When is too soon?

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    May 05, 2011 7:13 AM GMT
    Ok of course I am kinda tipsy blah blah blah.

    Of course there is a guy that I am totally dumbfounded by and of course we stare at each other over and over throughout the nights he comes to the club. I have tried to approach him but he is totally timid. Soo, I talked to one of his friends and totally got him to put in the good word that I wanted to jump his bones and cook him breakfast in the morning on a daily basis.

    Here is the problem! The friend is totally wanting to hook us up but tells me "He is kinda in and out because his twin brother (also gay) was just killed in a car accident about a month and a half ago, and he hasn't really been coping well.".

    I of course want to give the fucker a bear hug and take care of him now, but should the fact that I am sexually attracted to him even come into play?

    I don't know how to react...

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    May 05, 2011 7:37 AM GMT
    Wounded birds are a turn-on. icon_redface.gif

    If you have mutual friends, then plan to spend some time with the guy. You may need to do something as friends first and see if the guy is even willing to be dating at this point.
    Maybe lay your cards on the table and tell him that you would like to date him, but you understand (do you understand?) that the timing might not be good and he might not be interested in dating right now.
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    May 05, 2011 11:25 AM GMT
    Honeydew saidOk of course I am kinda tipsy blah blah blah.

    Of course there is a guy that I am totally dumbfounded by and of course we stare at each other over and over throughout the nights he comes to the club. I have tried to approach him but he is totally timid. Soo, I talked to one of his friends and totally got him to put in the good word that I wanted to jump his bones and cook him breakfast in the morning on a daily basis.

    Here is the problem! The friend is totally wanting to hook us up but tells me "He is kinda in and out because his twin brother (also gay) was just killed in a car accident about a month and a half ago, and he hasn't really been coping well.".

    I of course want to give the fucker a bear hug and take care of him now, but should the fact that I am sexually attracted to him even come into play?

    I don't know how to react...

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    Won't the guy your dating be upset your trying to jump this others guys bones haha icon_smile.gif?
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    May 05, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    Hey Melon icon_biggrin.gif (my lame attempt to be funny lol)

    What do you have in mind and what are you ready for? You said you want to cook him breakfast on daily basis, but for how many days? If you're into a LTR with this guy, I think it's the perfect timing to get to know him more. I wouldn't take advantage of the fact that he is grieving though. Form a lasting connection first as friends and see where it goes. I would be careful though because it sounds there might be some obstacles ahead.

    If you're just into a quick romance with this guy, then I don't think it's a wise thing to get into. The poor guy lost his twin bro and has gone through enough already, don't break his heart too icon_sad.gif

    (hey thx for posting on my thread and being so nice to me. peace! icon_biggrin.gif )
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    May 05, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    Honeydew saidWhen is too soon?
    Before he buys my first drink.