping with e'rebody else's boyfriend, sending nekid pictures to yer family, and drawing everyone into your tragedy until they all want to plunge you into a pool of your own tears

    Not quite the definition I would have given, but close enough.

    Seriously, I don't know what kind of sheltered ass lifestyle you've been living if you've never heard the word drama used like this before or you can't deal with a word having multiple definitions.



    I'm living a very happy full life and enjoy the things that I do. Thanks for the reply, try to keep it civil next time.

    This is a forum after all and most of this is meant as tongue and cheek.
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    May 04, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    ~*~*~StR8 AcTiN mAsC, ToTaL tOp OnLy, No FeMs, nO fAtTiEs, NO DRAMA!!!!!!!!!!1~*~*~
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    May 04, 2011 11:25 PM GMT
    atl2atx85 saideh, it's just [gay] people being lemmings
    an overwhelming majority of the profiles say some iteration of:
    masculine, chill, no-drama, down-to-earth, straight-acting, VGL (love the self-description)
    yet, in reality, most of these people are anything but

    These words in a profile usually turn me away from messaging that person.