Gay men, Sex and NO Sex....

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    May 05, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    A while ago I read this guy's profile on here and he said most of the men on Realjock, all they think about is sex. Perhaps I might be one of those guys that has sex on his mind all the time? Addiction? Not sure?

    It is clear to me that for some reason I can't seem to have a conversation with a gay man without it turning into how much I'd like to fuck/be fucked. I have tried and find it sort of like trying to eat a powdered donut and not licking your lips (You should try that with a donut sometime, it's harder than you think).

    Walking around today it dawned on me I have no gay friends - all straight. My challenge is I dont think I can have an intimate non-sexual relationship with a gay man. Id welcome having some close gay male friends. However, I feel that in order to bridge the gap and be closer, I'd need to have sex with them.

    Ay yi yi. icon_eek.gif

    Anyone else feel this way too?
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    May 05, 2011 11:17 PM GMT
    There are men out there who don't think about sex all the time?
    I've never met them (gay or straight).
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    May 05, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    It's perfectly normal to think about sex and guys all the time. What's not normal is when your life starts revolving around having sex with guys or trying to hook up with guys--for example, if you're constantly trolling Internet hook-up sites 24x7.
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    May 05, 2011 11:34 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidIt's perfectly normal to think about sex and guys all the time. What's not normal is when your life starts revolving around having sex with guys or trying to hook up with guys--for example, if you're constantly trolling Internet hook-up sites 24x7.


    think about it yes... but convert your thoughts into peeking and acting ... NO.

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    May 06, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidYup....been abstinent for 24 years (in 2 weeks) and I still think of sex pretty much all day every day (every 20-30 seconds or so, lol.)


    Handsome, you probably think about sex that often BECAUSE you've been abstinent for 24 years. At least when you have sex, there's a small window before the horniness comes back... at least for me, there is. icon_wink.gif
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    May 06, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    it's normal to think about sex

    why do not have any gay friends?

    is that like straight guys who can't have female friends because eventually they'll want to nail them? i always wonder if they don't have at least a few female friends they consider unfuckable for whatever reason
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    May 06, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThere are men out there who don't think about sex all the time?
    I've never met them (gay or straight).


    Pretty much with you on that (I may have known one)
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    May 06, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    Find some really ugly gay gays that repulse you physically. Then you can be their friend without thinking about sex with them-or if you do, you might vom. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 06, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    well all my gay friends are on the internet. i dont have any gay friends where i live. i havent even talked with someone i knew was gay in person.
    so i havent ever had sex, so i havent had the chance to get addicted to it.
    so when i talk to the guys on this site, i havent ever had a conversation about wanting to have sex.. never even crossed my mind..


    i guess if you talked to me, then you could finally meet a guy you dont talk about having sex with! hah
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    May 06, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    I have lots of gay friends. Most I have never slept with. Most I never would.

    A few I have slept with. The sex faded but the friendship grew.

    But as for thinking about sex with guys I get to know, I have learned from experience that generally it's better to keep the fantasies in my own head.

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    May 06, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    The average male 17-30 thinks about sex every three minutes, 30+ and it goes up to about 10 minutes.
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    May 06, 2011 2:47 AM GMT
    Not me.

    Maybe you think you have to have sex with these guys because you can.
    I think that just because I can have sex with my gay friends, doesn't mean I have to.
  • james716

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    May 06, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    I'm not generally very sexual. I enjoy it but it is not the first thing on my mind - ever. Ive had horrible luck finding guys who aren't as interested in sex all the time.
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    May 06, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    someone once told me that in the gay world, guys usually have sex first and then friendship develops.
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    May 06, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    shoombool_tala saidsomeone once told me that in the gay world, guys usually have sex first and then friendship develops.


    I heard that too. I was told that I was going about the wrong way trying to date using "straight" couple method: date first then sex. Apparently it's sex first, then date in gay world.

