Signs he wants to come into my closet?

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    May 05, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    In highschool, there was this guy in my math class and the way he looked, the way he acted, just everything about him, I completely had a major crush on him (we rarely ever talked/interacted, though). Starting junior year, we started sharing the same group of friends, and we had a lot of the same classes. He would always come up to me in this cute goofy way and would look me straight in the eyes and say "I love you." it felt like he was looking straight through me with his milky light, pure blue eyes! He said "i love you" a lot too me, and he'd do strange things like sneak up on me on my way to class and hug me from behind. i remember one time he also slid his hand into mine and i was like wtf?! and he just giggled. he also put his hand on the back of my neck in math one day and said "you know you want to" motioning my head towards..yeah. haha. but i played these off as jokes. he's had several girlfriends in highschool, and now we go to the same college. I think about him a lot. And he's totally screwed up my gaydar. What do you guys think, is he most likely gay or straight?
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    May 05, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    He's horny.
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    May 05, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    turtlesour saidAnd he's totally screwed up my gaydar. What do you guys think, is he most likely gay or straight?
    And you've probably totally screwed up his gaydar; and he's probably asking the same questions about you.
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    May 05, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    oh, small detail I forgot to mention. during beach week, i walked out onto our top porch slightly tipsy (no one else was outside) and i see him walk up the stairs wasted and he comes up to me and hugs and kisses me on the neck. i made my wtf expression again and he said "you know you like it". what the hell is going on?! haha
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    May 05, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    Dude, just get him alone...like ask him to hang out with you someplace that nobody else will be (go for a hike or airport restroom or something)...then bang him like a screen door in a hurricane. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 05, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidDude, just get him alone...like ask him to hang out with you someplace that nobody else will be (go for a hike or airport restroom or something)...then bang him like a screen door in a hurricane. icon_biggrin.gif


    haha oh i wish. two things though: he has a girlfriend right now (apparently from what i hear she is VERY controlling), and secondly he'd probably the one to bang me. we're both masculine, he's just usually the one that scoops me up and all. Actually saw him at his frat party this past weekend, he ran to me when he saw me and completely picked me up and ran around. later i saw him in the dark dance play making out with a dude (they were just pretending to kiss, then laughed it off afterwards). his girlfriend was present. really don't know what to make of any of this. but i feel like i should since i can't stop thinking about him
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    May 05, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    girlfriend = coverup
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    May 05, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    I think something that's often overlooked is that men, even straight men, have urges to bond with other men. Couple that with raging hormones leads to guys doing stuff like that. It doesn't mean he's gay and he wants to fuck you and then marry you. It means he's a guy full of hormones acting out on them.
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    May 05, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    It does seem odd, he could just be really comfortable with his sexuality or perhaps enjoy a nice bromance. Either way you can try & get him alone with you and see if anything happens.
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    May 05, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    tl;dr

    just blow him & get it over with, then move on to the next one
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    May 05, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    i_VAN saidtl;dr

    just blow him & get it over with, then move on to the next one


    While I'd definitely appreciate this opportunity, not sure I really want to live life with my legs open and heart closed. Haha
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    May 05, 2011 6:31 AM GMT
    i_VAN saidtl;dr

    just blow him & get it over with, then move on to the next one
    Sooooooo fucking true! icon_lol.gif
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    May 05, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidI think something that's often overlooked is that men, even straight men, have urges to bond with other men. Couple that with raging hormones leads to guys doing stuff like that. It doesn't mean he's gay and he wants to fuck you and then marry you. It means he's a guy full of hormones acting out on them.


    This. I have a straight friend who does the same thing - saying "I love you" (it's usually "I love you, man") and always creeping up on me to give me shoulder massages.

