so are there any psych people on here?

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    May 06, 2011 5:09 AM GMT
    I mean I know there are a lot of crazy people but I mean like people who work in mental health?

    Sometimes I get tired of hearing about peoples problems. I was supposed to go to the gym 5 hours ago when my friend came on to talk to me about her depressed boyfriend, then onto herself and then my other friend started talking to me about his brother who tried to commit suicide a few days ago.

    I'm glad I get to help people but fuck I do not want to spend 100% of my life helping other people with their problems.

    Also, if there are any people, do you notice that wherever you go your open and receptive nature can be smelled by crazy people. Whenever I go to a party someone will start talking to me and they will be like oh what do you do and if I'm feeling bitchy I'll be graphic but usually I just say "oh I work in the ER in crisis" and then they will be like oh "well I'm only here because whenever my boyfriend leaves me I cut myself"

    ...great.

    But then again I'm not the best person to bring to a party because most of my experiences are pretty hard core. I went to class the other day and the professor was like "why aren't you talking?" -- "Oh, no reason I was just talking to someone yesterday and they went into v-fib arrest right as they were asking me how bad their heart attack was so I had to give a precordial thump + CPR and they died anyway" -- "Hows you?!"
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    May 06, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Yeah I am often the person people vent to.. I dont mind though, sometimes I need to vent back
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    May 06, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    Now you know why therapists charge so damn much. icon_wink.gif
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    May 06, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    I'm a therapist.... finishing up my doctoral in Clinical Psych next year. So TECHNICALLY I'm not a "Psychologist" yet... but I work and have clients and do psychotherapy and all that jazz.

    I think its important to learn your boundaries. At some point you have to be YOU, and step outside of your role as a therapist. It helps to find some friends who are relatively stable. lol.

    Sadly I've found that as you get to know people their problems tend to come out.... lol. I guess I am lucky in that, in my head, hearing people's problems really doesnt bother me. I have a high tolerance for it and I guess its because I get a lot from doing what I do. Only a few times have I left feeling super drained or annoyed, and its usually with a client who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

    In any case..... Boundaries. Learn to make fun of yourself and say, "Therapist ______insert name here_____ is only operating from the hours of 9-5!" Listen for a bit and then maybe excuse yourself, or say that you would like to talk with them later. There are ways to set a boundary that are tactful and which still communicate that you care, but you cant always be "on."

    Also, self care. Do something... OFTEN... that's just for you and no one else. Whatever you love. Whatever relaxes you.

    Helps also to be well AWARE of your limits and try to stay AWAY from them, rather than seeing how close you can come to the limit. If you are constantly straddling the line, you will be irritable and upset a lot.

    Lastly..... maybe see a therapist of your own? Therapists have therapists. I had one for 1.5 years. Was really good experience, I learned a lot about myself, about therapy, and I got to ask practical questions to someone who was in the field for 20+ years.

    Hope that helps!
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    May 06, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    I`ve worked in psych for 15 years as a psych nurse in Canada. Best advice I can give is not to play therapist with your friends. It`s one thing if you are having a casual coversation about things going on in your life, but quite another if they are coming to you with every problem. Some people need more help than you can give them and it`s perfectly acceptable to say to the person that you would like to talk but not have them dump all their problems on you. It`s never good to have a friendship or relationship where one is playing the role of the therapist for the other.
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    May 06, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    People come to talk to me and vent. I am in college and just started taking General Psychology. But that isn't my major. And I wish I could have a few sit down sessions with ZbmwM5 and get my brain straightened out
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    May 14, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    I am in Psychology as well; however, I am on the 'positive' side. Studying Industrial Organizational Psychology so I don't get to hear that much about people's personal problems, but I do get a lot of complaining about coworkers and bosses.
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    May 14, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    Usually friends are the ones who come to vent to me, although I do vent to a few friends from time to time. Though when one friend sees one way and another doesn't see the same view they usually come to me to get the perspective of our other friend acting as a mediator at times. Or so a friend could get some advice on some matters. this semester for some reason people have been coming to me with their problems, like one friend and her marital problems and she's trying to figure out what to do about it. Or another friend and her problems with this guy whose an ex, but she still has feelings for even though he didn't treat her right, but seems to be doing so now. Or a friend who doesn't know if he should stay with his current girlfriend or go after this new girl he's interested in although he loves his girlfriend but hates how she's been acting towards him for the past few months. Or trying to provide a friend relief from thinking about her mom whose sick (with cancer) but not exactly deviating from reality too much. I can also use my psych knowledge to pull things out of them and that way become closer with them and well my other friends too.
    It's stressful on me since well I have all their baggage and then add it to my own (school, family, social, coming out to certain ppl, and lack of a dating life) baggage well it becomes crazy stressful. The thing is I know how far to go, what i can handle from them and what I can't. I'm not saying that every time I see them I always psycho analyze them we actually have fun. But in truth I don't think i can see myself doing anything else in my life, I want to be able to help people with their problems since I love it. I want to be the shoulder to cry on if need be for my friends, I want to listen to them if they have no one else to listen to (since I know they or most of them would do the same for me if I need it). yeah some days I'm like not in the mood for it, and I'd tell them but overall I love this stuff and well when I graduate from school I hope I can find the path I'm meant to take so I can help others. I love psychology.