well, i am not going to ask about your relation with your partner, but i would like to know how is your relation with your father & mother after knowing you are gay..............................................

  • kemoze

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    May 04, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    ok gays.. actually , i have a great connection with my mother since i was young,, she trusts me so much and she gives me especial attentoin.. but my father , i didnt understand him at first , but when i moved to anther country ( the country where he spends 6 months working in then comes back to home).. when i stayed with him, i realized that its the first time to know my father,, we became friends till now ,, i understand him very well . i know what he wants , what is in his mind,,
    but as i am ( gay ) ,, i cant stay with them ,, i got to move to another country ( gay tolerant country ) ,, but i love them ,, i dont know ,, i want to take care of them ,,
    all on all they are our parents..........
    god bless them,,
    what about you gays in other open countries ..
    your relation with your family ( what does it look like )
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    May 04, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    Well after initially coming out to them, there were many rough patches, anger , misunderstandings, sorrow.

    If there is anything that reigns true, its that time heals all. I always had a strong bond with my dad when i was younger and no so much with my mom, and when I came out, I lost that. Over time, however, I developed a bond with my mom which in some wierd fashioned healed the bond with my dad. I love my parents very much and owe them quite a lot. I am happy to have them in my life and honestly, I am not sure if I would be complete if they weren t here.
  • kemoze

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    May 04, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    mi16t saidWell after initially coming out to them, there were many rough patches, anger , misunderstandings, sorrow.

    If there is anything that reigns true, its that time heals all. I always had a strong bond with my dad when i was younger and no so much with my mom, and when I came out, I lost that. Over time, however, I developed a bond with my mom which in some wierd fashioned healed the bond with my dad. I love my parents very much and owe them quite a lot. I am happy to have them in my life and honestly, I am not sure if I would be complete if they weren t here.




    well done man ,,
    i hope i can come out to them ,, especially my mother, i like her soo much , she always needs me,,
    i dont know ,, i am now 22 ,, i cant hide anymore
    i think living away from them is better than telling them i am gay,, they wouldnt believe that,,,,, its hard in middle east..
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    May 04, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    Different story here. Always had strained relationships with my parents due to their issues (anger, substance abuse, etc.) and my coming out late didn't help any. At that point, my father was almost entirely out of my life anyway, and my mother's inability to handle it well, her insistence on not telling most of the family (in some cases, for years, in others, even now over 6+ years later) led to the last pieces of our relationship falling away. I haven't talked to my family, aside from a few birthday emails, in a very long time.

    Note: I am not "happy" about this. I am not saying, "I don't need a family" or anything like that. But the reality is that given the strains and confusion in our relationship prior to my coming out, it simply wasn't going to survive another big revelation.
  • kemoze

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    May 04, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]torrentprime said[/cite

    Note: I am not "happy" about this. I am not saying, "I don't need a family" or anything like that. But the reality is that given the strains and confusion in our relationship prior to my coming out, it simply wasn't going to survive another big revelation.[/quote]

    family is something very important in our life'''
    we cant be apart...
    actually i was wondering ... dude why dont you try to visit your mam...
    this would be great , coz i guess; no one can love you same like your mother...
    i would like to come back and visit my mother in egypt , but she would ask me ..
    kemoze, when are you going to get married ,, i wanna see your kids oneday...
    i dont know what to say ...
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    May 06, 2011 6:20 AM GMT
    I told my story to my family 4 years ago, and even tho' i comforted them by the fact that i do still enjoy girls, they always said that i was having a mental disease, so they took me to a mental doctor, this bastard kept telling nonsense things and charged lots of money each session. My parents said they would commit suicide if i didn't turn back to normal. I had no choice and lied to them that the doctor helped me and i had become normal already. I dated several girls afterwards so they actually believed me for now, but i don't really enjoy lying but there's no other way.

    I came out and then gotta come back into the closet.
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    May 06, 2011 7:44 AM GMT
    I wish I had an empowering story, but I actually haven't come out to my parents. I'm pretty sure my mom knows, but I cannot bring myself to tell them yet. I hope when I do, they still love me TT-TT
  • Proxy

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    May 07, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    my parents know nothing about it, not my brother and sisters either. i dont know how to face them if they know a thing about it and my friends.... I had ever try to move into another country and live, but it's too difficult. now i lived in another city far away from them, and we still keep close touch, like we've talked through internet every week, that's Asian family bound i reckon...
  • Rowing_Ant

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    May 07, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    My mum was hugely supported.When I came out to her she said yes she knew. No problem. Now get a cup of tea and chill out. ANd also did the "be safe, wear a condom" and "you give a blow job like this".
    My mum was very liberal : she went to a very posh all-girls Methodist boarding school and had some stories to tell about the "village boys" behind the butchers shop or in the stables....

