Just came out to the first person ever.

  • Aus92

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    May 06, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    I was going out with a group of friends and one of then drove me home and on the drive home one thing led to another and I ended up coming out of the closet to her... It was fucking scary but in my drunk mind I just fucking did it...


    No jokes. Im literally scared...

    Going through high school I was one of those kids who paid out the gay kids (one was my best friend so it was never taken in offence) and all the time I know I was one of them...

    she was very accepting and since having many friends coming out in the coming times it was nothing new but I cant help but be petrified of the backlash of my past...

    Please... I just need some assurance... my hands are literally shaking... im fucking scared...
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    May 06, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    Congrats. You'll be fine, and life will be better once you are being honest with those around you. Takes a lot of work to censor yourself!

    Maybe, if some of those gay kids that you called out are around, you might start thinking about what you could say when you apologize to them, which would be a really straight-up and honorable thing to do.
  • Iakona

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    May 06, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    Congrats, and it does get easier.... now a days, people don't act that different when you come out to them....but I do agree that you may want to apologize to the gay boys that you gave a hard time to....
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    May 06, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    Congrats. Feels good right? It feels you are no longer carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. It gets easier I promise.
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    May 06, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Lol, omg. Serious? I get such a rush from coming out to people. I love yelling that I love cock and talking about hot guys with my friends. Society isn't going to eat you like a sautayed mushroom noodle soup, although I might eeat it? My point is you need to learn to accept yourself! Seriously, the closet is no place for a man. For instance, me and my boyfriend, he's in. I'm out. Go figure. I'm happier! Trust me! This is great for you! Just wait til you start talking about hot guys you like! It's so enthralling! You'll love it! Don't let society tell you what u r. Just cuz u like dudes doesn't mean you're a bad person. Relax, clam down. And enjoy coming out! And if you ever picked on a gay person in front of me I would fucking drop you like a cunt, don't disrespect on what u r to get out of your own hatred. Offence or no offence, we don't need our own kind taking us a step further back!
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    May 06, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    Congrats and just chill. Most of the time its not as bad as it seems. "As they say those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter." This is what a great friend told me when I told her. So just relax everything will be ok.
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    May 06, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidI love yelling that I love cock and talking about hot guys with my friends. Society isn't going to eat you like a sautayed mushroom noodle soup, although I might eeat it?!


    ROTFL. That shit's hilarious.
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    May 06, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Congratulations.

    I came out in high school. Yes people wrote shit on my locker, threw things at me, made every attempt possible to yell obscenities at me, vandalized my family's property, etc....BUT fast forward 10 years to our high school reunion.

    We all got over it. People change and grow up. I'd be a pretty miserable person if I held resentments towards hatred. We all contain ignorance.

    I think the biggest apology you could give is to be true and open to yourself.
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    May 06, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    Congrats man. I'm happy for you. Just remember come out to close friends first, and if they really are close to you, chances are they have been suspecting already. So the process is not as bad as you think. icon_biggrin.gif. Like someone else said up there it does get easier over time.
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    May 06, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    A "My Name is Earl" tour may be in order.
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    May 06, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    You should be scared, didn't you know that after you come out you die a week later?!

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  • husker1966

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    May 06, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    Congrats!....

    Its tough coming out... but they say it gets easier
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    May 06, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    What are you so scared of? Congrats on coming out, it will be good! Coming out might feel weird at first, but in the end you will be much happier. I actually came out last night to some of the last of my friends I haven't told. I felt a little awkward this morning, even though they were all amazing about it, but I just know I will be incredibly happier now that I can talk freely with them.
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    May 06, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    Congrats buddy! Relax and take a deep breath. You're on the right track. It becomes easier the more times you do it. icon_biggrin.gif