I think I'm down to my last few threads.

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    May 05, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    With the passing of my mom. I lost the only person I could open up to freely. More and more I feel disconnected and uninterested in this world. It not so much a sadness anymore, more like seemingly having absolutely nothing in common or any sort of connection with anyone . This has made things hard in many different ways, I've gained a lot of wright since my pictures were taken (save the one with only my face)

    It's not a lack of motivation or even trying, it's the lack of hope, with anyone or anything . I truley feel broken.
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    May 05, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    Sounds like you're in a perfectly normal part of the grieving process.
    Sorry to hear about the loss of your mom.
    *hugs*
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    May 05, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    Best wishes and take care of your self.
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    May 05, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    Just hang in there, buddy... there's lots of guys on RJ who care and we're all here to help. All you need to do is ask....


    I couldn't have said it better myself. Please e-mail me here if you are feeling bad and want to talk it out. I'm a good listener and will give you advice to get you through these tough times.

    Several guys came to my rescue here last Christmas. The holidays are really difficult times for me to get through. The support I received from my already close RJ friends was wonderful, plus I met some new buddies too. I even survived Christmas!!

    Please call on me if you need to talk. I mean that.

    TNJ
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    May 05, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    *bump*
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    May 05, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    I know it sounds trite, but with some of the activities you listed as interests, can you force yourself to get out of the house and be active? Even if you're not in the mood.
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    May 05, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    Be kind to yourself. Your mother would have wanted you to do so. You are still your mother's son. She wanted you to be happy and healthy. No stranger's advice can mean much. But remember your mother. She lives through you.

    If you need to cry, cry. Leave the empty space in yourself so that you are not overwhelmed. Remember her. Write as much as you can about her. If you can see a counselor, do that. Go to church. There is your family. There is us. Remember her here on RJ. We will bear each others' burdens.

    Time will lessen this blow. Go outside. Go play with little kids. Go do what your mother liked to do. Find solace in her memory. She is dead, but you are not. She placed her hope in you.
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    May 05, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    All Bill and myself can offer are ears that will listen, and hearts that will empathize. It can be here, or email.

    -Doug

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    May 05, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    Very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I was 24 when I lost mine. It seems very empty and every day I will think about something that she would say or do depending on the circumstances. If you ever want to talk....

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    May 05, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    You know, Mike, we witness people's lives. This is not easy to comprehend when life is so new, still, and time has not given you the perspective that it affords many of us who have a couple of decades on you, but take note - you are VERY much connected. Right now. Very much indeed.

    What you are left with is just under the sorrow and the numbness, which you must endure in order to reveal the obligation that you now have to remember your Mom to the world. To carry her forward in a living testimony that begins and ends with you. You are her legacy. And you are her witness, brother. You are her survivor, her story teller, and the forward carrying champion of all she learned and gathered and shared and discovered and endured and was shaped by in her life here.

    You cannot let go of that obligation. You must celebrate your responsibility to remember, and to witness.

    And soon, so much sooner than you think - SO very much sooner - you will witness her to someone whose very foundation will be rocked and whose axis will tilt for how taken and how in love with you they are. And you will know why she carried you close to her heart, why she was the person to whom you opened up: so that you could learn - and be ready and open to him.

    The sorrow will lift, Mike. The mission is clear. You are connected to all of us who need to hear about her, and about the emerald eye'd man whom she gifted to the world, and whom she chose to witness her life.

    We are here. We hear you. You are not broken. Of this, I am certain.
    xo
    r.
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    May 05, 2011 4:14 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack said, "You are not broken. Of this, I am certain."

    I sure agree. I feel he wouldn't reach out in quite this way if he was, in fact, broken.

    *Loving MCB*

    He just isn't doing himself credit for suffering one of the greatest losses that we must at one point or another face. The separation from a loved one. Truly loved.

    I for one salute you, MikeinSLC, because you had the fortitude to reach out. We lost our fathers. Our mothers we will lose as well. Perhaps you can show us a perspective on how to handle it.

    -Doug

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    May 05, 2011 10:23 AM GMT
    icon_sad.gif Man , I am sorry for what happens , but u know life won't stop .. Yeah you have the right to be sad , but we r here for u anytime u decide to come back

    So, We are with you .... Don't leave !
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    May 05, 2011 11:12 AM GMT
    Everyone has their moment and soemtimes it's really difficult to stay positive, but it always gets better and things work out.

    Talking to a counselor can be really helpful, it's nice to a safe place to bitch and let it out once in a while. If there is noone else to talk to, try:

    1-800-273-TALK

    Everyone has been there or will be at some point.
  • 2PecanDeBeurr...

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    May 05, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    you are very vital to us all. the memories shared will always be with you
    share some of them with us, especially the ones that make you laugh
    this adventure you will learn and experience many wonderful moments with the very sad ones. You are a great creation, thanks for being here for me
    j.c.
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    May 05, 2011 3:36 PM GMT
    I am so sorry for your loss , i lost my Mum when i was 23 and i remember how much it hurt at the time ... When she was diagnosticed with cancer and given a few weeks to live , i was working on another continent , and remember how alone i felt , and the 36 hours flight back to Queensland had seemed like years ... Being a workhalic , my only way to grieve was to get back and work like crazy , and with time the pain subdued , but the wonderful memories are still present everyday in my heart ....
    As how hard it seems to be right now , things will start to get better with everyday passing ....You have to take good care of yourself , you cannot give up , you have to pick-up all the broken pieces of you heart , and go on .
    We are all here for you when you need it ....
    Hugs ,
    Affen
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    May 05, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    Condolences, i know there is nothing I can say to help, you must be strong through this period.. she would have wanted you to come out a happy man I am sure
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    May 05, 2011 3:40 PM GMT
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    May 05, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Should others treat you that way, Anduru?
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    May 05, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    meninlove said Should others treat you that way, Anduru?


    Sheesh Anduru, would you mind? That is like just not funny, its just plain douchy
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    May 05, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Awww. =( When I get sad, I listen to the songs that really make me feel better. icon_biggrin.gif Here's a song I want to share with you.



    Remember when it goes as down as it can, it can only go up from there. And yes maybe online people are not directly in your life. But we can be here if you need us. Just a thread, IM and message away. =)

    Be strong buddy. icon_smile.gif
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    May 05, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    Dear Mike, try this; think about your Mom walking into this topic, and what her post to you would be.

    *hugs*

    -Doug of meninlove