    I wouldn't feel very comfortable sleeping with someone I don't know. Maybe I'm too shy, so that might explain why I've been single for years.
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    May 06, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    shoombool_tala saidsomeone once told me that in the gay world, guys usually have sex first and then friendship develops.
    That's because we're properly trained, like the special forces: "Shoot first, ask questions later." icon_twisted.gif
  • james716

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    May 06, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    Sex first friendship later is why there's disease...just sayin
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    May 06, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    WHORES
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    May 06, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    mayBbignow saidTry not being on a forum that is so imaged based, maybe anonymous first?


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    May 06, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    It's easier when you're 100% top or bottom, then you can find others of your kind and there's no sexual thoughts. For me, when I find out someone's a bottom or even versatile, their hotness drops quickly.

    It does sound like you're using sex-talk as a crutch in interacting with other guys though, and it is good to learn to be more versatile (you just thought about sex when I said that didn't you?) in conversation. Talking about fuckyfucky is great, but it shouldn't be your only option.
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    May 06, 2011 4:23 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidIt's easier when you're 100% top or bottom, then you can find others of your kind and there's no sexual thoughts. For me, when I find out someone's a bottom or even versatile, their hotness drops quickly.

    It does sound like you're using sex-talk as a crutch in interacting with other guys though, and it is good to learn to be more versatile (you just thought about sex when I said that didn't you?) in conversation. Talking about fuckyfucky is great, but it shouldn't be your only option.


    i'm a top... unfortunately, you are all the way in kitchener and I am in oakville...

    wait... you made a thread about whether or not you want to join this site right?


  • shawn06

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    May 06, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidIt's easier when you're 100% top or bottom, then you can find others of your kind and there's no sexual thoughts. For me, when I find out someone's a bottom or even versatile, their hotness drops quickly.

    It does sound like you're using sex-talk as a crutch in interacting with other guys though, and it is good to learn to be more versatile (you just thought about sex when I said that didn't you?) in conversation. Talking about fuckyfucky is great, but it shouldn't be your only option.


    I have always wondered why bottoms dislike versatile men who are capable of both? If your still getting what you want I don't get it, it just means that they can do both depending on what the other guy is. I myself am nothing close to versatile but it is strange to me icon_confused.gif

    On topic, yea i get ya but where are you meeting these guys? Also it is natural to think about sex, if your attracted to a gay guy then obviously your gonna think that way. I myself have mainly straight friends but even though a lot of them are very attractive I don't think about having sex with them even for a second.
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    May 06, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    [quote]I have always wondered why bottoms dislike versatile men who are capable of both? If your still getting what you want I don't get it, it just means that they can do both depending on what the other guy is. I myself am nothing close to versatile but it is strange to me icon_confused.gif

    On topic, yea i get ya but where are you meeting these guys? Also it is natural to think about sex, if your attracted to a gay guy then obviously your gonna think that way. I myself have mainly straight friends but even though a lot of them are very attractive I don't think about having sex with them even for a second.[/quote]

    Most guys who claim to be versatile aren't into 100% bottoms but are perfectly fine with 100% tops. I don't know why that is but that's been my experience.

    To the op I sort of feel the same way.
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    May 06, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    Well, I love dicks and fuck/get fucked...wait, what was the question again?
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    May 06, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    PE_Teacher saidA while ago I read this guy's profile on here and he said most of the men on Realjock, all they think about is sex. Perhaps I might be one of those guys that has sex on his mind all the time? Addiction? Not sure?

    It is clear to me that for some reason I can't seem to have a conversation with a gay man without it turning into how much I'd like to fuck/be fucked. I have tried and find it sort of like trying to eat a powdered donut and not licking your lips (You should try that with a donut sometime, it's harder than you think).

    Walking around today it dawned on me I have no gay friends - all straight. My challenge is I dont think I can have an intimate non-sexual relationship with a gay man. Id welcome having some close gay male friends. However, I feel that in order to bridge the gap and be closer, I'd need to have sex with them.

    Ay yi yi. icon_eek.gif

    Anyone else feel this way too?


    Don't stress about it man, it's sort of like how a lot of straight guys only become friends with girls to get it in. Seems shallow when spoken in such a raw manner, but they do what they do and it is what it is.