    My uncle (mum's bro and basically my dad after my real dead died when I was four) laughed his socks off when I told him and told me I wasnt the first in the family. wouldnt be last. and got me a pint.

    My Grandmama knew but was of the generation not to say a thing.

    No drama. no falling out. just love.

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    May 07, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    my dad told me it didn't bother him he simply didn't care. it was my choice.

    my mother told me that i needed to and I quote "stop f**king boys" and was pretty upset. Then once she realized being upset wasn't going to change it, she got over it and is fine with it. Still annoyed that my mother would feel the need to be that much of a beeyatch about it tho.
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    May 07, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    My mom whislt being very supportive did tell everyone I was Bisexual....and did try to hook me up with a few girls...mostly because she thought my first boyfriend was a whiny little tit. He was.

    She got over that...and working at a local Hosiptal then started setting me up on dates with all the gay nurses and doctors she knew and liked. There was one really super hot geeky guy Jason....ahem.

    Anyone else have their mom set them up on dates with guys?
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    May 07, 2011 3:30 PM GMT
    My relationship with my dad has pretty much stayed the same. He doesn't treat me any different than he did before he knew. We don't talk about it at all since I came out to him though. I'd really wish he would educate himself on what is happening in the world as far as prop8 and hate crimes go just so he knows what stuff I might have to deal with in the future.

    My mom is kind of the same way as my dad, though she moved away like 3 months after I came out to her(well she kind of forced me out, but whatever). She didn't move because of that though, parents got divorced and she moved in with her boyfriend up in Washington. She still askes if there is anyone in my life or if I'm interested in anyone right now which shows she cares at least haha.
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    May 07, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    My parents are completely ok with the gay thing and always have been (well, since they knew).

    As for my relationship with my parents affecting me as an adult ...

    They divorced when I was six. My sister was a new-born.

    My mother begs my sister and I to get married/civil partnered all the time. She wants to see it happen. And to wear a nice dress and cry.

    Both of us (my sister and I) are in very long-term relationships, but neither of us has any interest in tying the knot; seeing it as "just a piece of paper".

    Interesting, no?
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    May 07, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Told my mom 13 years ago, she was pretty cool as we always had a great relationship. It was a little hard at first for her, but got better. My dad on the other hand was an ass about it which I expected being his Latin macho self. He told me he never wanted to meet any of my friends, know anything about my personal life or ever meet anyone I dated. I said "great! Then your going miss out on seeing me grow as a person. That is your choice, you're choosing ass hole!!" let me just say my parents divorced 11 years prior to when I told him. From then on we always were just acquaintances, but truthfully we never got along from day 1.

    My dad and his new wife were here at our house recently, he met my bf of 5 years for the first time. It was weird. He wouldn't even come in our bedroom to use the bathroom, he used the downstairs one. He couldn't be in a room where my bf and I sleep. He didn't really make conversation much with him. I know it was my stepmother who put him up to it.

    Let's see what the future has?
  • kemoze

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    May 07, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    Rowing_Ant saidMy mom whislt being very supportive did tell everyone I was Bisexual....and did try to hook me up with a few girls...mostly because she thought my first boyfriend was a whiny little tit. He was.

    She got over that...and working at a local Hosiptal then started setting me up on dates with all the gay nurses and doctors she knew and liked. There was one really super hot geeky guy Jason....ahem.

    Anyone else have their mom set them up on dates with guys?

    well. your mother is amazing.
    i like people with open mind//
    i love my mom too much. its now 14 months since i saw her.

    i am working so hard here,,,
    i hope i can come out to them , rather than escaping away, especially these days . my sister has got twince ( two boys ) and one of them looks like me,, she is now staying at our home and exactly in ,my room.. i hope i can come back to egypt to stay couple of days with my family before travelling to live in a gay tolerant countryicon_sad.gif