    I'd say just enjoy it for what it is - a straight guy being affectionate without wanting to get in your pants. It's actually really nice to be able to bond with someone like that without the sexual tension hanging over your head.
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    May 05, 2011 1:27 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidHe's horny.


    yes, but is he gay? we're all horny but that doesn't mean that I wanna have sex with girls ;p
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    May 05, 2011 1:27 PM GMT
    Just curious... come into your closet? You're not out yet?
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    May 05, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    If you're not out yet, why don't you make him the first person to know and see what happens from there?
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    May 05, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    Hey, have fun in the closet. Come out when u are ready hehe!
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    May 05, 2011 1:43 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidDude, just get him alone...like ask him to hang out with you someplace that nobody else will be (go for a hike or airport restroom or something)...then bang him like a screen door in a hurricane. icon_biggrin.gif


    haha oh i wish. two things though: he has a girlfriend right now (apparently from what i hear she is VERY controlling), and secondly he'd probably the one to bang me. we're both masculine, he's just usually the one that scoops me up and all. Actually saw him at his frat party this past weekend, he ran to me when he saw me and completely picked me up and ran around. later i saw him in the dark dance play making out with a dude (they were just pretending to kiss, then laughed it off afterwards). his girlfriend was present. really don't know what to make of any of this. but i feel like i should since i can't stop thinking about him


    OK, here's the deal,,, are u afraid that u may make a move and find out he was trying to crack u up to tell him u want him and then he blows u away???

    Or u don't wana make a move and find out he's not gay and things will turn ugly and u will not see him again?

    Or u dont wana tell him so that u dont become the one who made the move??
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    May 05, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    ohhhhhhhh
    sorry i didn't know ur in the closet yet!!
    just makes what i said above nonsense!!

    I apologize! Maybe u can do as he did with his friend before his girlfriend and pretend to kiss him and u'll see what happens next, just chill man and act cool!!!
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    May 05, 2011 1:50 PM GMT
    I have my straight mates saying I love you and giving me affection without any of the horny vibe. We just care for one one another.

    Why ten days back. I straddled over my friends butt and gave him a back rub.

    He was cutely saying, are you going to go down my pants now....I didn't even spring a boner because it wasn't even meant to be a sexual tone....

    I wuv my Shah Shah icon_lol.gif
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    May 05, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidHe's horny.


    Makes 3 of us icon_eek.gif
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    May 05, 2011 5:16 PM GMT
    A good friend of mine recently passed away in a car accident, but he did the same. Told me he loved me, got close and acted like he was going to kiss me, massages, etc. It's just friendly male bonding. Maybe TOO friendly, but that's all it was. He did it to make me and others laugh. I was out then, as well, so it wasn't a secret.

    I really wouldn't pursue this guy. He's probably straight.
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    May 05, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    IS HE GAY OR EUROPEAN??



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    May 05, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    turtlesour saidIn highschool, there was this guy in my math class and the way he looked, the way he acted, just everything about him, I completely had a major crush on him (we rarely ever talked/interacted, though). Starting junior year, we started sharing the same group of friends, and we had a lot of the same classes. He would always come up to me in this cute goofy way and would look me straight in the eyes and say "I love you." it felt like he was looking straight through me with his milky light, pure blue eyes! He said "i love you" a lot too me, and he'd do strange things like sneak up on me on my way to class and hug me from behind. i remember one time he also slid his hand into mine and i was like wtf?! and he just giggled. he also put his hand on the back of my neck in math one day and said "you know you want to" motioning my head towards..yeah. haha. but i played these off as jokes. he's had several girlfriends in highschool, and now we go to the same college. I think about him a lot. And he's totally screwed up my gaydar. What do you guys think, is he most likely gay or straight?


    I just recovered from the impact with the WoT(wall of text)... so icon_razz.gif

    I'd be inclined to say he's straight.
    One way to figure this one is for you to be the bold one for a change and notice his reaction. If you don’t have the guts to do it, then forget about him and move on.
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    May 05, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    Does he say and do these things to you while others are around or not? If others are around, then he's probably just being playful with you. Or playing with you because he knows you're gay (though you haven't revealed) and he's egging you on. If it's when no one else is around, then it might have more meaning.

    At the end of the day, you can't really tell. the only true way is to be honest and open with him and see what his reaction is. Not saying you should convey any attraction or anything to him, but maybe be truthful to him about your sexuality, then see what happens.